how comes i get really nervous when i go out anywhere?

Question

i had to enrol at college 2day and i felt really nervous.. i felt like i didnt wanna go.. it felt like i was going out of my comfort zone or sumthing.. i kinda get upset cause i fellt that im gonna have no one to talk to in my course .. if not that i just feel down in the dump..
i aint really been out this much year.. saw freinds now and then about once a month or soo.. tryed working.. but couldnt get a job.. kinda down also cause i been dating, but no luck yet and its been 4 years of looking : (

Answer 1

Well, it sounds like an overlap of anxiety and depression. Nothing debilitating, nothing to fear, pretty normal for what you've described. Some meds, counselling and good friends to lean on will help you. No fear, they will not put you on meds that will make you think weird things, or act like a zombie, they will help you get your emotions under control, and allow you to have control over your body that you do not have now, the panic and anxiety of having to go places, be around people, and the sort. Counselling will give you the benefit for being able to speak with a "life coach" if you will, and teach you the skills you need to be able to overcome your anxiety and be back to your real self. It will help you and you will feel so much better. Go to the counselling centre at your school and get the help you need to end your needless suffering. You can do it! Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Being nervous while registering for, or going on the first day, of college is common. I remember when I went to register... I was so nervous, I even had butterflies in my stomache! To make it worse... I went to THE WRONG COLLEGE!!! LOL, how do you think that felt, first going to the wrong college then driving accross the city to the right one, I even went up to the registration desk at the wrong place. EMBARASSING!

But things are great now! Once you start classes you'll make some friends, then you'll form a little group and always have SOMEONE to at least chat with. Just be yourself, open up and be friendly! Most peeps in college are cool, it aint like high school... no one really picks on you. At least no one where I go. After a few weeks you'll be in the ZONE! Just keep your head in the books and stay on top of your work, things will fall into place.

Believe me, you'll be fine! I know what it's like and IT DOES GET BETTER!

... on a side note: There a PLENTY of dateable peeps in college! Just don't rush into asking anyone right away, wait a bit until the feeling of 'newness' goes away for everyone. You'll have a better chance because peeps won't be as nervous and they'll open up a bit more!

Answer 3

First of all you are making a big step by going to college, believe it or not college brings out peoples personality. You have been under your parents wing and now you are going to be making decisions for yourself. Everyone is nervous about college it's your first step for freedom and independence a good one as well. Second of all maybe you just have low self esteem, and if you can admit that you are having an issue outside of the house then you can certainly fix it. You will probably make friends in college because it is a place where you are pretty much forced to interact with other people whether in class. This will be much easier for you now because you choose a career and where you want to go in life. Then bam you find people that share the same interest as you and you form relationships with the opposite sex then your set. Just give it a chance and try to loosen up.

Answer 4

Hi,

It's been 4 years since you've gone out on a date? I used to go through the same thing (about getting nervous and anxious, mainly around people), but I realized that: (even though it's easier said than done)

1. Life is too short, BE HAPPY (what else is there to do?)
2. Your paranoia is not real, you've made it yourself, it's all in your head.
3. You are beautiful, smart, u have to tell this to yourself everyday.
4. Think of all the good things you have in your life, and then think about the unfortunate people in all those third world countries who have nothing at all compared to you.
5. Give yourself hugs, kiss yourself (yes it sounds silly, but it works) hug your inner child, tell him everything will be allright and forgive yourself, others and your past.
6. Live in the present, be yourself in all situations of life (people usually feel attracted to others who are always themselves)
7. Smile from the inside out.
8. Hug your inner child a bit more (start telling yourself how much you are worth, how wonderful u can be to yourself and how much you can help others, sometimes we feel depressed or anxious because we r being selfish and we think too much of ourselves, get out there and help others!!!)
9. Be genuine with everyone you meet, say an honest hello, give an honest handshake, a sincere hug etc...people will feel your natural, positive energy instantly.
10. Read a lot of Self Help, Spirituality books and you'll understand a lot of the things that are causing you to be so afraid and you will learn why u created them in the first place, and you will bring all the joy, bliss and happiness you have been searching for all these years.

Good luck my friend!

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel man. I have had the same feelings before. It's most likely a fear of failure. when you said "it felt like I was going out of my comfort zone or sumthin'" That's exactly what it is. You got to get up and out!!!! no matter what you run into, the first time is the worsed but the second will always be better. I don't think it will ever get easy but it's what life is all about. Good luck man!

Answer 6

I myself get nervous over things like that. I used to be even worse when i was younger. Its called panic attacks. Its sort of like the fear of not knowing what could happen paralyzes you for the future. I know it is normal to nervous about things, starting college is a big step. I have been in 3 new schools before in my life and am transferred to a new university in a different province. I myself and nervous but have learned that what will happen will happen and i am always myself by the end of the day. My family/friends will be there for me and if people have a problem with me that is their problem. Remember, at anytime you can leave the situation if you feel REALLY nervous(go home from school early)....knowing that makes me feel better. Just take things one step at a time.

Answer 7

You need to be confident and friendly. I mean it's very normal to feel nervous; going to college is a big step for some people. You need to learn to be comfortable with who you are. Tell yourself that you are confident and tell yourself that you will be friendly when you are approaching a social place. Do not start to analyze yourself; if you feel yourself daydreaming or kind of cocooning yourself; it's a weird sensation ive had it before. Try to wake yourself up as you do that and think about everything around you. If you are really nervous tell yourself that there is more to life that what I am confineing my mind to. It's a hard concept but if you really work at it you will feel more ...with it. lol. I hope I didn't confuse you too much.

Answer 8

It sounds like anxiety, you should go and talk to your doctor. The doctor will know some of the signs and can refer you to a counselor. There are medicines to help and sometimes just having someone to talk to about it works as well. Once you get the help you need then stuff like school, work, friends and dating should become more managable. Good Luck!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

sorry i have to kind of disagree with a few other answers it all depends on how you feel about yourself you don't have to be afraid you choose to be afraid it is all your choice you must decide what you want and how you want it and then act as if you are it in other words decide that you are outgoing and one evening go out standing high and act as if you are the most bubbly person and it will all change. same thing with the job you choose you want a job and pretent as if you work and persue your goal - don't let in any negative thoughts. you obvously have been thinking negatively about getting a job

its all you. this is the way i got my first car and i got it at 14 I'M SERIOUS it all depends on you.