Im friends with a guy in work and weve just started going to lunch together. He has a gf so its purely platonic but i worry bout going to lunch with him as people are always making remarks like oh what u 2 get up to and stuff like that. It makes me embarrased but dont want to lose a friend or have to hide him
2007-09-05 02:57:55 · 18 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The other people you work with are probably jealous and trying to wind you up... they probably don't really think there is anything going on but then the only people that really matter in this situation is you, your friend and his girlfriend... if all of you are happy with it, then it really doesn't matter.
The only point that I can see this becoming damaging is if he is keeping this a secret from his girlfriend and she finds out...but that would be his fault not yours. The key thing here is to be honest with his girlfriend and to keep your intentions honest....
2007-09-05 03:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you don't fish off the company dock and he knows it, I don't think your friendship should be any one else's business. Unfortunately, what "should" be and what actually is are different. Realistically, you need to be aware of company policies and politics if this job is anything more than a stop-over. If what others think worries you, casually invite a variety of other people to accompany you (today the girl in the cubicle next to you, tomorrow the guy who works on a project with him). They can see that lunch is just lunch, not a nooner, and keep your back if anyone starts sniping. Results: You enlarge your circle of friends, and there are no misunderstandings about what you two are "up to" at lunchtime.
2007-09-05 03:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Arby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds distinctly flirty and not particularly concerned with how faithful he appears, perhaps the remarks made by collegaues are more directed at his demeanour / reputation rather than anything you are doing.
If this is the case, ask yourself how unfounded they are. It seems to me that you have concerns about what sort of person he is and about how legitimate this would appear to an outsider. You need to reconcile all of this and not use Yahoo as a stand in for your own moral compass!
2007-09-06 02:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap! I get the same thing.
My colleague is married and his wife is expecting their first child. I have no attraction to him whatsoever. He's a nice guy and we are just friends and colleagues who work together but whenever we are talking other girls will walk past and say 'Ohhh put him down will ya' and 'Ohhh going to lunch with ___ again are you, must be love!!'. They never listen when I say WE'RE JUST FRIENDS'.
I say, as long as you and him KNOW that there isnt anything else involved, keep having lunch with him and enjoy his company - Screw them!
2007-09-05 03:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by buff1ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it, both of you know the truth and that is all that matters. I have lunch with a guy i work with, and there is nothing in it. so dont worry about it.
2007-09-05 03:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, maybe if your bf works close to you, you can talk him into going to lunch with you and your guy friend. Parade your boyfriend around the office and leave visibly with the both of them. "Things" can hardly be going on with your BF right there now can it?
2007-09-05 03:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's tryin to get into your pants. Guys don't have platonic freindships with girls. Any bloke who says otherwise is lying and is really just playing the long game to get into your pants.
2007-09-05 03:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them that your just friends & they're being chldish about it. Many collegues go for luch together, they wouldn't comment if it was a girl
2007-09-05 06:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by sparkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine. Don't let other people's stupid comments scare you away from a friend just because he is a guy. Do what you want.
2007-09-05 03:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the remarks, or just wink and smile and let the gossipers think what they like. It is NOT your problem, it is theirs.
2007-09-05 03:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋