I suddenly feel like crying! WTF is wrong with me!?

Question

no matter how happy i try to be there is always something that will bring me down during the day but today nothing out of the ordinary has happened and it's just suddenly come over me.

i thought maybe that it wa to do with the fact that in sept 05 i had an abortion, but it's not a guilty feeling like i normally get, it;s just a lump in my throat.

I'm in work for another 2 hrs, what can i do to make sure i dont cry?

period not due for anoth 2 and 1/2 wks

i dont drink because i have IBS and alcohol really aggravates my stomach so its not that!

yes the father knew about the child and was supportive until the day after the op and has called me rotten ever since.

i have been to counselling but it wasnt for me. but i also dont want to go on anti depressants.

i have been on the pill for nearly 2 months now and it seems to have lessened the problem and i am less often depressed now than i was before.

it's been so long since i've felt like this, i just feel lousy now :'(

i just want to be the happy person i was before all of this happened.

it's not the menopause im only 19! lol

Answer 1

ValleysRabbit you have been given the tools to help your self.Now its up to you to act on them. Its been 2 yrs since your abortion. Your only 19 , just a babe in my eyes. Your present BF has problems as well. Your not getting sexually satisfied and the intimacy you need, your not getting.

Please stop, take hold of yourself, get off the merry go round & seek the one on one professional consel you obviously need. Go to A free Family Services Centre that has all sorts of ppl to help you sort out your life. Your too young to be living like this , so sad, unhappy, and fearful.
If not sure what I mean about a Family Services Centre just go to your MD or A Day Clinic or To Emerg Dept and relate to them what your needs are and how you need to cope better & ACCEPT the help girl .!

I see your name here every day its getting almost to be like a whine.

Sorry but get off your butt and get the help. I dont want anything to happen to you when you have the power in your own hands to help yourself , just the way I explained to you.

Sometimes us medical ppl just have to get firm & shake ppl up a bit to help them realize they are their own worst enemy.

So dont procrastinate ValleyGirl get professional help & NOW.

From a concerned and caring Nurse ...... hugsssssssss

Answer 2

Oh sweetie I feel like this all the time and I understand how you feel about the abortion I had one recently and am due to have another one. I find it hard to cope at work too and a couple of times I have just broken down in front of customers even though it's not preffessional, do you know what, I've made some bloody good friends because of it. Just go to the ladies for a minute and have a good cry, you will feel much better. My hormones are all over the place and I think it is absolutely fine to feel like that every so often xxxxxx

Answer 3

Five years from now you will be happily going about your business having not thought about him in ages and suddenly you will see something and suddenly it will hit you again. Ending a relationship is exactly like a death. Just because they are gone does not mean that from time to time you will not remember them - good times and bad. All the feelings come flooding back, the love, the pain the anger. You are not betraying your boyfriend only going through the natural process of getting over someone who was a big part of your life. With time the periods between these meltdowns get longer and longer but this is a man that you loved so you will probably never forget him. I doubt you miss a man you treated you so badly, what you miss is the thought of what could have been if things had been different. Its okay to have these feelings but then in the same breath thank your lucky stars you got away because then you wont have met the lovely man who you have now.

Answer 4

Yes sweetheart, it could still be feelings associated with the abortion you had but it could also be the pill, or all the things that are going on in your life right now. I know you don't want to go on anti-depressants and I admire that but possibly a few months of 'Lustral' may help you considerably. These tablets are serotonin re-uptake inhibitors and will elevate your mood, increase your physical activity levels, restore your interest in life generally, make you stronger mentally and able to deal with much more without feeling so sad. They are not addictive and often prescribed for people with SAD [seasonal affective disorder], which is brought on by lack of sunlight. You will need to get them on prescription but that shouldn't be a problem. A great many people suffer from SAD and there is a huge amount of information on the Internet about this disorder so have a look. I have the same problem - but I moved to Bulgaria from the UK and have had no problems since - we get allot of sun here.

Answer 5

You should see your doctor and explain to him/her how you are feeling.
You do not say how old you are or if you are on medication of any kind. Birth control pills could be the cause. Possibly a hormone imbalance.
It is possible that you are suffering from clinical depression. Do yourself a favour and explore the possible physiologic or systemic causes before settling for anti-depressant medication (been there, done it).
I used to have the same problem when I was younger (20's and 30's) and it turned out to be hormone imbalances. I sympathize with you. It is an awful feeling but help is available.

PS. I just noticed that you say you have Irritable Bowel Syndrome. This could be the cause as well. Please, go talk to your doctor.

Answer 6

I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! This used to happen to me all the time, and no matter how hard I tried to smile and be happy, something would set me off...
My doctor said it was my oestrogen level and prescribed me the pill to control it.
For the first few days I felt better, but deep down I knew the problem was bigger than the pill could solve. I started looking for things that could be leading to my violent mood swings, and when I figured out what it was, I realised that only I can control my emotional breakdowns and I stopped letting it happen...
I think you should look at the bigger picture and look for something that might be causing your mood swings. It could very well be your abortion that is haunting you, and if that is the case, I think you should speak to someone professional. Other than that, the only idea that comes to mind is nervousness... Did the father know about his child...?
Good luck:)

Answer 7

I know that you might think that that is a serious problem but people cry every now and then ... i mean even I cry when am alone but the fact is you should be happy to cry ... it shows that when you cry you felt bad for something which also means that you had experienced something really happy and nice before. and dont worry life is a roller coaster ride you will eventually be happy again but for now rejoice i mean crying makes you sad but you should also be happy cause that makes you feel human in a way and is a sign that you were and will be happy .

and please dont take things seriously and right now just think of a funny movie or eat something or talk to someone do anything to distract you.

Answer 8

Sounds like depression or to much alcohol intake.Think how your going to have a long soak in the bath when you get home
with a warm face flannel over you face.No matter what anyone says.You can then imagine how many people will be doing the
same.While blowing bubbles from their cheeks.Then give a knowing smile and join them.

Answer 9

Maybe it is depression. Talk to your doctor. I have to take anti-depressants. I did something similar. The meds really do make a difference.

Answer 10

I HAD AN ABORTION AT 19 TOO. IT SOUNDS LIKE DEPRASSION. U SAY ITS NOT A GUILTY FEELING U HAVE,MAYBE U DONT NO IT IS,BUT I BET THATS WHATS WRONG WITH U. I HAVE BEEN THERE,I SAID THE SAME THING. HPOE U GET TO FEELING BETTER. IF U NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO,IM ME. IV BEEN WHER U ARE AT.