My partner is really stubborn and since we started living together, he's started treating me worse, like now he's got me (we're engaged), he doesn't need to try any more. He keeps arguing with me over really silly things, like if he doesn't want to do the dishes and i ask him to, he'll stop talking to me and refuse any contact with me until I give in and apologise to him for him doing something wrong. Or today I picked him up from work 5 minutes late so he refused to talk to me all day. I spoke to him about it and he said it's because he's stubborn and feels like he always has to be right. He said to let him know next time and he would stop. So I did, and he really did work on it for a while, but now he's fallen into his bad habits again (he was ok for about 3 weeks). He'll even go as far as threatening to leave or once he actually left because I wouldn't give into him. When I give in, he goes back to normal. What do I do?
2007-09-05 02:07:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know you love him, and I know its so hard to work out what to do. If you stay together, and then get married, what will things be like then. Picture yourself in 5 years, 10 years...do you see yourself happy in this situation? If not, you may be best to leave him. You don't deserve to be treated this way and playing mind games just makes you feel as if you are going insane, but you are not.
If you really love him and if he truely loves you, then try to talk it over more. If he truely loves you he will try to work a little harder at it and not make you feel this way.
I know its hard though, the head or the heart....and which is which...
Good luck, I really hope you can work things out, and I wish you all the best for the future :o)
2007-09-05 02:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Fi Massage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds terrible! Won't talk to you all day for asking help with dishes? Or picking him up a few minutes late? Geez, what a jerk. Move on!
2007-09-05 09:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by yomama23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to hit the road, and don't let the door hit him in the butt on the way out! You do not deserve to be treated like that, no one does! You would be better off without him.
2007-09-05 09:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by ♥chicks♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be time for a new boyfriend. These things never seem to get better over time. They just seem to get worse. Eventually he will break down your self esteem and you will become depressed.
2007-09-05 09:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you give in to him, it tells him that his behavior is ok. Do not give in, discuss the issue, and if a compromise needs to be made, then make it. If he is being unreasonable, refuse to give in.
2007-09-05 09:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously reconsider marrying this man. He is treating you badly. Go ahead with the marriage if you want to be married to somebody who treats you badly. If you want to be married to somebody who respects you and trats you well, marry somebody else
2007-09-05 09:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by tuthutop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is manipulating you, dont you see? if he is like that, can you imagine yourself being with him for the rest of your life? try to examine yourself if you are willing to be tied to him. and show your bf that you can stand up on your own... he might think that you are weak without him or that you need him the most. if he doesnt stop his ways, then you might consider calling it quits... (if i were you)
2007-09-05 09:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say goodbye, Gracie. This pattern leads to physical abuse. Dump him with extreme prejudice.
2007-09-05 09:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by John R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋