motor bikes?

Question

my boyfriend want to get a motorbike, but i don't think it's a good idea.

were in the motions of buying a house and are going to start a family in the next few years. obviously i wouldn't want anything to happen to him anyway but i feel even more nervous now because i don't want to be stuck with a mortgage i can't pay and a child if something does happen to him.

that ad on tv freaks me out aswell, the woman who has a young baby and is feeding her husband from a beaker cause he's crashed a bike and is basically a vegetable.

i told him how i feel but he thinks i'm worrying too much.

i want to put my mind at ease but theres just so many risks involved with bikes, isn't there?


am i right to worry or over exaggerating????

Answer 1

The ad on TV (I haven't seen it) is designed to freak people out. Are you right to worry? Of course you are. It only shows you care. Risks? Yes. But, there are risks throughout life. People still fall down in the bathtub, for example. Safety begins with the operator - always. As long as he is responsible and cautious all will be fine.

Answer 2

I recently, became a new driver of a street bike. ( I was bored being a passenger) Yes, it is more dangerous then driving a car. But accidents happen with both. Since your not starting a family for a few years, now may be the time to let him try it out. Maybe he will be bored with it, by the time you start your family and then maybe, he will just give it up on his own. I learned a long time ago, relationships don't work if you stop the other person, from trying something new.. But, make sure you ask him, to take the MSF course, even experienced drivers take it. I took the class and it also made me, more alert, when driving the car. In Pa. the course is free, so if it is free, maybe you should, take the course with him and learn the risks together. As far as the mortgage, you should have insurance to protect you, if anything happens to either one of you. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I was riding bikes before I got married. My wife married me and my bike when she said "I Do". I'm a careful rider and she knows it. Since we were married we've bought a house, raised two sons and I've kept riding. If your boyfriend rides carefully and acts mature, he'll be okay and so will you. You can't live life risk free. Have you ever thought that you could be in a car accident and your husband and baby could be feeding you from a beaker? Perhaps you should stop driving. I think you are over exaggerating. If he really wants a bike, and what guy doesn't, he will not be happy not having one. That's not a good way to start off a life together.

Answer 4

That's why I'm glad I bought my first bike when I was single. My fiance worries about me two. Motorcycles aren't too dangerous if you ride safe. It's everyone else you have to worry about. I've been in 2 accidents and neither one were my fault. I got rear ended once and once I went around a turn and all of a sudden there was gravel everywhere and my back tire came out from under me. I was lucky both times because bike crashes are 90% fatal. I'm not trying to scare you but it is definately something to think about. On the other hand, there is nothing in this world like cruising around on the open road on a motorcycle. I wouldn't give it up for the world. I tell everyone they should get a bike. But there are definately some risks to think about.

Answer 5

If you cant compromise on the motorcycle such as maybe getting a dirt bike instead you can think about getting something fun that the both of you can use such as a couple of used four-wheelers or jet-skies are allot of fun and more safe than a bike. Other than that bikes are not all that dangerous, just as long as he gets a good helmet and drives responsibly such as paying attention to other drivers and not speeding, and it depends on what kind of bike he gets too, some don't even go all that fast. So don't give it a for sure no yet, discusses with him and tell him how you feel, see what he says. And ask you self how does he drive his car? If he is like my boyfriend ( a speed-demon ) in his car, then he is more likely to drive a motorcycle that way too, but if he is a cautious driver then he will probably drive his bike like that also!!

Answer 6

this is something that he wants to do so come to a compromise. weigh out the pros and cons.talk about what your expectations will be if he goes ahead with it. things like:wear protective gear at ALL times, take a safety riders course etc. perhaps u could mention to him, although u don't agree with his thoughts, at least wait until the dust settles with the house.and then go from there.
****one thing to also keep in mind is that one day u will want to do something that he won't agree with and he would have to make a compromise with u. that's the way relationships should work. communication and compromise ( sometimes easier said than done but practice makes, almost, perfect)
i can understand your worry but life has so many curve balls no matter what u choose to do. enjoy it and do your best to make each other happy.

Answer 7

I ride bikes and it scares the crap out of me and my at home wife everyday, but I love it.This is really a touchy subject that you will never really get over. If he does get one, just make sure he goes to the 3 day course and gets his license that way. This will give him alot of knowledge and tips that might save his life. Like everyone else said, he could loose his life in many other ways. When you got to go, you got to go. Everyone falls once, make sure he gets all the proper riding gear and if he trys to leave without his helmet, smack him over the head with a hammer.

Answer 8

even though I still love to ride, I stick strickly to off road riding now days mainly due to the other people not paying attention to their surroundings... nothing against street bikes and I would still love to have one for weekend trips or piddling around on the back roads.

you can be seriously injured doing alot of things, bikes included. as long as he learns to ride properly, pays close attention to the other people around him and is careful, he should be fine ... but this is something that you need to discuss and work out prior to him buying for sure. any relationship has to have communication and give / take on both parties involved or it won't last. if you really have a great fear of him riding, stick to your guns and if he respects you, he will listen... but likewise listen to his side too and respect his wishes...

good luck with the relationship too!

Answer 9

You are not exaggerating.
Bikers are intrinsically more vulnerable,
and 'newbies` are far more accident prone
than experienced riders.
A big factor is the riders maturity.
If he's the type to get cocky and show off,
he's at risk.
If he's careful and methodical, he can have
an enjoyable and rewarding hobby.

Answer 10

hmms..i do ride a bike..
But i bealive every thing u do, do carry a danger behind. Jus how u face it.
Mus important is ..be more focus and careful in riding. There wont be anyproblem...

Tc..:)