why is this I try to get out of making love with my partner( females please )?

Question

I had a baby 9,5 months ago she is breast feed. my partner and I had everything in the way of making love going very will now hes the same but I just dont wont to I feel like I never can get in the mood It is bad because this is your time of showing our love for each other and he is feeling unloved can you help what can I do ho can I fix it will it come back ??????????

Answer 1

I know you didn't want a guy to answer but.. My wife and I went through this also. Iam sure your husband understands at least I did. I did start to get down because it seemed to last longer then i expected. You don't need meds!!! you just need to find the 5 min to look into his eyes. My wife didn't feel sexy so she couldn't get in the mood. Please remember this if you have a good man he sees you as sooo sexy. You just gave birth to his child your mothering his child and that the best feeling on earth. That extra weight or roll on your tummy he doesn't see it like you do. Remember he needs to be sexy with you too. Men do need to feel desired so don't do the " OK lets do it" deal that sucks. Let him come onto you and come on to him even if you have to pretend. It will get better it takes time. Keep in mind making love is a way of renewing your marriage it sounds like you need that right now.

Answer 2

This is a common thing with new mothers. Don't be ashamed of it alot of times its because of the chemical changes you go through after birth but sometimes it just because well you just plain tired. Talk to your doctor there are things that can help also try to take a break every now and then ask a friend of grandparent to watch the baby so you can have some you time. This is so important for your health and happiness. You love your baby and your partner but you have to take care of yourself too. good luck congratulations.

Answer 3

there are a zillion ways to be intimate with your man that don't include penetration.... remember when you were dating and couldn't be alone together for long?.... it's the same now.. baby needs you about the time you think about loving... so, quick and perfect is key........whatever else you do, lie down with him, be close, talk, dream, play, tease... masterbate with him watching or you watch him...you need the time of totally into each other so much.... if you really aren't turned on, this is where you TALK about it and explain to him that your body just isn't 'right' yet... all the while, you're in his arms!!... I think Nature kind of makes us this way for a year or so, in order to space out our kids.... so we don't have one on top of the last one..... but.....one of the most important things now that you can do for him is to complement his daddy-ing as well as his husband-ing.... he's the best and he needs to know it from you right now......................drag out some old memories of times when you had wild animal sex.... remember vividly how that felt.... you'll get it back.... promise.........just don't let this period of time come between the two of you ..... love each other any darned way you can.....

Answer 4

What you are feeling is completely normal,give yourself time,ask your partner to have a little patience and yes,if it's really bothering you,go and see your gp about it,you must understand that after having a baby the body does'nt go back to being the way it was,it's a big shock to the system so to speak,lol,best of luck,hang in there.

Answer 5

Their are meds you can take now for that. Not sure if you can take them whil nursing. But I know that when I look good, I feel good. Try fixing yourself all up for him before he gets home from work. You'd be surprised. Good luck

Answer 6

From what I understand breastfeeding lowers the mothers sex drive. I'm not totally sure why. I'm guessing it has something to do with hormones though.

Answer 7

have a threesome with your aunt. it works from time to time