me and my friend were suppost to go to the lake. so anyway, we had planned to go to the lake for about 1 week in advance. the night before i call her and tell her i can go at 12 b/c i have to work on a paper before. she wanted to go at like 10. but my mom wouldnt let me go unless i worked on the paper. so then i get a call the day of when we are suppost to go to the lake and it is my friend telling me she is sick. I believe it because she hardly ever lies to me. then my other friend finds out that she went with this one girl that she tells everyone she doesnt like and then goes and hangsout with her. my friend even admits to going to the lake with the other girl on the phone. my other friend called her and we did a 3-way but i was on mute. i heard from my friend's mouth say she ditched me for the other girl that she apparently hates. i know she doenst hate her. and i am just so pissed right now. this makes her a backstabber right? and what can i do? i was thinking of just ignoring her.
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9 hours ago
i cant tell her that i know cause i promised my other friend i wouldnt say anything (she was my friend that told me and helped with the 3-way) and by the way we are all sophomores.
2007-09-05 00:32:21 · 5 answers · asked by ♥i'm her♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she always hangs out with this girl when i cant hang out with her. my friend is normally nice, i just cant believe that she would do this.
2007-09-05 00:50:27 · update #1
I think I would let her know how this made me feel. Before you ditch her, I would tell her. Maybe she has an explanation and if you and she are truly friends, maybe the two of you can work this out. Friendships aren't easy to just let go. Tell her..I don't think she is as much a backstabber as she is two faced. If she has this character flaw, you might not would want her as your friend anyway. Its your call..YOu get to choose who you have in your life, maybe you can work it out and maybe you can't, who knows??
2007-09-05 00:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you've learned that the person that you thought was a real friend is really just an acquaintance. it's up to you what happens next. either you decide to give her another chance, or you move on. don't allow someone to treat you poorly on an ongoing basis. either she made a bad choice, and regrets it, or she wanted to hang with someone and isn't mature enough to understand patience and waiting.
if you have other people in your life that you trust, then you could just move on. however, if you are really intent on being a friend with this person, then perhaps try this.
get together, and ask how she is feeling. tell her how disappointed you are that the two of you didn't get the chance to go to the lake, and ask if there is a time when the two of you can try again. this time, make certain you mention up front that school work has to come first - it's the rule of your house, and is a condition of being allowed to go on outings like this.
leave it up to her to admit her wrong-doing. if she doesn't, drop it, but, if she does the same kind of thing again, just move on to other friends. if she asks you why you moved on, tell her, but in a kind way, so perhaps when she decides to grow up, she try to improve.
2007-09-05 00:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definately not. There are more backstabbing friends than any person could count, I've had a few. Either talk to them, or let them go.
2016-05-17 07:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch her immediately. She is a user of people. I know of one person in my own life, who used me and several other people, each one, after another.
2007-09-05 00:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bang her
2007-09-05 00:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋