My mum is dying of cancer and the doctors say she may not make it till christmas. I was wondering would it be wrong if i brought christmas forward a little. Last christmas we didnt know it might be our last one so i thought we could make it special. It would be as much for her grandkids as anything else . Do you think it would be ok under the circumstances or is it the wrong thing to do?
2007-09-05 00:06:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Thanks everyone i just wanted to make sure it was the right thing to do x. i just want to spend one last christmas together.
2007-09-05 00:17:46 · update #1
Angela - thanx babes.
2007-09-05 00:28:22 · update #2
I say do it! You will probably regret it if you don't come this christmas and she has already passed, god willing she doesn'r, but think how you'd feel if you didn't do it now! I think it's a wonderful idea :)
2007-09-05 03:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by ANGELA B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that sweetheart. My mum passed away in November when I was 9 and if I had the opportunity to do something like this I most certainly would.
It is not 'wrong' at all. I think it would be absolutely lovely and very special.
Also if your mum does get to see Christmas then you can just have two.
Don't regret NOT doing it - this is a very important time for you and your family.
Lots of hugs -x-
2007-09-05 00:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by *Sparki* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine, was diagnosed with cancer and was told she would not see Christmas, so her family arranged a weekend away for her and her partner and on their return home, found the house decorated for Xmas with all ,.they had Christmas dinner and had a great day. She left little meaningful gifts for all to open on the 25th December, she died in the August
2007-09-05 00:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by madge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Much Love so sorry about your mum
That would be a lovely thing to do for your mother and im sure she would love it.
Make sure you get loads a pictures & video then you you will beable to look back and know you made her last days full of love & FUN.
we did this for my Nan who passed on 13th dec, 7 years ago and i made all my uncles & aunts a dvd from the pictures & video. Now they all have that to treasure.
I often catch my 2 eldest children watching it and it means the world to me that they have never forgot her.,
xxxxxxxxxxxxx have a brilliant day xxxxxxxxxxx
2007-09-05 00:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It breaks my heart to hear you have to talk this way.But like you said under the circumstances, I don't see whay harm it will do and if you didn't how bad would you feel come December? I say go for it, let everyone enjoy it especially your mum. Make it that much more special. Take tons of pictures too!!!
2007-09-05 00:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your Mum. I think you should have an early Christmas but only of she enjoys Christmas, otherwise you could just have a family gathering and everyone makes a fuss of her, she would enjoy that just as much.
2007-09-05 00:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a lovely idea - family is a lot of what the spirit of Christmas is all about. Also, and I hope this doesn't sound too morbid or depressing, you will have a special date on which to celebrate the memory of your mother in future years.
All the very best to you all. x
2007-09-05 00:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by susie03 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a lovely idea and my heart goes out to all of u at this time. Whynot try and do as many celebrational things as possible so that she is there and when the event does happen then there will be a photo of her celebrating with u so it feels like she is there.
Make the most of the time and enjoy it.
All my love
2007-09-05 00:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by stacey f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its nothing wrong with wanting to see your mom happy and making her feel special on her "last days". Im quite sure your family would support your decision 110%. Go for it!
2007-09-05 03:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~>M3 N MY 2 GYRLZ<~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it, my mum passed away in november suddently and i wish we had spent one more xmas together or made the most of the last xmas if we'd know what the future held.
2007-09-05 03:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Francesca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋