I am in a great marriage with little drama and great sex and fun. We have money he works over seas and is home every other month. We have children and they are growing up and giving us the freedom to go more together. I know he adores me. I adore him as well. So why did i catch him in 2 comprimising possions with my homely sister? Why couldnt they explain to me why they were not fooling around? Why have they both lied and changed stories over and over? I felt that with every ounce of my sole that day. I know he is sorry but he will not own it or ask for forgiveness. As for the sister. She is out of my world. She put the lives of my girls their entire future at risk and She can stop it with the truth or a well planned lie. I have begged for the lie from them to end my pain. I only get "your crazy, you didnt see anything get over it". How the heck do you prove without a video? How can i make my self just forget it all? Help me with this please before we all lose!
2007-09-04 23:47:06 · 10 answers · asked by Sunshines_Gone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there, I know this is a hard time for you but I think you need to take a step back and think about what is going on. Firstly you don't need a video of them you HAVE seen them with your own eys and YOU are not crazy.Also sorry means owning it and asking for forgiveness so your husband is NOT sorry. You say that your sister is out of your world, why isn't your husband? How can you forgive this man and not your own flesh and blood? Of course your sister has done a despicable thing on you and on your kids, but your husband has done worse. Your husband though put your girls life and future at risk he chose to do this whether it was your sister or any other woman. You have made it easy for him by dismissing your sister, he can now look for someone else. If he cheats so close to home then whats he doing when he's away. You can't let it go because it's not resolved and your husband will not help you resolve it. I hope this helps and I wish you luck,,,
2007-09-04 23:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur gut feeling and dont let people tell you you are crazy. If you believe your husband is doing or has done something behinde your back confront him , and your sister to get some answers. This does not sound like a "great" marriage to me, lying and changing stories is a sign that they have something to hide. Make the choice weather u want to live a lie or face the truth and get the bottom of this
2007-09-04 23:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of questioning your husband first - ask your sister why she lied on you even after she being your blood relation. See make her understand first that now he (your husband) cheated me by having sex with you, it will happen to you also one day if you go with him (or married). A cheater will always be a cheater irrespective of whoever the victims may be. He wants pleasure and hunt for green pastures - now to me, then to you. Tell your sister to keep away from him for her better sake.
If he still continue the relationship you have no other way - part ways.
2007-09-05 00:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is that sleazy show called "Cheaters". They might prove for you. On TV of course. I did that for my divorce(no money). Called "Divorce Court" and got my piece of paper for enduring my 15 min of fame or infamy(depends on how you look at it). You say you money. Hire a P I to follow them.
I'm sure they'll be able to get all the gory details for you.
You know, you could call that show. Public humiliation might be a good start to some payback that you richly deserve.
So far, your taking all that BULL from them while they dis you behind your back. Your worth more than that aren't you?
Time to share some of what they've been feeding you. Let's see how they like the taste. Good luck
2007-09-05 00:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never forget about this...you will always be wondering... your marraige is not as great as you think or he would not have cheated =(... if he messed w/ your sister, he messed around while he was over seas, too! he keeps you around because of the great sex and fun... many men think if they can have fun w/ their wife and make them laugh they won't give up on his "cheating ways" =(... leave this man! he's a jerk! sigh...shame on your sister too! you all have already lost... and your children are not dumb, they know something is going on... your husband may "adore" you but he also adores others, too... go out and find a faithful man...
2007-09-04 23:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't let it go because they will not own up to it and be honest. unless he is willing to acknowledge that what he did hurt u there is no way your going to forget it. u saw what u saw, but they would rather say there is something wrong with u than to admit it. there is no way to get over something they won't admit, when u know in your heart it occurred. people lie because its easier to deny something than admit and have to suffer , they are trying to avoid the pain that will go with acknowledging it. they would rather say it never happened. unfortunately your trust has been lost here and its hurt the marriage and the relationship u had with your sister. other than divorce there is no answer other than some therapy. but damage has been done here and hurt has occurred, the people u loved most have betrayed u so it is not going to be easy to get past this especially when they won't admit it when u saw it with your own eyes.
2007-09-04 23:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to get the answer one way or another if you are sure of what you see then keep pushing till you get the answer, dont stop at all i mean if it was the other way round im sure they would be pushing so ush as much dont let it go get your answers from them, and stop asking for a lie from them you want the truth
2007-09-04 23:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if your husband adores you and loves you so much he wouldnt have been hitting on your sister wake up it takes two to tangle okay.
In your heart you know something was going on and thats all the proff you need he knows it to. get over it and move on if you want your marriage to work. your husband is guilty and i am tired of of hearing you blame your sister.
best of lluck
2007-09-05 03:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, that soundspainfull,, uve gotta live on and goota live happily.. u have to forget past,, either take it or leave it, dont shuffle in between,, talk to both of them and clear ur mind if u think they still lie,, then make ur rules.. and live ur life the way u wnat.. but hey always remember it might affect ur kids future in a big way,,,
god bless...
2007-09-04 23:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by statik_trance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage isn't as great as you think it is!! You are married to a cheater!
2007-09-05 00:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋