if someone cheats. would they do it again if they are realy sorry. to you give them a chance
2007-09-04 22:43:29 · 22 answers · asked by ben m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never take them back- they will always do it again.
2007-09-04 22:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by purpledeucegirl06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i do not believe that once betrayal has occurred that u can ever go back and feel quite the same about that person again. but many people have succeeded at it and gone on. just depends on the person i guess. depends on if u can end it the next time if there were a next time right away. problem is if u let it go and forgive they think they can get by with it. its something u can forgive but u never forget. if he did it again to u after u forgave him would u have the strength to recover from it or would u be emotionally destroyed by it. i would not give a second chance because one hurt and rejection would be enough pain to have to endure, maybe i am wrong but its just how i feel about it. because they didn't love u enough to talk over the problems that caused the cheating and chances are there would be a next time and it would hurt much more the second time around because u reinvested, forgave and hoped and than maybe your self worth would be so damaged that emotionally it would damage u twice as bad.
2007-09-05 00:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even let them(cheaters) have the opportunity to have it happen again. I wouldn't even second guess myself that they may not do it again, chances are that they will.
I haven't and never will take someone back who betrayed my trust in that degree. The value of trust can never be where it once was and that's a good enough reason for me to burn the bridge as it was weak to begin with, apparently.
Quite honestly, if my mate cheated on me... I damn well have the right to know, in case of a foreign STD or whatnot. Forget about secrecy or trying not to hurt me... they may have already tied a noose around my neck and I don't even know it!!!
Sorry, not worth the overall risk.
2007-09-04 22:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Grammaton Cleric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guy cheated 9 years ago, I took him back which was hard to work through but we've been together ever since without another cheating moment. Still don't trust him like I did and probably never will but we are together and it's not brought up and things are good, so if you want to try it one more time, go for it and move past it then if it happens again, you'll know its over and be able to handle it better.
My ex cheated every chance he got and finally divorced him after catching him 3 times, should of left sooner. Since then he's married 5 more times, lol. He loves women. So, even after going through that with ex I still gave bf another chance and he's been true ever since. Good luck.
2007-09-08 19:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by celinallll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never.
All that exists between a couple is trust. Once that has been broken (not just shaken - broken) it will never be the same again.
The person obviously doesn't respect and/or want to be with their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse or they wouldn't have cheated on them in the first place. I don't believe there's any way it can work out after that.
2007-09-04 22:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by CSE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say, "once a cheat, always a cheat." I don't necessarily believe that, especially if they ask for forgiveness and receive help. The hardest part about dealing with a cheater is the battle in the mind of the person who got cheated on. Can we really fully forgive? Can we accept the apology and not be suspicious in the future. If we can't, we need to move on.
2007-09-04 22:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by volkgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Cheating is a deal-breaker! You gave them a chance; they blew it! OUT THE DOOR!!
2007-09-05 00:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they cheat once, they could certainly cheat again. My decision would be based on whether I was willing to accept that risk.
2007-09-04 22:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is usually a reason why someone cheats. even if they say they won't do it again if what is broke in a relationship isn't fixed it will happen again. trust me, been there and done it.
2007-09-05 00:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatley the answer is a complicated one.... there are factors to consider such as the people and the relationship...
it is risky to take someone back once they have cheated but considering there are many circumstances sometimes it is ok, however, other times it is not.
2007-09-04 22:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I walked in on my wife and her boyfriend while they were in the act, they both looked at me, said nothing and then continued on as if I was not even there, I was so stunned I could not even say a word! Needlees to say I filed for divorce, life goes on lol....
2007-09-04 23:16:04 · answer #11 · answered by jake5282 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋