so i know that most guys look at porn and i don't necessarily have a problem with that...i've watched it on occasion too. however, i'm just wondering, is there a normal amount that guys watch or at what point in time would you classify it to be too much? just curious, my bf looks at it a few times a day every day....too much or normal?
2007-09-04 21:29:57 · 25 answers · asked by saraJ 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
just some fyi...we have sex pretty much all the time, so its not like he's not getting any....
also, he knows that i know that he looks at porn, but i don't think he realizes that i know he looks at it a lot....
the last thing that bothers me, after we have sex, and i'm spending the night at his house, he'll sometimes wake up earlier in the morning then me and look at it or maybe its in the middle of the night... kind of bothers me...so how do i handle it if the consensus is that its a problem
2007-09-04 21:38:44 · update #1
Sounds a little over the top, especially getting up in the middle of the night to look.
Best to just say that. You don't have a problem with porn, but you think he's a bit obsessed. Do it in a caring and loving way while you caress him better than any porn star and you'll get a much better and positive reception.
2007-09-04 22:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I find Porn boring once you have it once whats the point, I think you can classify having to much porn when it takes over from what other things you would normally do.
If some one wakes up first thing in the morning and has to look at porn and oat times during the day and evening I would class that as almost an obsession.
If the looking at porn takes place instead of making love to ones partner then something is seriously wrong
2007-09-05 18:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by john h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "normal" amount, but a few times a day, every day may be a bit excessive. He may be looking for something that he is not getting out of the relationship. Pornography should be something used to enhance the sexual experience between you both or as a release for him when he feels he can't experience everything with you alone. That many times however might be a sign he has a very, very high drive. Also look at whether he is just viewing the porn or actually using the porn to release himself sexually when he uses it. Good luck and remember not to lower your standards to satisfy him, it should be a compromise so you are both happy!
2007-09-05 04:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by steven_mcgloin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like to use the words "normal or "not normal" in this case, as everyone is totally different. You should think of it more in terms of "harmful" and "not harmful".
Do you find that his habit is detrimental in any way to your relationship, his health, or anything else?
If not, then everything is okay. He is not doing it too much and there is no need for worry.
On the other hand, however, if the answer was yes, then his habit may be classed as excessive and harmful.
If you find his habit harmful, you should bring it up with him - let him know you care, and that you are concerned that he is spending to much time watching porn. Make sure he knows you have his best interests at heart.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-05 04:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by The Bassline Libertine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its seriously a problem, normaly a man who had sex or make love it does makes the body contact which is makes a woman to be feel more wanting the time having it , so this issue about porn you watch with your partner is ok when it dont do it to much or even watching it all the time everytime turns in bed to make love actually it doesnt called making love its like to be more on sex actualy because someone who really love his/her partner it dont need porn to watch just to feel more into it , so your partner you need to talk to him is he feel the same way if you both try the way without porn to watch while having it, maybe he will say's no or yes it deffends on what he likes if its much easy for him to watch the porn to feel the edge to explode well better ask him why he much like it , or else maybe he wont feel that the same when he make sex with you without it. better see your friend and ask more info about it it would help you alot . but i didnt say watching it it doesnt mean it dont feel good anyway. it is feels good when quiet some time to watch it the porn because everyone do the same as you both, but not that much, basicaly its more on how you love it to have it and how you more enjoying it and making perfect the most of the night with your partner.
2007-09-05 05:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by First L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i dont think that there is a wrong or right amount that someone watches . what i do think you need to do is find out if it a patticular type of porn that he is watching , he may have a fetish . so even tho you have sex all the time he might not be getting what he craves. plus its a proven fact that men who watch porn at home are more loyal to their partners as the porn is stopping them look elsewhere. hope this helps get back to me if you need more help.
2007-09-05 05:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by chris c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys never watch porn like my hubby he has me and I am all he needs he don't even want to look at another woman I have his heart even when he is watching regular t.v if a ad comes on with a pretty girl on it I look over at him a he is staring at me sometimes he just stares at me and I ask him what what is it and he just says I don't see what it is you see in me but I am glad you are mine he is so sweet hope I did not make any one sick sorry!!!!! if he is watching that much porn he may need to seek professional help right a way not normal!!!!!! porn is the most addicting nun drug that you can get addict too!!!! good luck if he thinks he don't have a problem than you are in for a long Tough road til he can admit he has a problem that is half the battle but it is a battle in his mind!!!!!
2007-09-05 04:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no normal amount for guys to watch. Women maybe 3 hours a week or your just a freak. Guys can watch porn forever and it would not be enough.
2007-09-05 18:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by bigpoppapun33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its dependent on the guy. The time it starts to interfere with your relationship or his every day life is the time it becomes a problem :) He shouldn't be neglecting you and watching porn. But some guys just have a higher libido then others. I wouldn't be to put off by it. :)
2007-09-05 04:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Show time synergy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's like saying how much sex, or how much drinking, is too much. It depends on the people involved.
I guess the real question is are they addicted - can they get by without looking/drinking/f*cking?
If they can't, then they have a problem and should seek help.
2007-09-05 04:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋