I asked my husband if I am wearing a nice outfit today.?

Question

Guess what he reply. He says he cannot comment. So I told him if he cannot comment. Someone else will. He says its better for others to comment or else if he comments I will be high nose. What a remark! He is being selfish, & don't say nice things to appreciate me at all. I can be very attracted to others as people always comments to me. If I want to do other things behind him I can but I really don't have the heart. What am I waiting for when your own husband don't praise or appreciate you. I have been very patience though. What do you think?

Answer 1

So many husbands are like yours you ask them and they just look right through you. My husband when ever i would ask how do i look he would reply how do i look. I would answer him before he would answer me,his answer was always the same (you look fine).Don't take it so personal as long as you know you look good and others confirm that by their reactions when they first see you,you look better then your husband and he feel a little jealous that's all.

Answer 2

Your a woman, so I know how he feels. He is probably afraid to speak. Not to be rude but most women, there is no right or wrong answer. Im sure he paid you all the attention in the world at first and you thought he was the greatest guy in the world at first. ANd now you say things to him and your friends about how he is not the guy he was when you met. Well its time to blame someone besides him, and put some blame on yourself or at least look to find some. More than likely you have changed him. take a deep look at yourself, and think before you speak sometimes. look what you already said about someone else. You have a husband that loves you and is there right now, and you say something to him about someone else,or at least do it in a way wher ehe thinks that. He never said anything about finding someone else thats just a horrible to say to someone who is supposed to have and hold, for better or worse??? Maybe you should go find someone else, and let him find someonemore deserving.

Answer 3

many men find it scary to comment on how a woman looks because if she asks it means she has a feeling all is not right with her look. so if he said u look great u wd either have said "not perfect?" or u wd have pointed out sth u thot was wrong wi the outfit and forced him to comment then got mad if he agreed with u.

seriously tho u seem to have more problems than just the lack of appreciation and u are looking to justify having an affair. u really don't need people's approval to look good but u are looking for it so u can say that they make u feel better that ur husband does to justify an affair

Answer 4

I dress a lot nicer since my husband made a remark about me always wearing pj's (which is practically what I work in)..the thing is, he didn't change much to be more or less adoring or giving of his attention. I think what men want is women to be happy with themselves, but the other side of that that they miss is the part where THEY are supposed to be our main source of happiness. So, your husband seems to be opressing some of his feelings toward your relationship and you want to lash out by these flirtations to get his attention. I'm not trying to go all psychotherapist on you by the way - just telling you that it's what I would do too. Anyways, try dressing up only for your husband and telling you that you picked out your outfit just to please him and see if that won't change his mind instead of dressing for others who haven't seen who you are inside and out.

Answer 5

I think you deserve to get compliments from him. Any woman should get more than a million compliments a day from her husband. And visa-versa. A woman should give lotsa attention to her husband too. He's also a human being with feelings and feels good when his wife, the woman he married and loves, give him compliments. But if you do all that for him and he does'nt give anything in return then he's not worth anything.Why else did he marry you? Ask him that question, and if he can't give you an answer, he don't deserve you at all!!!

Answer 6

Ok, to be the best you can and let him know that nobody can be better than you, and for him to appreciate you, you need to do the following.

Get yourself some nice wrapping ribbon and a slinky outfit.

wrap yourself and make yourself a present to him.

wear a nice robe or heavy coat, and ask if he is ready for his present, then when he says yes, tell him to close his eyes. While his eyes are closed, take your coat off and tell him to open his eyes.

Enjoy the rest of your passionate night toegether and remember that you need to continue to do things that keep the passion there.

If he doesnt appreciate you after you give him the ride of his life, then you need to ditch him and find youself a lady friend who he can bust you with!

That will certainly shock him back to reality!

Answer 7

Well, I can tell from your wording that you were hurt and are tired of his lack of appreciation. I am not a great, attractive guy, but my soul mate always finds ways to make me feel special. Fortunately for me she is as beautiful out as she is in - so it is very easy for me to find things to appreciate about her. So - you have some decisions to make - like asking for couples counseling - and if he won't go - then individual counseling. And somewhere along the way you have to make that decision about what you are getting from the relationship. Good luck - hope your heart is ok.

Answer 8

What would you do if he said, "No, it looks terrible"?

When was the last time you told him he looked nice in something... unsolicited.

You don't really seem to care what your husband thinks - since you're getting your validation from these 'other peoples comments' - so that's probably why he doesn't answer.

That was nice of you to compare him to the other people that will... I'm sure that made him really feel good about himself. Why the hell would he want to make you feel good about yourself with that attitude?

Answer 9

what a BLOKE!!!! God what is it with these people? He needs a swift kick up the **** babe, you shouldn't have to prompt him for a response in the first place, he should naturally give you these compliments, I'm sure you looked lovely, but it kind of deflates you a bit with a reply like that, Explain to him how he make's you feel when he is like that and see what he has to say, maybe you need to have a long talk about deeper emotions? Good luck.xx

Answer 10

Let him know that it means alot to you to feel appreciated and wanted. You say that he feels if he says you look good instead of other people that it will make you snobby. Tell him the only opinion that matters is his. : ) Let him know that you think highly of what his thoughts are. I think there's an underlying reason here besides the lack of appreciation. If you can afford it counseling may help to identify what's going on underneath. Just a thought. : )