Have you ever wanted to teach a friend that was ignoring you a lesson?

Question

If so how did you do it?

Answer 1

Ms Crone, you seem to be on a certain track of mind here, today. If things are bothering you that much, wouldn't it simply be better to move on and not allow that person who's ignoring you to take your power away from you? By giving in to your feelings and trying to dwell on the situation is NOT doing you a bit of good. You are a much better person than that, you much wiser than that as well. You DO have other friends, as is obvious from the responses to your questions, and we do NOT want to see you give YOUR power away like this.

One more thing, have you voiced your concerns to the person who seems to be ignoring you? Have you told him/her how you are feeling? Have you given them a chance to explain their actions? It MAY be somethng that has absolutely nothing to do with you at all and they may be going through a rough patch in their own life that has them distracted for a while. Communicate YOUR feelings to them, even if it's just a one way communication at least THEY will know what's on YOUR mind and if THEY choose to do nothing about it then the problem is THEIRS and not yours. Good luck on this one.*hugs*

BB,
Raji the Green Witch

Answer 2

You should definitely not dump your bf but please have a talk with him. It seems as if there are some communication issues in your relationship that needs ironing out. Do not ignore him, it will not teach him a lesson. It's not teaching a lesson time for your relationship, but coming to an amicable solution by talking about specific issues. In your talk with him, try not blame him, but let him know how you feel when he "blew you off" without calling you, when he makes time for friends when he states he has no time for you etc. Tell him that you respect him and his studies etc, and would appreciate being respected too. Since your bf is studying, you both need to set specific times for being together. Set times where friends and studies will not interfere so that you both can completely enjoy each others company. Ask him to compromise so that once in a while (once a month or so) he will have a walk with you just as how you do things for him. Remember that communication is the key in every relationship and not the lack of it (ignoring, malice etc...) All the best to you.

Answer 3

I've wanted to slap them upside the head for being a lousy friend, yes, but ultimately, there's nothing you can do about the situation. You cannot force any type of relationship. I once went to the movies with a friend I hadn't spoken to in over a month and a half. When the movie was over and we were just hanging out outside the theatre, I mentionned to her that friendships take effort. I didn't hold back and informed her that if she wanted to continue our friendship, she would have to put forth an effort just like the other person (you know, actually CALLING once in a while?!)

And you know what? She just acted put out and inconvenienced by my complaints. So over time I said, "F'ck it. She's not nearly interesting enough to fight this hard for," and I simply dropped her.

Answer 4

You let them be! If they come back and are mad at you or even upset, tell them to pay more attention and all will be as it should be!