why do i feel like i make a better friend to girls than a boyfriend to them?

Question

idk i just feel like that's what i know how to be. i don't know how to be a boyfriend. just a really good friend, to give advice and be there for her. why do i feel like this?

Answer 1

I had the same "problem" when I was a teenager. I had little success in moving from friend to boyfriend. This was due in part to my own fear of rejection, and also due in part to the girl I was friends with. I didn't want the friendship to end just because I revealed deeper feelings, and the girl I was with either got tired of waiting on me to open up, or I just was not what she was looking for in a boyfriend. As much as I did not want the friendship to end, it eventually did. Most boy/girl friendships must move on -- either to a deeper relationship or to a casual acquaintance. It's very hard for this type of friendship to carry on.

To sum up, either be bold and speak your true feelings, or learn to deal with your friendships with girls constantly coming to an end. It took a few years after high school for me to learn how to be bold with my feelings and intentions, but once I learned how, I found myself a girlfriend and eventually married her.

Answer 2

maybe your not ready to be a boyfriend to them at this time and that is OK there is no real problem with that..

i am the some with the exception of my girl friend :) but the most of my friends are girls and there is never any issue with that from them at lest and i think that my girl friend has gotten used to this also but they are wonderful to have just as friends with no thought of anything alts, as they do let you in more so and you can learn how to be even better when you get a gf if you do wont one that is latter down the track :)

Answer 3

thumbs up for you. Friendship is the foundation of a good boyfriend relationship. That means you care, respect a girl, value her opinions, listen, etc. You are lucky, so many guys - teens & grwon ups- don't have half those virtues. Don't feel bad about it and don't rash into things, love is always something that comes when unexpected. Keep like that and always be a good boy.

Answer 4

You have to be a friend before you can be a boyfriend!!! The boyfriend part is something that with either grow between two of you or just come and go. The solid foundation is friendship first.

Answer 5

That's really sweet. You have to be a friend before you become a boyfriend or it doesn't work maybe she cares about you some times you just need to hope for the best. You should ask her out instead of hiding it from her. My boyfriend was my best friend for 5 years before he asked me out now we have been together for 4 years.

P.S. chicks still like guys to ask

Answer 6

well girls r kind of crazy and when it comes down to a guy they'll love to see him as a friend because most friends become boyfriends. and because guy r way better to be around then girl all girls do is talk guys have fun!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

because a good friend is much better! Boyfriends come and go, but good friends last forever!

Answer 8

seriously my first thought was that youre gay but then come to think of it just because its a girl it doesnt mean that you cant be friends and as more users previousy said most good relationships come from friendship first so it will ust come naturaly.if it doesnt then there are other fish in the ocean

Answer 9

hey chad, its nice to noe dat sum1 has such an approach towards girls. i as a gurl also would like to have friends who r boyz but not boyfriends. n don't worry , its gud to b like dat.

Answer 10

for me, you are blessed to be a good guy to girls and if they are in danger you'll ne their knight in shinning armor.

hey don't worry about it, maybe you just havent' found the right girl for you and always remember that FRIENDSHIP is the bridge to LOVE.

:)