I know that sex feels good, but have you noticed that some people can just have sex for just the physical pleasure of having sex....and others will have sex and will read loads into it. So what I'm really asking is, can you ever just have sex with no emotion attached to it, or when you sleep with someone is there always some sort of emotional attachments? I mean obviously having sex with someone (anyone) is because a person wants physical contact.
I know people can have one night stands (personally never had a one night stand).....but are they ever left wanting more than just sex?
2007-09-04 19:35:52 · 19 answers · asked by Darkchild 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
When you get right down to the nuts and bolts of it, sex is really a primal act and has nothing to do with emotions.
Humans are conditioned to attach emotions to sex, but if you look at most of the animal kingdom (of which we are part) very few treat it as anything other that a way to ensure their bloodline continues.
While I personally, am not into one night stands I don't think that people who are, are doing anything wrong. They are just being human.
Some people can separate the emotional and physical aspects of a sexual relationship and that is right for them. Other people cannot make this distinction and they are better to be in a relationship where not only their physical but their emotional needs are being met.
I think the best thing is to do what is right for you and not judge others for doing what is right for them.
2007-09-06 13:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Julie R 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Great sex has an emotional connection behind it... with both men and women. ******* is when there isn't any emotion involved. Often, people have sex without emotion feel empty inside without really knowing why. They see this as a way to fulfill an emotional void. And they wonder why they are unhappy. Many do not know this right away. It takes some time until they realize what they want. If you want sex without emotion and commitment, then you're really not that into them. You may like how big his crotch is or how curvy her body is, but it's all superficial. You can ENJOY sex without emotion, but at the end of the day you feel like crap. Even if you don't realize it right away. Leo moon 6H Aries Mars 1H Scorpio Venus 8H Venus conj Pluto
2016-05-17 06:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only a persons individuality that dictates whether they can cope with sex without emotions.
I have gone through many stages in life where I have either been in a committed relationship and felt that was the best sex ever because I deeply loved the girl I was with. Or:
The times when I have picked up a girl or been picked up by a girl purely for no strings attached sex and never seen them again, but still had a brilliant time.
The one I have difficulty dealing with was a girl who I started seeing regularly for sex on the rebound from a long term relationship. We both knew it was nothing more than sex, but we would meet up every Friday and Saturday night and then have nothing to do with each other until closing time the next weekend.
She did get emotionally involved and I told her she was better off with some one else and stopped it all as I was on the rebound and did not see her in that way. Much to my soon to be realised regret.
She went off and married one of my best friends and although invited I couldn't bring myself to go to the wedding and wish them well.
I guess in summary i would say best sex is in a committed relationship. It is possible to have a no strings attached one night stand. But, it is definitely not possible to have a no strings attached sex buddy.
P.S. I do now see the two who got married often and I know I was right to end things.
2007-09-05 11:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by steve 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the simple reason that it is in our nature.
Humans really are nothing more than just another species of animal on this planet, with the same built-in instincts as what you would find in, say, a frog or a tiger. The only difference that seperates Humans from most of the animal kingdom is that we have an intelligence that allows us to change and adapt the environment to suit our own needs.
Sex isn't any different, and like dolphins, sex is a natural physical pleasure that does not always need to be only for the sole purpose of procreation.
2007-09-04 19:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the Bible says that when two come together in that way, they join as one. Feelings, emotions, spirits, etc are transfered and shared. So even if you don't think you have an emotional 'tie' to the person you are sleeping with, you are taking emotional baggage and/or leaving them with the same...and you don't need biblical explanations to know that is true...
i personally never understood how people could do that. But then again, I was raised to wait for that one special person
2007-09-04 19:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by CaliGirl760 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a well known fact that men are more capable of using sex purely for physical relief than women. We women are the ones who want the relationship, the caring, the loving, then the sex which we feel is made better by all the the things in last sentence. Men dont require emotion for sex, us women do.
2007-09-10 08:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touching is not sex. Sex is not love. Yet love without sex or touching is only partly expressed.
You are wrong to assume that some people can have sex without any emotion. The emotion may not be part of a binding relationship, but it might be anything from lust to pleasure to sense of accomplishment to total confusion.
Our culture, with its negative bias toward sexual contact outside of matrimony and the ever postponement of marriage is mostly to blame. It tends to drive people into strange emotional mental places where feelings can be hidden or denied or imagined and glorified.
Add to this the desires or teens to pretend to be adults (most are not emotionally equipped) and you get our current social dilemma. On one hand, people who want the benefits of a long term bonding relationship without the bonding or the relationship. On the other hand, people who want (desire) a long term bonding relationship so much that every little physical pleasure is mistaken for True Love.
2007-09-05 19:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Richard 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Having sex releases oxytocin hormones, which can act as bonding agents during and after sexual encounters. Oxytocin is a chemical also produced when women give birth, to help them bond with the child. So, this chemical might have some affect on sexual partners feelings about one another, boosting trust and fostering a more long-term bond.
Women especially should be wary of the one-night stand, because our higher estrogen levels make our oxytocin receptors more sensitive. It is possible that, because we are more affected by this hormone, we will be more likely to find a sexual encounter significant and emotional.
2007-09-04 19:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is lust an emotion? Sex is great, even if it's a one night stand.
2007-09-04 19:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Nature since the cave man. enjoy.
2007-09-09 06:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋