okay hears a quick story i meat my boyfriend x mas day 2005 4 days later we sleep together.....9 months later we have a baby together it was just a fling that didnt mean to happen,i was 16(when got pregnant)17(when had daughter) he was 21,<
2007-09-04 19:25:16 · 6 answers · asked by bazoocablond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's under enough pressure as it is--I think you should lay off him. If his behavior is acceptable, why question his motives? If I were in his place your nagging would just alienate me.
2007-09-04 19:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously this was not the ideal way to get together BUT you can both grow to love each other. In the old days there were many "arranged marriages" where the bride and bridegrooms families arranged the wedding .. and the couple got married without even knowing each other .. and the marriage worked. You have one thing in common .. a beautiful child .. YOU have a lot of influence on your future, don't NAG him, instead be caring and loving towards him .. and he will respond. He obviously must care about you since he has not abandoned you and your daughter. Treat your husband in a caring and loving way and he will respond .. most guys just want a person who cares about them..stop with the confrontation..you will drive him away!!. I highly recommend Dr Laura's book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"
(see: http://www.drlaura.com/main/books_1.html )
..you can get this at any bookstore or Amazon.com
I wish you all the best with your life..
2007-09-04 19:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by MeInUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let other people make you do some-thing that you don't want to do. You are old enough to make this decision yourself. It is sad to say that most people your age do not stay together forever. You are still so young and have so much more to experience in life. You are both still changing and will continue to do so until into your early twenties. I don't mean to be nasty or hurtful when I tell you this. You can still both be good parents to this baby without getting married. I'm not against marriage either. If later on down the road you both still see this as an option and are still in love with each other then do so. But you don't and should not be pushed into getting married at this stage of the game. You must think about your baby and put that foremost in your mind. Please wait. With the very best wishes to you.
2016-05-17 06:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the whole thing started will Lust and not Love, which is not right in any way, and i agree with you that he is obligated to Love you, for the sake of the child, And that is how many relationships fail to work because we think it will work because of a child, if the love was not there in the first place, what will makes you think that the Love will be there???
Don't force someone into loving you, if he loves you, he will try getting to know you better, the way it should have been in the first palce, but if he doesn't want to, let him go. But you don't worry, because there wilbe someone out there who will love you for who you are, regardless that you have a child, and that person will appreciate you for who you are, and love your daughter at the same time....Hope was of an assistance to you.....Lady M
2007-09-04 19:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like when you guys started dating the love was not there but since a baby came out of the relationship he dont want to hurt you in anyway by saying he's not in love with you. There is a difference between being in love and loving someone. It seems like to me he is not in love with you but he does love you and the baby. If I was you I would just let him know if he is not happy and just staying for the sake of the baby he can just take care of his child.
I know it would hurt if he were to take you up on the offer but love hurts. If you dont see what is what you will continue to wonder.
I really dont think there is just a certain way to see if he really loves you. Love is just something you can just feel and you can also feel if he is giving the same or more in return. I think you already know your answer but you just dont really want to deal with it.. Girl, I was the same way because I didnt want to deal with the hurt. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I could be a help to you. (Like the saying goes: When in doubt, get out)
2007-09-04 19:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by SWEET_COCOA_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still with you, that has to count for something or perhaps you are feeling that you missed out somewhere...
2007-09-04 19:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋