I want my ex-husband to give up his rights to our child. she is only 6 months old and he bairly sees her. and it is less and less every week. I want her to have a fresh life with no bad people like him in it. He is a lier, cheater and a dead beat. He left us for his 17 year old mistress when i was 7 months pregnant. I have full custody. i have told him if he wants to save on child support to sign off. he is only 24. what can i do to drive him to sign?
2007-09-04 19:18:26 · 19 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
him and the mistress are planning on moving in together come Dec. I need to act fast! HELP!
2007-09-04 19:19:14 · update #1
I have a lawyer but what can he do?
2007-09-04 19:23:10 · update #2
hire a shooter
2007-09-04 19:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by crazycovey21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the great state of Wisconsin, a father cannot sign off on a child unless there is a man that is willing to adopt the child. Someone has to be held accountable financially. Unfortunately, even if you don't want him to see the child, he has rights, no matter what an *** he is....If you deny him the right to see his child, he can take you to court for visitation and then you won't have a choice. For now, let him pay the child support, it's extra money for you to help raise your child. Don't waste all your energy on hating him, save all of it to love your beautiful child!!!
2007-09-04 19:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him to sign over his rights. I think you are just a little bitter right now because he left you and is moving on. Don't get me wrong you have every right to feel that way, but don't prevent your daughter from getting to know her father, she is only six months old. I know exactly how you feel, my ex-husband has nothing to do with my son anymore, and yes it hurts, but it will never be said that it was my fault that he missed out n knowing his son. Maybe he will come around in time. You should not take his rights away unless he is abusive or otherwise unfit to be around the child. Make him pay child support, and move on with your life, you can do better.
2007-09-04 19:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To you he is a liar, cheater & a dead beat. To your daughter he is her Dad.
What he did to you is unforgivable BUT your daughter deserves the right to know her father regardless of what a loser he is.
You are right to want to give her the best start with no bad people in her life but he is her Dad. Although she is only six months old right now she will make her own decision on him in time, she may get hurt but she will learn why you have nothing more to do with him, and it will be her call to cut him out of her life then.
I didn't meet my Dad until I was 18 because my mother got him to sign me over by blackmailing him.
I understand why she did it but I resent her for the fact I didn't know my father growing up. There is so much about me that comes from my Dad but until I met him I didn't know it.
Don't make your daughter resent you please.
Good luck, it's a sticky situation.
2007-09-04 19:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to think of the child. Scare him into it. Be like, "don't you love your baby girl? She'll grow up confused and lied to unless you make this clear cut decision" and if he doesn't care about her at all......
try, "I know you don't love your own baby girl, but at least do the right thing and give us all some closure," playing on guilt and a quick way to get out will get his interest.
2007-09-04 19:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by neuroticangel6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is still your child's father.. yes he is wrong for what he is doing but he is young and has alot of growing up to do. don't you be the one to keep him away , when your child gets older let them decide if they want a relationship with him, NOT YOU! You choose to have a child with him, and its only fair to your child to know who their father is , whether they are a good dad are not. also don't cut him out, make him pay child support. if you do and the state sees that he has not been paying , it goes up and up. he gets screwed.. go after him for that.. but don't hurt the child.. i thought the same thing, my kids dad is the same age, he was not there for her for 2 years, left when she was 4 months and was in and out for 2 years here and there. but NOW we are working it out. I am so glad i didn't cut him out, she needs her dad!!
2007-09-04 19:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely i've got confidence your soreness. My spouse's ex has no person else in his existence so he will call my spouse to communicate approximately his issues. They shoot the bull while he drops off there daughter and such. I seize myself nonetheless having have confidence themes. i will't deliver it up because of the fact plainly like i do no longer have confidence her. Your ex looks slightly greater severe one i actual could no longer take care of. i assume your purely going to ought to make her decide for. it won't be quite and you may lose her yet while that's something you may no longer take care of then what different determination do you have.
2016-10-09 23:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all why do u wish ur child to not know her dad? and y dont u think bout down the road if u force him to sign or take visitations away u would be the one she will resent dont talk bad about him dont pull her away from him and dont try to force him to do stuff if he loses contact and dont try to be in her life then she will resent him not u think at 16 she can choose who she lives with if u make him look bad by talking crap or making him do things than u just lose ur daughters trust and respece when she gets older
2007-09-04 19:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by mary b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you are hurting right now and you have every right to.But no matter how much you dont like this guy he is your daughters dad,and it would hurt her down the road if she never gets to know her dad.you are trying to him because he has hurt you and thats not the answer.I dont know your husband but he needs to paychild support for her and he needs to have visitng rights and if chooses not to get her then thats a different story.But dont use the child to get the upperhand oh him.Go on with your life and try to get along with for your daughters sake.
2007-09-04 19:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your lawyer serve him. if you dont understand ask a lawyer to explain rights of custody to you. you can have him sign off on your child. then get a restraining order in that order. good luck.
2007-09-04 19:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by Big B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try just asking him, sounds like he doesn't want to have the obligation anyway. Offer him the way out, and he'll prolly take it. But word it so it sounds like you're giving him something, rather than getting something. 'Look, I know you want to move on with your life, so, if you want to relinquish your responsibility, i'll understand.'
Let him know that you will explain who the babies father is, but that the baby can decide if he wants to meet his dad when he's older. And that you wont demand he sees his kid, but will allow them to see each other (you don't need to put that down on paper, but you can tell him that and decide later how you want to play it).
2007-09-04 19:32:55 · answer #11 · answered by A derka der 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋