Theres this fellow who leaves messages wanting to meet up with me at Uni. (eg, playing pool etc) I have met him before and he errs on the side of weirdness. I want to say no too him, but I play pool all the time with other friends, and I live on campus, so I can't use the excuse of not being avaliable too. I don't want to be mean either. How can approach this situation tactfully
2007-09-04 18:55:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just ripped the bandaid off.. Tell him sorry, but you are busy with other friends and homework, and that he frightens you.
2007-09-04 19:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's most likely interested with you, but I wouldn't say for sure. Give him a chance though, maybe just play pool with him for a little while, then go off to "study" or something. If he's treating it like a date, then tell him you didn't think it was, and you don't like him "that way". If you don't even want to be friends with him, then you might have to be pretty cold towards him. Don't listen to him, only rant on about yourself, and he'll feel the chill and move on.
If he still wants to "meet up", then he's definatly a wierdo, and you have to spell it out. It's either you or him I'm afraid.
2007-09-04 19:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just came out of a long term relationship, and have no interest in dating for a LONG time.
If that don't work, be mean and tell him to f**k off.
There is always the line that you have syphilis, or lobsters (worse than crabs)...:)
Either way, I doubt you'll get another call from him.
2007-09-04 19:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..Just hang out with him once or twice, and maybe bring him to hang out with your friends just once, to make up for feeling guilty of saying no. Then tell him the truth, that you really don't want to, and that he seems a bit odd.. for you, but it was a great time hanging out with him..
Or, just tell him the truth now if you don't want to hang out with him.
2007-09-04 19:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have the guts to tell him how you really feel if you keep blowing him off he will get the message sooner or later. i hate guys like this i have known so many!
2007-09-04 19:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear
it is something very complicated
let me think.................................................................................
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that is very hard
if you are male, so just tell him that .... i dont know
ok act with him rude all the time don't laugh in his jokes don't
listen to him carefully
i think day by day he will feel bore with you and one day you will see that he has stoped coming to you
hope it works
2007-09-04 19:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋