After 3 months of my marriage, wife has delcared me frankly that she was in love with one guy. but I know in these 3 months She love me lot & I love her lot. but still i confirm know that she doesnt lost her previous memories spent with him. what to do for establish very clear relation between both of us.
2007-09-04 18:48:07 · 15 answers · asked by konitari k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would levae her
2007-09-04 18:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This one Hurts, i feel for you, big time.
But there is HOPE!
She was honest enough to share this with you, and this is an inner turmoil within her, because, she does love you also.
She also trust you enough to tell you this and feels secure with you, and cares about you enough to tell you this inner struggle she is having.
The best you can do is let her have her feelings, but continue to create FUN TIMES with her.
Do the things with her that will build into great memories over time.
Find silly ways to make her laugh every chance you get.
in time, months or over a year, this will result in more good memories with you than memories back there with who-ever.
Don't worry, if you keep things fun it will work itself out. the next two months are the most critical.
Whats meant to be will be.
You'll be fine.
2007-09-05 02:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by D C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship can not grow if there is one party clinging to the past. For your wife to tell you that she is in love with another guy, shows that she is bold, has no respect for you, and your feelings. There is a grim posibility she could be cheating on you. B/c she already committed adultery several times in her mind. If possible, you in my opinion, will need to get that trust back b/c it is definetly lost currently. That is if you want to save your relationship. Without trust there is no relationship, love, or respect.
2007-09-05 02:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Amenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past behind you and accept that she has the Right to her memories as you have to yours.
You cannot be so controlling as to expect her to delete he memories as soon as she got married.
Dint make a big seal if she trusted you with her tough ts because she is never going to do it again and that my friend is a dangerous thing to a relationship.
2007-09-05 01:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by The asker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut her loose friend.. You can make all the excuses to stay you want to. Do you want her whispering his name every time you get close to her? You want to taste him on her lips every time you kiss her? You can't make someone love you. She *likes* you a lot maybe...but she told you she *loves* the other guy. Eventually , you'll become the "other man". She's a woman...she'll get what she wants either way. You can either take seconds after the other guy or be a man and go find a real woman...People make mistakes and you both did this time by not getting to know each other well first...Good luck
2007-09-05 01:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by YOU GOTTA MOVE TO IMPROVE! 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Absense always makes the heart grow fonder. Some people will always want what they cannot have or no longer have. There once was a book called something like "How to be happy with what you have, & not want what you don't have". Always wanted to read it. Also time will help her forget.
2007-09-05 01:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is cheating on you,then you need to end the marriage.but a person cannot erase their memories of previous relationships like a chalkboard.In time her memories of her others will fade
2007-09-05 02:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sinister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing to do is go get some English lessons so she can understand you. Then you can declare something.
2007-09-05 01:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you mean she is still sleeping w/ the other guy, get out. If you just mean she has "memories" big deal. have you forgot every piece of *** you've tagged? Expect of her what you expect of yourself..
good luck
2007-09-05 01:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Create new memories. Stop dwelling on the past. You are married now. She is married now.. You should work on it together...
2007-09-05 01:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so whats the problem?she was in love
, all of us loved so many ppl before marriage. dont think baout it and dont ruin ur life .
2007-09-05 01:54:43 · answer #11 · answered by poujmak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋