The white girl is getting on my nerves, what do I do?

Question

So I hang with the white girl (thats right "the" because she is the only one in the dept.). She is realitively new. Nobody else seemd to want befriend her, so we eat lucnh together.

She is your average lilly white girl. The first time we went to lunch together all she talked about was how she loved rap. But had no idea who Biggie was (but atleast she knew tupac, but not his songs). I let that slide. then she talks about havin sex with black guys. Pay that no mind. then she starts saying things like "oh, my bad" and "you feel me.?" And I thought that was kinds cute.

But now .... She is starting to make up her own "ebonics" things like "you know it be good homeskie" ... lol ... err ... what?

Yesterday I used the word "miscegenation". adn she said "what be dat" "you be knowin know dat ghetto talk."

I was speeachless. In a way. Its was really said. I never told her what miscegenation meant. There wont be any with her that is for sure.

Its just not cute anymore.

the spell check doesn't correct grammar; only typos. but why bother? Im not trying to impress you strangers.

Mokona - You think Im making this up? Im not even giving all the details, there is actually more to it, but I don't have the space.

AMBER - before you criticize somebody elses grammer you need to check your own sht.

"oh goodness, I <<<< can I say this nicely....................

Ummmm.......... please use the spell check, there are so many grammatical errors I don't know where to begin."<<<<< run on sentence.

Hazel2000 - interesting that you presumed that I talked that way. But I dont. No Black person's talks the way she does. like I said she makes it up.

Answer 1

ROFL @ Jaysunproxie's answer and your question. What in the world? I have been there. The thing is, I never have spoken ebonics or street slang. So, I find it humorous when they think that they are "being down" with me, and most of the time I have this blank expression on my face and no clue what they are talking about. I don't usually say anything. I really think some people have stereotyped so much that they believe thier own hype

Answer 2

I'm going to answer this as best I can and hope that you don't take it the wrong way (like I'm determined to defend "the white girl" no matter what). I simply want to express that things aren't always what they seem and to offer other possible explanations...


Music being her topic of choice may have simply been the first subject that came to her mind when she was wondering what to talk about. And it's entirely possible that she does like rap music. Not knowing the names of artists or songs doesn't necessarily mean that a person doesn't like a particular genre of music. My husband is a perfect example. He likes a few different genres; but he adores alternative and sub-genres of alternative. However, you're likely to see a look of confusion on his face if you ask him about, let's say, Fiona Apple, Red Hot Chili Peppers, or Foo Fighters. Either way, yes, it's possible that she's assuming that you like rap simply because you're black. But this might not be the case. Do you know whether or not she has told anyone else that she likes rap?

"then she talks about havin sex with black guys." ----I'd have to know more in order to form any opinions about this. If you were discussing sex (regardless of who brought it up), and she merely mentioned that she enjoys sex with black men, I don't see a problem. If she shared a few experiences that she has had with black men, I don't see a problem. Did she choose to tell you because you're black? Perhaps, but not necessarily. Maybe she also talks to other people about having sex with black men. I don't know. Do you know?

Concerning her "ebonics"-- Have you ever been around black people who jokingly speak in a English dialect that's commonly spoken by many white people? Have you ever witnessed a black person do this while in the company of a white person (or done so yourself)? If so, then you obviously know that it occurs; and I'm sure you also know that not all of the people who do this are stereotyping white people or have any other negative intentions. Maybe she's just like "the black girl" who says, "Ohmagosh like yur totally fabulishusly awsomely the mostest awesome dude," with no purpose other than to joke with someone she considers a friend. She might think she ''has it like that'' with you- that y'all are ''cool'' enough for her to kid around in such a manner. If this is the case then there's a strong possibility that she isn't stereotyping.


I don't know what miscegenation means either, homeskillet. I'M KIDDING! ☺


Anyway- How about simply discussing your questions and concerns with her? Doing so is likely to tell you a helluva lot more than anyone on Y!A, particularly since you said that there's more to the situation than what you've said here. And then you'll have a better idea of how you want to deal with her in the future.


EDIT: Kooties is so cool. If this question goes into vote, my vote is for HIM. SMOOCHES, KOOTIES! ☺

Answer 3

Well, for starters, I think that she is the racist one. I think it's pathetic that she automatically equates being black with speaking in "ebonics". She definitely needs to understand that a. black people aren't the only ones who use it, and b. not all black people do use it. If it makes you uncomfortable then you need to tell her. While maintaining a neutral environment, make it perfectly clear that while you appreciate her desire to be friends, her actions are inappropriate and offensive. Based on your desired level of friendship, put it as nicely as you can. You do not have to be friends, you don't even have to be nice. You have every right to flat out tell her to stop using ebonics, it's offensive, it's inappropriate and you do not like it. After that, it's an equal opportunity complaint.

Racism, reverse racism, whatever you want to call it, she is treating you differently because of your color and it obviously bothers you. Stand up to it, it won't end until you do.

Answer 4

LMAO She sure is making up her own language nobody uses Homeskie what a dumb broad

Maybe she's acting like that because you(her only friend) is Black and she uses the usual stereotypical(What you see on BET except Homeskie) Black male/female as a guide to hang out with you

LMAO just tell her you don't have to lie to kick it (LMAO my mom tells me that all the time

Answer 5

If you have buddied up to her, you should do her the favour of being honest with her.

Why not tell her that the things she is doing are actually a little irritating and offensive.

You don't have to be nasty about it, just let her know that you think she's a nice girl and you'd like to be friends, but you think she is making a fool of herself with this language, and that you hope she will just be herself so you can go back to being friends.

If she is mature enough to accept this well meant criticism, she will stop her silly behaviour and start acting like a normal person, and you can let it go at that. If she persists, avoid her and find a new lunch buddy.

Cheers :-)

Answer 6

HAHAHAHAHAH see this is what happens once you feed 'im they just keep comin' back. once just once i'd like to see the black guy start acting irish rather then the other way around, ahh well such is life. the best i can suggest is to either hang a "do not touch" sign around your neck or invest in some good anaesthetic it'll dull the pain a little

Answer 7

I been on yahoo answers for at least a year and everytime I get kicked off for asking questions about white people I come back and search for 0.02 cuz you always be keepin it real! I have no answers for why white people do the dumass things that they do but I'm glad that you can let these whiteys know how annoying they are without saying stuff like... why are their so many white serial killers/child molesters? Why is it hard for them to stay on beat? These are the questions that get me kicked off everyday. Your very good at making a point I LOVE YOU 0.02 keep up the good work! < runon sentence but hey I dont care as much as these white people do, as long as I can read it!

Answer 8

Sits back and "chills in the cut" with a "gangsta lean" ( ^ _ ^ ) while eating some Ben & Jerry's ice cream. Sup Home skillet?


P.S. Kooties Ebonics: ( ^ _ ^ )

Chillin' in the cut = Checking out the scene.
With a gangsta lean = Leaning like a gangster.
Sup Home Skillet = Hello my friend.


Thanks Sweetie! Smooches back at cha! : )

Answer 9

Its variety of humorous black women persons constantly tend to guard black adult males yet black adult males do not guard black women persons. it is tousled. yet besides, not each minority needs a white female, fairly the black adult males i comprehend. in basic terms bc you do, does not propose all human beings else does. end being an fool. Any minority guy can get with a white female, they're very open to something and to all races in assessment to different races who honestly have standards. maximum persons marry interior their race, i think they're solid for dating yet this is approximately it.

Answer 10

I think you should let her know how you feel ...and lett her know that it is quite annoying a bit offensive... tell her to be herself.....be sure to say it nicely... sometime some white people just don't knnow how to act around black people... u knoe it could be that she is nervous and unsre as how to act or thinks she will be accepted by acting that way...at the end of it all just be honest and not harsh when confonting her.