Questions about my husband.?

Question

This question is for a friend, Im not married.

How do you know if your husband is lying to you?

How do you know if your husband is cheating on you?

If he is, can he change? Will things get better?

Answer 1

Girl! That is a GREAAAAT Question!! However, there is not only one answer....

One thing is that it depends on Ur trust in Ur husband....just because U get married doesn't mean that anything will magically change for the better or someone will change anyway...it happens if it happens!

U can be paranoid and accuse because U are suspicious or U might hear a rumor, but if U didn't or couldn't trust them before U married them.....why did U marry them in the first place?!

Change comes only if a person really wants to change, not just because some else wants them to!

Good luck with helping UR friend!!
:)

Answer 2

To tell if someone is lying :

NO EYE CONTACT- generally if someone is lying they will not make eye contact, at least during a certain part of the conversation. One caveat: there are some people who will take great pains to make eye contact with you even if they're lying, simply to make you think they're not.

CHANGE IN VOICE - Change in the pitch or tone or lots of stammering, ummm, ah,,,,

UNUSUAL BODY LANGUAGE - tapping of the foot, fidgeting with hands, hair. shoulders raised, turns away from you, or brings their hand to their face. blushing or becoming pale. increased blinking.

MAKING STATEMENTS THAT CONTRADICT EACH OTHER.

OVERLY DEFENSIVE

CHANGES THE SUBJECT EASILY if someone is lying and you change the subject chances are they will go along with it, a person telling the truth will- a guilty ask why you changed the subject.

HUMOR OR SARCASM - . A guilty person will often try to change the subject using humor or sarcasm.

HUMOR OR SARCASM person will often try

How to know if your husband is cheating on you is a difficult question, how well do you trust your husband. You could come right out and confront him, but chances are he will lie to you. You can try to catch him by monitoring where he goes without you knowing, keeping tabs on him, keep notes. Then when you have proof call him on it.

There is always room for someone to change, never give up, BUT if your husband has cheated on you, that is a tough thing to get over, depending on your relationship and what may have led to this behavior will decide on if you can make it through.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

My husband is not a very good story teller. If he were lying I would just know. My husband is also away on business a lot but I have 100% faith in him. I know that he's not cheating or thinking about it for that matter. I think that if a change is for the worse and you want things to improve that maybe they should consider counseling. I've heard very nice story's about couples getting the love back that they never knew could exist. I think any marriage is worth saving.... I also wouldn't be married to someone I couldn't trust, open communication is important in any relationship.

Answer 4

Wow, I have a question for you and your friend,

Is there really a marriage here?

Your might never know if he is cheating. I would counter by asking, why do you think he is lying?
Why do you think he is cheating?
Perhaps he can change, but if your friend is so out of the loop on knowing her husband, Why continue the relationship?

It sounds like he has hurt her - and I personally would get the heck out.

Answer 5

I always believe that a woman has a sixth sense. There's the gut feeling, but you have to prove to yourself that what you are feeling is right. I would be a boyfriend's/husband's nightmare. Why? I will hire a Private Investigator (I don't want any guessing game). Granting he's cheating and he's sorry, I might forgive him depending on the kind of relationship we shared. But then again, I might end the relationship. Will he change? Will things get better? Maybe, but it will be hard climb. Then again, maybe not.

Answer 6

First of all i don't kn w your hubby. i have no idea if hes lying to you or what. but i can tell you for sure. if hes doing this stuff no he will never change i have never seen one that has. they cheat for a reason and its women. it doens't matter why it will happen againa and agian cause they can and get away with it even if you find out. you keep taking them back so why shuld be they be honest and there are not alot of honest men out there there are some but you probably know when they are they geernally act different mean to you in ways and stuff never wanting you around could care less what you are doing there are so many lights that go off and alot of women wuld rather put up then have divorce

Answer 7

It's hard to know for sure. (I often thought of setting up a 'lie detector' stand in the mall - I think it would do one hell of a business.) Cheating on you may be a little easier (or at least a big clue) - have a gps device put in his car - see where he goes and you'll at least know whether he lies about THAT. If he is cheating he will probably always cheat on you. I only know one marriage that survived cheating - and I'm not even so sure HE never cheated again. Sorry. (But there are lots of fish in the sea! ;))

Answer 8

You know someone is lying to or cheating on you because your intuition tells you. Can he change? If he really wants to, but where does that leave trust? Will things get better? Yes, when you value yourself more than anyone else and take the necessary steps to show it.

Answer 9

if he's cheating, find out WHY he's cheating. if he's lying chances are he wont look at you directly, OR he'll be all fidgety etc.
Although he could be good at lying and feed her a line about why he's cheating.

If "she" feels miserable for it in the relationship, she may do better just moving on. Staying in a bad situation for the sake of "oh well we're married we need to make it work" is bad mojo, and only leads to one person always being miserable while someone else is getting their rocks off "elsewhere".

Answer 10

Have someone follow him without telling him and without getting caught. Download a keylogger off the internet to trace all of his emails (this worked for my brother-in-law...it might seem a little dishonest but he caught my sister having an affair with someone else this way. Bottom line...once he gets busted, give him the chance to come clean. If he wants to work it out, get extensive marrital counselling. Things can still work out with counselling but some say 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. Good luck.