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Me and my girlfriend of 2 and half years just broke up 2 days ago. She told me she still loves me but, has to find her self and what it's like to be alone. Do you think I should let her go and find her self? or ask her to give it one last shot with the relationship and see if this is what she needs? thks guys

Answer 1

Either she does not want to be with you, or she really needs time.
1. Be very careful before you hurt yourself.
2. Do not beg.
3. Think positively. You are not the only one in this world who might have this situation(trust me I was in worst).
4. If she is really serious of being alone or what ever, let her go. As you dont want a person in your life who does not want you in her life. In long run, you will face more problem(my friend is going thru divorce).
5. You judge the situation and you tell her, she can definitely go if she wants. But in that time you can look for more options for yourself. And wish her good luck and give me all the best gift.
6. Do not shed a tear, as we are the only person who are responsible for our own pain and sorrows. Plz plz do not ever allow it. Because later you cant forgive yourself for that.

Let her go if that is what she wants. You can also be alone for sometime and do something nice. Make money..:)

Cheer up. As I said, do not let yourself to that situation where you will hurt yourself. Talk to her openly.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Let her go. She will not find what she is looking for, because she doesn't know what she wants. Chances are, she never will - BUT she will destroy a lot of guys in the process. Don't be one of the causalties.

There are some good women in America, but it's tough to find good ones. You have to learn to say, "next!" and be fine with it.

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Answer 3

I just want to know what she is looking for. You mean after 2 years she was with you for the company and suddenly she has decided that she wants to find herself?

If she hasn't found what she was looking for, then it isn't with you. If she says that she still loves you, then she wouldn't have left you. She says that so you will not go find someone else, it is like having you where she wants you to be. I don't think you should wait for her. What if she doesn't come back to you, what will you do??

You should let her go. You two broke up remember. She is no longer your girlfriend anymore. She doesn't want a relationship anymore. Is this the kind of girl you want to be with and marry? If not, then stay away from her. She is not committed and neither are you.

Answer 4

That was her nice way of saying she is over you and wants to see other people. It's rough, and it may take some time to get over it, but from my experiences if you still love someone why would being alone enter into your mind. This person just was letting you down easily by putting the blame on herself. Don't beg for her to come back and try again, if she "finds herself" and comes back and you are still willing to take her back after she has tested out other guys then that's on you!

Answer 5

The best thing you can do is to give her the time she is asking for. There really is no point in trying to keep someone who is not sure that they want to continue the relationship, it will just make both of you unhappy. Let her know how much you love her, and that you are willing to wait for her decision, as long as she doesn't keep you waiting for it for years. Tell her that you want her happiness as well as your own, and if this means that she is not going to be with you, you wish her all the best, and that she will always have a special place in your heart, regardless of her decision. Being understanding of her feelings will go a long way, and will make her realize how much you love her, and that you are a caring and compassionate person. I know this isn't going to be easy for you, but hang in there, if she comes back to you, you will know for sure that she loves you as much as you love her. If she decides to go on without you, you know that she was not meant for you, and that there is someone else out there who is waiting for you.

Answer 6

I know you don't want to here this but 9 out of 10 only say that because they have been seeing someone else and they don't want to hurt you by telling you the truth.Could be she doesn't want you to know in case it doesn't work out between her and the other guy she can come back to you and you will never know the real reason behind her deceit. I could be wrong about her reasons to why she wants to be alone.

Answer 7

If you truly love, keep the communication open. express your love to her. send her gifts as a sign of caring, be apologetic for the mistake that you all commited. speak assertively and explain that you want her in your life and hope that she can your relation another shot and if things won't work out then she can consider other alternatives. Even if she might need some space to get over it, her love towards you will be express when you keep communication open.

Answer 8

She has made her decision. I find it interesting that you ask if you should "let" her be alone. She has asked that you leave her alone. Although you may hurt from the break-u[p, it is time to leave her be and honor her request.

Answer 9

let her alone.. if she loves you she will be back.. if she dont come back then you can move on.. sometimes people need some space.. and if she loves you she will stay true to you while shes away.. if she dont then you will know shes not the one.. good luck

Answer 10

Let her go. It hurts like H*ll...but you've got to let her go.