Im just curious, my husband had a drink with his friend when we all played cards at his friends house.but when we got back home I had to be to work in 2 hours so I left. I found out he went to a house party drinking where their were girls at.I just couldn't figure out why he went back out
2007-09-04 17:19:05 · 31 answers · asked by caramel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WELL HAVE U TALKED 2 UR HUSBAND ABOUT THIS?
U GOT 2 THINK ABOUT THIS ONE, HE WAS DRINKING ALREADY AND HIS FRIEND 2 AND THEY FELT LIKE "HELL LETS KEEP ON PARTYING";SO THEY DID.
IT IS NOT U BUT THE LIQUOR IN HIS SYSTEM AND THE FACT HE WAS JUST WANTING 2 HAVE FUN. HE DIDN'T CHEAT ON U DID HE? IF NOT HE WAS JUST BEING A MAN AND HAVING FUN WITH HIS BOY (S). THAT'S ALL. NO HARM DONE LET IT GO AND ENJOY UR MARRIAGE.
2007-09-04 17:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by ms.tea_z_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wasn't done partying, in a marriage some things may need to be discussed so the other spouse isn't left wondering or confused. When you go out and one is going home, you should go home together, so misunderstanding and accusations don't happen. A couple more drinks with friends shouldn't come between a marriage if you want it to last.
2007-09-04 17:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt make it out to be much. I know you are probably upset that he went out having fun while you had to go to work but Im sure it didnt amount to anything other than he just went for the social aspect, not to be looking for another chick to mess around with or soemthing like that. I assume thats what you are possibly worried about considering you mentioned the party had girls at it. If he was doing something to hurt your relationship, I think you'd figure it out anyway.
2007-09-04 17:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by northernillinoisboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be lots of reason why he went back...and he didn't have to go back because of the girls....
There is nothing wrong with him going back and hanging out, it comes down to do you trust him. Then it wouldn't matter if a girl hit on him or not...you'd know nothing would happen. My first thought would be that he just wanted to spend more time with the guys. My man likes to do the same thing...you just have to trust him.
2007-09-04 17:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by hny_rstd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't much of a bar person, and doesn't drink. But from time to time he goes out with his friends. I go out more then he does, he has never had a problem with me going out to the bar with out him. If you trust your husband, and you have a good marriage. Then don't worry about it. He was probably bored sitting home alone while you were at work.
2007-09-04 17:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How often does something like this happen in relation to how long you have both been committed to each other? Sometimes guys want to just have fun. Is his idea of "fun" and yours the same? If you trust him, there should be no issue but it sounds like this is still something you don't care for. Sit down and talk it out before he does something else that annoys you or something he will be sorry for later.....
2007-09-04 17:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Needs Lotsa Luvin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he go? There was a party, he wanted to go, you had to work and therefore could not go with him. Why is this an issue? Because there were girls there? Don't you trust him? If you don't trust him, then you've got a big problem. A marriage cannot survive without trust.
2007-09-04 19:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was bored...ask him that next time if he'd not go without you if there's girls.i have a man who has a guys night once a week.but there's no girls,he goes to the bar sometimes and there's girls but he's one of those kinda guys that i KNOW i can trust.he's very christian so he's not a player. just tell him it concerns you cause there cant be love without trust. but as long as it doesnt start happening all the time then i dont think youll have much to worry about.good luck and hope it all works out for ya
2007-09-04 17:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl_12589 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a man can go out with his mates say once a week & you go out with your girl friend's etc
BUT men can't go to drunken parties or strip clubs etc & women can't do like wise
did your man say is it ok to go to the party when you went to work?? If he did that well he may have had no sneaky intent
& its good to be able to trust your guy
but if he just went & never told you i would start to think he was up to no good
2007-09-04 17:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is fine as long as he is not flirting, touching or cheating. Its ok to talk to other girls in a good way like a normal conversation just like he may have with his friends. Me and my gf debate this sometimes. He is just out having fun with his friends there is really nothing to worry about unless he has a history of cheating then I will worry. But if he really loves you, you need to trust him and it will be fine.
2007-09-04 17:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Vin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋