my cuzin just graduated this year and shes 17 and pregnant. her parent are tryin to convince her to marry the father of her child. should she get married just becuz she is pregnant
2007-09-04 16:24:52 · 28 answers · asked by mighty mouse 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My bf's brother got his 16-yr-old gf pregnant when he was a high school junior. No one forced marriage on them, and 7 years later they realized they were really meant for each other and did get married. of course most couples in their situation dont end up like that, but two people shouldnt getting married just because they have a baby together...i mean when you're 17 you don't know what kind of person you want to marry. it will just likely cause more problems
2007-09-05 09:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO getting married just because pregnancy is a horrible horrible idea. The marriage never lasts and the parents usually end up fighting a lot, especially over stuff involving the baby. They are more likely to cheat and the marriages usually fail pretty early on.
My sisters were both forced by their mom (we have different moms) to marry the men they got pregnant by at 16. My oldest sister ended up getting hit a lot and cheated on and divorced a year later. My other sister ended up in a horrible marriage and got divorced after 6 years of basically He**. Your cousin should wait and graduate and then if she and the guy are still together they can talk about marriage.
2007-09-04 16:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babies should be born to both a mom and a dad. (I'm not saying that a child born to a single mother will be criminals, or anything....just easier with a mom AND a dad - life is hard enough these days). However, we all know that young marriages like that don't last (statistically). But if a teenage girl is REALLY thinking about the welfare of their child, they would consider adoption.
2016-05-17 04:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by lovella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they can work things out with taking care of the baby and all that without getting married, but if there not in love, then there not going to have a happy marriage, which has a more negative effect on the baby in the long run. But really its up to them if they want to get married that all good, but if they don't that good too.
2007-09-05 11:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chey_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the parents are probally worried about her and how she is going to be finacally and what people are going to say. She should not have to marry just because she's pregnant. they'll most likely going to get a divorce when they are older so really its a waste of there money. the father should be in the baies life but and still pay for some of it and not leave the mother totally looking after the baby all by herself. the parents are also probally trying to protect their daughter.
2007-09-04 21:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
unless of course she is really in love with him and in that case she should wait for at least 4 years to truly make sure
"love" at 17 can sometimes be the real thing but is often not because at that age people are still discovering themselves.
i say NO because getting married because of a child often turns out to be a huge mistake
all the teen moms i know (and i know quite a few, they are growen up now) have ended up hating there Baby's fathers after a few years even if they tried to make it work
Children can cause a lot of strain in a relationship so getting yourself into such a hard and costly situation to get out of is not a good idea
have her wait a few years
if it is meant to be then it will happen
2007-09-04 16:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by bee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No a child isn't a good reason to get married. Marriage is about love and destiny for each other. Not because they had a baby together. If they are still dating and care for each other she should just wait and see if the time comes that SHE is ready to get married.
2007-09-04 16:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she should not be forced into marriage. Forced marriages often lead to abuse and an unhappy atmosphere for the child. Most guys will result to alcoholism and the family could have financial problems. If she is stil dating the guy then they could try living together which would help them out financially but this way if they find out they aren't compatible they can end on better terms than fighting for immediate custody and going through divorce battles. They need to make this decision on their own and not make it a marriage of convenience.
2007-09-04 18:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by al l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, being pregnant/having a child is not a good reason to get married. The people I know who have done this have ended up unhappy, divorced or both.
2007-09-05 05:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. Marry the guy cause you want him to be a father to his child....AND because you want to be with him and he is able to provide for you and the baby. Don't marry him just because that seems like a good idea. Being old enough to make a baby doesn't make him mature enough to be a dad.
17 and forced to marry= divorced.
2007-09-04 16:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by carolinagal75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋