Are there any real men in the world?

Question

This is just one topic of what being a "real man" is to me, but one that is heavy on my heart: Are there men that actually love their wives, only want to be with them and are not attracted to other women? Or is that just a fairy tale? I am in an ok marriage, so I'm not looking for a relationship, it is just that this world seems really sad, with no hope. God made marriage - and sex for married couples. That is healthy. I know men and women are "wired" differently, but sex should mean love for both!!!
Don't get me wrong, I know women can be a mess too! But usually it is the man that is more sexually "weak".
Please only answer with real answers, no rude comments!!!

Answer 1

I'm a married man, never cheated on my wife,
helped raise our two grown children, cook, wash,
iron, clean the house, and anything else that I
can do to help my wife, and we are happily
married over 20yrs, so I will let you be the judge .

Answer 2

When you base it on sex. You are in trouble. Does he make sure everyone knows he looks he is a dog. Or does he have class and make sure only if someone is watching him closely knows.
And women look to. You do not have to die because you are with someone. Plus if you do not trust. It is not going to work out.
You spend more time out of bed. Then in bed. Do not count the time sleeping.
And sex is not all that. Sometimes the sex drive can go down. And if it happens only too one person. The other should show them love not sex.
Love means to do what ever you can to make the other happy. If both people do it. Not one. It has to be both.
That is when the other is to sick to have sex anymore.
And words mean different thing to different people.
And men and women are only built differently for each other. I am just as tuff as any man. Have came to save many woman from being beat up by their boyfriends. And the other way around sometimes too.
Friends like me watching their childern. Because I will ripe of anyones head. If they so much as touch them.
Now people have try to tell me I am butch. But I love men. I will not go with a woman. So tell me what wired differently is?
I have had men tell me I am more of a man then they are. And they did not say it in a bad way. Have had them even forget that I am a woman. And start talking about their girlfriends. Like I was a guy. They talk just like woman do about their boyfriends.
So we are more alike then you know.
And get your mind of sex. Because if you are not going to do it 20 hours a day. You need something else too do between.

Answer 3

Sadly, there are few. More than you might think, but still very few.

Most of us out here are "guys"...and there is a big difference between a real man and a guy. I refer you to perhaps the most insightful and in-depth study on this topic: "The Complete Guide to Guys", by Dave Barry, available at amazon.com...or at a used book store near you.

You speak of us as being "sexually weak" and it's true. We are easily overcome by our prurient thoughts. A guy believes that he just comes that way from the factory and that there is nothing he can do about it - and, by the way, you women had better get used to it. A real man knows that with humility, compassion, and commitment to high values and honor, he can rise above those temptations.

All (straight) males are attracted to women. But, guys cannot make a distinction between what is appropriate behavior after making the lifelong commitment of marriage. Real men know that life after marriage is a different, and a more enriching experience for both he and his wife.

Don't despair. Contrary to what you have said, there is hope. But, understand that a guy is a real man in progress. One of the great hopes for guys becoming real men is strong, loving, and caring women. We need you. Don't give up on us.

Answer 4

Yes. There are real men. I was faithful to my wife for 15 years. She had the affair and destroyed our family, looking for "the grass is always greener". It isn't. It didn't work for her, and she is now dragging our children through the third failed relationship, thanks to our system of feminist "empowerment" - the kids lose BIG.

The truth is that more than 67% of marriages will end in divorce. 92% of the time it will be initiated by the woman for no other reason than she is “unfulfilled” – oh, and because she gets the kids, the house, at least ½ the assets and most of his future after tax income for the next 18 years. The man will get raked over in family court. He will lose the house. He will see his kids 2 out of 14 days (if the ex doesn't level unsubstantiated "abuse" claims.) He will be forced to hand over 40-50% of his take-home pay. If he loses his job due to illness or downsizing, the State will toss him in jail. While jailed the arrearage will grow and the state will charge interest. The State will revoke his driver's and professional licenses, make him virtually unemployable.

If you were to take up sky-diving, and the instructor informed you that 67% of the parachutes were defective, would you take the plunge?

The men’s Marriage Strike is alive and well, thank you.

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Answer 5

Sex is an animal act. We humans are the highest form of animal.

Having said that, don't confuse love and sex. Love is what moves the very soul, sex is what pleases the body.

god did not make marriage. god (if you believe in the bible) made man and woman.

Some men simply cheat. Some men get so frustrated with the games that their wives play they feel cheated and go looking for sex. Don't confuse love and sex.

Answer 6

Of course there are, but sometimes you have to be a real woman to find them. What that means to me now is making tougher decisions earlier on in relationships you knew were not doing well, or going any where. Looking at what a man "does" and not what he says he is going to do. I think guys will always be attracted to other women, much as we are attracted to other men. It's what they do about it that sets them apart. What is an "ok" marriage anyway? Sounds aweful. If my partner said that about my marriage, I would be crushed & wondering what to do to make it better. Its a long term commitment, it should at least be better than ok!

Answer 7

Real is in the eye of the beholder my friend. I like fighting in reasonable situations when its called for. Im not much for alcohol i dont drink. I like a wide variaty and like to stimulate body and mind together. I always believe in using mind before brawn. That doesnt make me any less of a man that anyone else. That makes me a different person that you are. But i will agree these days things are more mind oriented people want education and things like that. Solid physical labor is becoming scarce when things can be done over seas or get illegal immigrants to do it far cheaper. But i completely support your hard solid work mentality and way of life i think it takes ALL kinds and without people in your mind frame the world wouldent be like it was today because when it comes down to it. Before there was education and sophistication there was strength dominance and pure instinct.

Answer 8

Woman may complain that they don't want to have sex with their husbands because he (1) doesn't shower first, (2) short or no foreplay, (3) selfish in bed, (4) didn't do this, didn't do that, etc, etc.

These are all issues that can be discussed, worked out, negotiated, (after all, you are promising to have sex with him if he changes this - and us men love our sex) or a woman can chose to be silent, hold in hurts and resentments and silently help kill a relationship.

I'm sure this is an answer most women don't want to hear (and I'm not saying it's right or justified on a man's part):

A low sex drive in a woman isn't very compatible with a monogamous relationship with a man.

If a woman thinks she "isn't enough for him" then take charge and make yourself enough.

Answer 9

I wish I'd met my present wife, first. She's everything the others claimed to be but weren't.

Women in general have some attributes that fascinate us guys. Women are meant to draw attention, that's natural. It's OK to look and even let some fantisy become entertaining in your mind. Just don't cross the line and you'll be alright.

Answer 10

My husband (I upgraded to husband 2.0) is a real man. My first husband (a youth pastor) was not! I understand what you're going through and it sounds like you might really be hurting. Do you think you could benefit from some counselling, even if he doesn't go? Good luck to you.