I have decided to get an abortion but I have been offered a chance to have a sonogram. I don't know if it will change my mind or not. If you have had an abortion but did not have a sonogram do you think it would have changed your mind to keep the baby, if you had a sonogram?
2007-09-04 15:58:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you should get a sonogram. I think when you see that little heart beat, you won't be able to abort it!
2007-09-04 16:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by katiebug 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you've decided on the abortion, there's no point having a sonogram. If you are undecided, then don't proceed with the abortion until and unless you are sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the right step for you. An abortion can be an extremely emotional and traumatic experience if you have not thought through all the ramifications. If you ARE undecided and you think that a sonogram may help you to make up your mind, then go and have it...sounds like you are looking for something to change your mind anyway, so if I were you I wouldn't have the abortion...perhaps consider some other alternatives like adoption if you don't feel ready to raise a child at this stage.
2007-09-05 01:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely get the sonogram. The thing is, that if you can only go through abortion by distancing yourself from the baby, it is going to come back to haunt you for the rest of your life.
This is a huge decision. If you can look at that baby's little face, think about how much it will love you, and still be able to decide that you want to kill it, then you will probably have no regrets. You can say "motherhood is not my cup of tea, I did the right thing." On the other hand, if you see your baby and start having misgivings about the abortion, that's a sign that this is probably not the right thing for you to do.
I promise you this - thanks to the way that we women evolved, if you give birth to that unwanted baby, you will want her more than anything in the world. Even when she stands in the way of finishing a lab report or gets sick and makes you miss work, she will still be the light of your life.
I'm not one to encourage bringing more people in this world, but I've known a couple of women who made the choice to just "get it done, quickly, so I can get back to my normal life . . ." and couldn't live a normal life after that. I actually knew a girl who ceased to live after that, and it was quite sad, even though we were only acquaintances through mutual close friends. It makes me feel compassion for any woman in that situation, even a total stranger, and not want to see anyone make such a huge decision without being completely certain.
2007-09-04 23:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how secure you are in your decision to abort.
*If you are definate, there is no reason to have one. You aren't going to have the child.
*If you don't want to change your mind, don't have it.
*If you aren't sure you are making the right choice, get it done. If, after that, you still want to abort, you are making the right decision for you right now (no militant anti-abortion comments necessary thank you people.) If you decide you want to keep it, then that will be the right decision for you right now. Basically, if you are wavering, having the sonogram done is like throwing the decision out to the universe and seeing what happens, how it will affect you.
Babies are wonderful, but sometimes they are a pain in the neck. I was told before I had my daughter, that children (like marriage/ long term relationships) are both the best and worst life has to offer. Sitting here now, I would say there is more best than worst, which is why we have them.
Trust that whatever decision you make is the right one for you at this point in time.
2007-09-04 23:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never had an abortion before but I know alot of people who have. I think if you're really considering getting an abortion then you shouldn't even think about getting a sonogram at all because when you get to see something actually living inside you and moving, you'll feel horrible. Hope you choose wisely.
2007-09-04 23:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by crystalmartinez06 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If your mind is made up and you have no qualms about it then seeing the sonogram of your baby with a little beating heart shouldn't effect you at all. If you think you can't handle the sonogram the maybe you should take another look at what you are doing.
2007-09-04 23:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jen F 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
They routinely do a sonogram to see how far along you are. My friend had an abortion a few years ago and they did this at her "consultation" visit. They printed off one picture and asked if she wanted to see it. She said "no", but after they drew some blood for lab work, she asked if she could see the photo. She (sadly) still chose to abort the baby, but she said seeing that photo almost made her change her mind. I wish it would have, but it was her choice, not mine.
2007-09-04 23:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should get the sonogram. It's only right to be able to see the truth of what a baby looks like in the womb. He/she is not a blob of cells like some people will try to convince you. The fact that you are writing this question makes me think you're already uncertain about the decision you're getting ready to make. Please get the sonogram, and then maybe you'll decide that your baby deserves a chance to live.
2007-09-04 23:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca f 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
It should be mandatory for all women to have to see the baby by sonogram before choosing to end the baby's life. I think at the very least you need to see exactly what you are taking the life of- A child with a beating heart. I have lost three pregnancy's and I cannot respect any woman's choice to take the life of their child.
Please reconsider the abortion.
2007-09-04 23:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I too was affected by an unplanned pregnancy. I wasn't planning on terminating, although I wasn't quite ecstatic either. During my first ultrasound, some form of excitement came over me. It is indescribable. Since you are given the opportunity to experience that, I would take it. If you don't feel anything, than there's not much more you can do. I would give it a chance though. Do it for yourself if not for anyone else. Good luck during this stressful and/or joyous time.
2007-09-04 23:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by svw4u2nv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋