Why do I get nothing in return for being so nice?

Question

I mean...i go the extra mile to make other peoples lives better. I make myself feel sad and sacrifice my happiness for others. I think about whats better for others before myself. I try my best to make days like birthdays the absolute most special day for my friends, I spend days and hours planning and putting my greatest effort into the gifts I buy them and making decorating the box to put it. And when it comes to my birthday, no thought is put into my gifts and nothing special is there. I'm tired of friends treating me like crap, yet I treat them so good. And, when something goes wrong, they come running to me for help, and i always help them, but when I need the help in return they don't want to help me and instead try to avoid me during my times of needs. Not only friends but other people too. Will it ever pay off for being so nice?

Answer 1

first of all god bless you for being so nice. maybe try talking to your friends about it. i know it can be scary but plan it carefully and it might work. if not i think you need to consider new friends. god will pay you back and don't give up being nice. i promise you people notice what you are doing and they appreciate it and maybe the best it yet to come.
good luck and the world needs more people like you.

Answer 2

Sometimes u have to scale back. Being so nice will never really be repaid. But u can't be void either. Because what goes around comes around. So someone some day will do something nice for u, and u'll appreciate it way more than anyone whom u've ever been nice to, because u'll appreciate it. But those moments are gonna be rare. They're gonna come from people u least expect. And because of this, u'll cherish what they do more. IT's better just to fit people into ur life, instead of sacrificing stuff to make room for others, because it's natural to want things in return, and usually it never is returned. Good luck.

Answer 3

You have a giving and compassionate personality. Unfortunately most people are not the same way. I see it as a blessing, not as a curse, because you are making the world a more beautiful place.

There are people in the world who take, take, take, and are selfish. If you meet up with people like this, they will use you. You are their victim, so beware.

But most people are somewhere inbetween. You are going to have to stop being so nice and let some things slide. In your mind, you see your giving as equal to how much you care, but sometimes you don't need to give something up to show how you feel. Sometimes just being there for people is enough. Let them come to you and make the effort now!

Answer 4

You are are a caregiver "naturally" and can't understand why people don't do the same for others as well as for you. You will be blessed through out life because of this loving ability. Spread what you have, don't complain to others about it, don't use it on the same people over and over but, most importantly, don't expect it back because this is when you will start doubting yourself and become with drawn from your "natural" gift. Your day will come. Thank you for your kindness!

Answer 5

Sorry sweetie I am right there with you, and what I have learned is you have to be ok without getting anything in return or you are doing it for the wrong reasons, plus don't be such a people pleaser.. being nice is a really great attribute, but when you let people take advantage of you and it is causing you pain ;that is not something doing things for people should cause, don't give more of yourself than you can afford to give.. or you won't HAVE anymore to give..
Hope this helps~

Answer 6

The thing is you teach people how to treat you. If you feel you're being taken for granted, maybe you have shown them that's its just okay with you if they do. (take you for granted) Its not wrong to be nice but you should always remember that things should be done in moderation meaning you can be nice but not to a certain extent that you agree to be a sucker.

Talk to your friends and tell them what you feel. Let them realize that the situation is already hurting you. If they are really your friends they will understand.

Answer 7

I think that you should be nice and expect nothing in return. when you do that, then that is when you will actually start seeing things differently. maybe to you the things people do are'nt the best that you feel you deserve, but what if to them what they are doing or giving you is nice? as far as people not helping you when you need help that i have had happen to me before all i can do is just pray to god that no one will ever turn their back on them when they need help. but just try not to expect things from anyone because this is one reason you are being let down because you feel they should recipricate because YOU, not them, YOU are the way you are.

Answer 8

We re exactly the same, still haven t figured out how to actually deal with these things but from my experience. I left them, they totally do not deserve me as their friend. And now, if they need my help, I reject/decline them. And when I accidentally across one of them on the street, I ignore them like I didn t know them. I pretend that I didn t know them, just to make them feel bad for what they did to me.


"Do to others what you want to do to you." ---- If what they do is to ignore you and treat you like nothing, then do the same thing. Choose better and new friends instead. If you can find other friends, then just spend time with your family. Or help someone who are really in need. God bless us for being so nice, but we re not perfect. We can t be nice forever.

Answer 9

You'll get rewarded, don't you worry. People like you make the world a better place, in fact, we need more people with the same personality in this world

Answer 10

your reward is like that of the pharises, you get the attention of people noticing you are being good and that is your sole reward. If you want to receive more you must be careful in what you do. What you do with your right hand you must keep secret even to your left hand.