We have been paying rent on time for the last 2 years however we havent had hot water for the last 4 months we still pay rent on time and today i asked him when is it gettin fixed he got upset at me and told me that the best thing we should do is move out I started crying of course i felt really upset but I dont want to move out with my boyfriend we fight alot and he has a child and i dont think hes over his ex just like i dont think im over mine and I feel that if we move out somewhere else its going to be what he says goes and i dont want to deal with that mess ive been living here for the last 4 years at one point on my own to go move out with him to deal with drama and gettin kicked out i shouldnt do it should I someone please help with advice.
2007-09-04 14:33:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
What are the chances you can get the hot water issue fixed? If you can get some hot water in there, even if you have to pay out a couple hundred bucks for a new hot water tank, I think it'll help yer living situaion. Now, the rest of your question regardingyour bf and ya'lls exes, I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. All this worry about hot water may be small potatoes compared to your relationship.
2007-09-04 15:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Phillyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so get your but in action and look for a place for yourself, it sounds like you kinda already know you dont want to be with the boyfreind, and your grandfather is kind of providing you the opportunity to get away from the boyfreind- and get out on your own where i think you will feel much more independant.
So do one of two things - think of this whole ordeal as more of a opportunity to get things in order and move away without the boyfreind, or, get rid of the boyfreind and have a heart to heart talk with grandpa about how you knew it was a bad relationship but you would like to stay - I think he will give in and make the repairs and welcome you there.
Personally i think your best decision would be to move on away from the boyfreind and your grandfathers house, as long
as your financial situation permits of course!.
Of course moving into a brand new place without the guy that you have spent some time with is going to totally suck for a while- but the whole move will start you off on the right track where you can keep focused on your future. Thats where you need to be, the decision is yours so you should put some serious consideration into it.
2007-09-04 15:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by mary h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, perhaps it would be a good idea to take a break from your boyfriend.
Second, if you do move out, you should move out yourself - without your boyfriend - into an apartment that has the basic necessities (i.e. hot water).
Third, if you don't move out, perhaps your boyfriend should move out. Then, you can negotiate with your grandfather regarding the lack of hot water. In some jurisdictions, you can repair the problem yourself and withhold rent for the amount it cost to repair it. Send your grandfather a letter via certified mail with return receipt, outlining the issues in the apartment (lack of hot water) and advise him that it makes your apartment unsafe, uninhabitable, etc. Give him a deadline to fix the problem or you will have it fixed and deduct the cost to repair it.
2007-09-04 14:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Leia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you is over your ex, you should not be together. If you fight all the time, you probably should not live together. Do you really think this creates a good environment for his child? It's time to grow up and move on.
2007-09-04 14:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to live with him else where because of the fighting ,
It is very rude to grandfather to be subjecting him to that fighting .
No wonder he said move .
I would only tolerate that for about 48 hours ,
Then they would be on the street .
Maybe it is time to respect him and his place .
Ask the BF to move . . .
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2007-09-04 14:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move into an apartment on your own and learn to take care of yourself, and not be dominated by your boyfriend. You have to learn to take care of yourself in the real world, and not to lean on someone who is having another relationship and is not completely devoted to you.
You deserve a better life, your own life.
Start being on your own, and making your own decisions. You'll learn a lot, and gain confidence in yourself.
2007-09-04 14:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
breakup with your boyfriend and tell him he has to get out.then your grandfather will fix the hot water problem.he does not like you living in sin especially with this guy and you know why!!!good luck do the right thing ,you will all be better off!
2007-09-04 14:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by dixie58 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is that bad you should not be living together now.Maybe your grandfather knows what is going on and is trying to open your eyes by letting you learn the hard way.
2007-09-04 14:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by ron j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea, grow up, get a life, and make it on your own.
2007-09-04 14:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by saq428 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋