2007-09-04 13:14:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hind sight,i find i was manipulated to get married.My wife just wanted someone to pay the bills for two years util her son graduated from high school.She pre meditated everything,the marriage to the divorce finally to be with another man from her past.He's married and has ten kids.She moved out of state only days after our divorce was final to be with him.
2007-09-04 13:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rodger M 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're gonna get me in trouble, my friend!
You asking about the first, or the second?
The first was my mistake. Stupid fool. 3 times stupid.
For the second, she asked me because she knew I would never ask another again. I said yes. Some times I wonder about how my life would have been if I answered differently, but I always seem to come to the same point: while it would have been different, it would not have given me all that I do have. And I very much want what I have.
2007-09-05 21:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Firecracker . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my case it was my idea and I don't regret it.
I have seen circumstances where a guy has been manipulated into it. Basically because his gf wanted it. Just like many women do. He didn't see it happening, but I did. The marriage didn't last because the wife kept accusing him of not fulfilling the role of husband correctly. I laughed at that because it was her who had forced the square peg in the round hole and then complained about the fit.
2007-09-04 20:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Great question. I was manipulated by mom and daughter. I was to young and thought this was the way to go because family meant everything. It was a disaster. Only my two kids were the saving grace. Now I look at women differently. I am in love again but from afar until my life comes back to order.
2007-09-04 21:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Arvind N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had seen many of my friends manipulate their men into marriage, 3 of them by getting pregnant. It really used to eat me up inside that they were actually my friends and with that said, those 3 are now single mothers and out of all of us, there is only 2 that didn't lie, manipulate, throw tantrums, beg and whine every hour for a ring, we are still married, me 10 years and her 15. We were both just happy to be with the men we had, we have EXCELLENT, fun, caring, loving husbands who asked for marriage because that's what they truly wanted. Our families are extremely close, because we all share the same values and lead the same kind of lives.... and we rarely see any of our other friends these days, they are still going to bars... trying to pick up Mr.Right in a one night stand.
Honesty will get you everywhere.
2007-09-04 20:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Shazela 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My first wife died from cancer three years ago, we had a son . I remarried 2 months ago and I did it for love despite what my family thinks. If you do it for love and it doesn't work out you can still sleep at night because you followed your heart. If you marry for any other reason over time; you won't be happy. Life is too short to be in a mistake.Peace
2007-09-04 20:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by JG 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
lol. I know you said guys, but I couldn't resist. this question is a sore spot for me. Me and my husband have been married for 5 years now and been together for 8. When things are cool between us, he says he married me because he loves me and wanted to spend every day the rest of his life with me by his side. But when he gets mad...... the story changes. then it becomes "You forced me to get married" lol.. I get so angry because it's not what happened.
We moved in together about a year and some change. We stayed together for a year, had a bunch of problems and decided we had moved in together too soon. I went back to my mom and he went back to his grandma..... but we remained in a relationship together. After about a year of living apart we started talking about moving back in together. By this time I was 22 and had been thru alot of ups & downs relationship wise. I was an early bloomer so by 22... I knew what I wanted. I simply said " D, I'm not gonna keep playing house with you"
a month later.... before we moved back in together.... he left work (we worked together at the time) and came back with a velvet box. He got down on his knee in front of all our co workers and asked me to be his wife. I said yes. This was in May. I thought we would take soem time, plan a wedding, move in together and everything first...... he couldn't wait for all that. On july 2nd 2002 we went to the justice of the peace and got married. Just me and him.
So our whole getting married was his idea. me saying i wasn't gonna keep playing house only meant.... if you can't see yourself marrying me, then let me go. Not run out and buy a ring and stuff if you know this is not what you want. But I forced him. lmao.
men are soooo full of .......
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2007-09-04 20:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by thick & beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
People don't do things unless on some level they genuinely want to, even if it's just a little bit of them. Anybody who was "forced" to do something needs to grow a backbone and perhaps stop blaming others for the mistakes they made.
2007-09-04 20:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by graybear 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm not a guy, but if they where then they didn't have any back bone to stand up for something they didn't want. By the way men do the same to woman, and if they where then they will be pushed around during the marriage.
2007-09-04 20:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
my marriage is definately not a mistake! my husband and I honestly knew that we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives on our very first date.
I was 17 and he was 19, and that was several years ago, and we're happier than ever. = )
2007-09-04 20:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋