i caught my husband cheating about 2 years ago..i forgave him and moved on..hes doing alot better and everything is going great again..but sometimes i feel like im not good enough for him....i feel like im holding him back from his life..i feel like me and the kids are not what he wants...things seem to be going good i just cant get over this feeling.....
2007-09-04 12:36:22 · 11 answers · asked by greyeyebeauty81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are a believer in God, Fast and Pray, ask and he will answer. Although keep in mind that the answer may not be what you want to hear nor come when you want it too. Make sure you want the answer to your question.
Also you've lost the most important thing within a marriage and that's "TRUST".....
2007-09-04 17:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by nlovinit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah. I have been there. Because of the cheating, despite the forgiveness, you still are hurting a little. It takes a long time to get over. My suggestion, tell him what you just told me. When my husband cheated I had just had my son, in our 3 year of marriage. It was devistating. It took years of him doing things so I could trust him again. We talked a lot, every time I felt insecure and he would reassure me. We have been married 11 years now and I feel over it. I do have my moments, I let him know, then he does something to make sure I feel better.
2007-09-04 19:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's start with the basics. First, you are wonderful. You are exactly what you should be. If he, or someone else doesn't recognize what a great and wonderful person you are, then they have defective senses. Acknowledge yourself as being great. Love yourself, accept yourself without judgment. If you can do this, then you will find comfort in your life. Good luck.
2007-09-04 19:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you may need to seek the assistance of a therapist. Being insecure effects millions upon millions of people world wide and is something that you should not be ashamed of OR have to live with.
There is help out there, if you are willing to accept it.
2007-09-04 19:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any one should feel this way in the marriage it should be him. HE owes you! He's not good enough. I don't blame you for having these thoughts. Oviously you haven't fully put things behind you. If anyone is being held back its you b/c its causing you some insecuritiy problems even till this day.
2007-09-04 19:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the love of your life betrays your trust, it can really destroy your sense of self esteem. If you weren't good enough, would he still be with you? Is he staying faithful now? Have you talked it out with him? If things are going great, accept that. You are worth alot to many people I am sure.
I don't know where you stand in your faith, but prayer really helps me.
2007-09-04 19:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you will have to let go i am sure your husband appreciate you for giving him and you have moved on but your still in the past let it go. If your husband didn't love you and his children he would have kept on doing what he was doing. he is trying to make things right and make your marriage work let go before its to late. its just hard for you to get over this uneasy feeling. Put your trust in god and he will take care of this for you.
best of luck
2007-09-04 19:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tells you he loves you every day, if he tells you how much he finds you attractive, if he tells you he wants to be with you only for the rest of his life why should you feel insecure?......maybe it's because in fact, he's not telling you these very important things!! He is the one who needs to convince you YOU are the only one. Has he been doing it?
2007-09-04 19:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be too good for him. Don't let his insecurities be passed on to you. Enjoy the good times and stop focusing on the past. Those thoughts will consume you and you won't be able to function. You have forgiven, but will never forget. That's normal.
2007-09-04 19:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by renamed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a Doctor. You maybe suffering from Depression.
2007-09-04 19:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋