I feel sad and very emotional?

Question

Im 16 and its the first day of school. I have gone to the same school and hung out with the same friends all my life. the same friends who bullied or made me feel like a smaller person. I went on humantarian trip for 2 weeks and arrived 2 days ago. I meet incredible people and most go to a school im trying to attend. the school is extremely full and im not sure if I can get in. I just hate my current school and I feel misriable everytime I think about my current situation. what should I do

Answer 1

Research from the National Bullying Campaign shows that up to 25% of U.S. students are bullied each year. As many as 160,000 may stay home from school on any given day because they are afraid of being bullied. Now, the growing trend of cyberbullying goes into the home via computers. At least 1 out of 3 teens say they have been seriously threatened online and 60% of teens say they have participated in online bullying.
Bullying is an insidious situation one that both the bully and the victim often desperately hope to keep a secret. Bullies obviously don’t want their cover blown, but many victims also cover up the truth because they are embarrassed, confused or scared that bullying will increase if they turn in their tormentors.
Common signs that a teen is being bullied include:


Uncommon bristling at family or friends’ teasing.
Depression and/or mood swings.
Differences in sleep patterns such as sleeping all the time or insomnia.
A change in eating patterns, such as comfort eating or eating less than usual.
Frequent headaches or stomach aches.
Requests for time off school due to minor or imaginary illnesses.
Sullenness or silence.
Seeming frequently on edge or intimidated.
A desire for time alone.
Shunning social situations with teens of a similar age.
A sudden dislike of school, specific classes or school-related activities.
A change in the transportation methods a teen uses to get to or from school.
A change in the route that the teen takes took or from school.
“Loss” of possessions such as mobile phones, mp3 players, calculators or other more expensive items.
“Loss” of pocket money or money for school trips, supplies, etc.
Experiences more cuts, scrapes or bruises than normal.
More tears or rips in clothing, backpacks, or books than normal.
Frequent mood changes after reading text messages, instant messages or emails.
Phone calls, letters or emails from people you do not know or names you do not recognise.
Unexplained absences from school or activities.
Seeming more aggressive than normal, particularly with smaller, younger or weaker siblings or friends.
Reports from teachers that (s) he is not performing as normal in schoolwork.
Reports from school administrators that (s) he is acting up at school.
Many teens will shun outright offers of help to fight bullying because they do not want to admit to being bullied. Teens might be embarrassed that they are perceived as weak or a victim, or they may be afraid that a bully will retaliate if they tell someone about the abuse. There are many ways that parents can help their teens fight bullying, including:


Discussing the situation with teachers or school administrators.
Reviewing, or drafting, a school policy on bullying.
Encouraging teens to continue with activities that they enjoy.
Helping teens find alternate solutions to problems (routes to school, etc.)
Allowing teens to use you as an excuse (for example, “my Mum/Dad wouldn’t let me bring my mp3 player to school anymore”.)
Loving your teen, and remaining calm as you hear more about the situation. Your own anger won’t help anyone.

Answer 2

As I've read through other people's answers, I've read a lot of things that I think are great advice. But I see one thing missing. You say you just returned from a trip doing humanitarian work, which is, sadly, something most people don't do. I think maybe part of the issue is that you've gone out into the world, probably somewhere you've never been before, experienced an aspect of our world that you hadn't....You're realizing that there are bigger things in the world than what you thought existed, there are problems bigger than the petty things that go on in most of our nation's high schools. I've experienced this myself. And if you're anything at all like me, you'll never be happy until you can start to do things help people. And even if you can't switch schools this year, do your best to maintain relationships with these "incredible people" that you met and try to meet others. Having good friends who themselves are good people is one of the best assets you can have in your life. They will encourage and help you to become better and have a fuller life. I don't know if this helps, but it's my 2 cents.

Answer 3

The world is full of a$$ holes and that will never change!!! I know it suck because I have been there but you have to man up and either tell them to stop acting like tools!!! And if they do not then you do not need them as friends!!!! I had a girlfriend a while back and I thought I would not be able to live with out her she treated me like dirt!!! But, you know what I am still here and I am doing better than a long time ago!! Sometimes you have to suck it up until you get to where you want to be in life!!!!! So I hope your school year gets better but until then I hope you laugh an smile as much as possible!. Plus you can play pranks on the people that piss you off Vaseline on peoples window wipers is always funny but if they wreck you might get charged with some kind of crime but if you do not tell I will not tell ha ha ha it takes forever for them to clean it off and they will have to throw there wipers away!!!!

Answer 4

i feel for you, being 16 and already stuck in a rut? the bullies and the same friends won't always be the case. i went to school with 5 or 6 kids from 1st grade thru high school graduation. i've been out of school for pretty close to 20 years now, and i've lost touch with A LOT of my so called friends. but the funny thing? now that we are planning a reunion, people who didn't even know my name are calling and emailing me asking how i've been and what i've been up to. high school is hard, it is difficult, but in the end how we react to people and teachers for that matter is how we will live our adult lives. if you put up with bullies not, unfortunately that does not get better, we need to deal with life as it comes, easy, hard, whatever, but again in the long run and when you are old at 20, you will look back and laugh! good luck, but remember everyone who is older than you? we went thru the same crap!

Answer 5

Think of the positive things. At least you're getting an education. If you don't like the people you hang out with, why are they your friends? Friends don't bully/degrade you!!! Try and meet new people at your current school, and think on the positive side! Remember, everything happens for a reason! It's all right if you don't get into this school! Whatever happens happens!!!
Best of luck to getting into this school hon! : D

Answer 6

Dear Joho,

Humanity needs more people who will devote time for 2 weeks like you did

Could there be more nice people at your school than you give the school credit for. Just be choosy and avoid bullies.

At the 30 year high school re-union I met a very beautiful woman I went to school with but she wasn't popular than, she sure's a lovely woman with her act together now !

I wouldn't try to convince bullies of anything.

I would try to impress more people who believe in humanitarian work.

Let your parents and understanding school staff know how you are feeling.

Answer 7

Have you talked to someone about the situation, say your parents or another adult at school. You should not have to change schools to be happy, although You would do better in a schoool that you want to be in as opposed to a school you dislike.

I wish I could say life is easy, but it is not. You'll need to make someone aware that you have these feelings, and you'll find the right person and it will be OK

Answer 8

The harder your life is, the stronger it will make you. Have you heard the story of the guy who had a job, his only job was to push a big rock. He pushed as hard as he could, but couldn't move it. He complained, and was told to keep pushing.

When he got to the end of the time working that job, he felt like he wasted his time because the rock didn't move one inch. When he looked in the mirror, he saw that he had huge muscles and had become a much stronger man.

That's like you and school. If it was easy, you would become another sheep in the crowd of miserable, everyday people. This is your chance to become something greater, stronger because you are always pushing. Your day will come, and you will notice that you are so much better with people, so much friendlier and people will love you because you had to learn the hard way.

Answer 9

I know the feeling. What I didn't know back then is that the only thing I can change is me. I can choose how I react. I cannot change anyone else. It is as it is. So, I've been working on changing me for a long time. Today it doesn't matter what others say, I accept them for who they are. If they want to be nasty, and it's a horrible feeling to be that way, let them be. You don't have to feel it along with them. When I allow others to "make" me feel a certain way, I am giving them my power. Why would I want to give my power away to someone who treats me badly? I want to live in peace. Accepting situations as they are, and changing me is the only way I have found to do this.
may peace be with you

Answer 10

I get the same feeling all the time but sometimes I get very emotional when I think about my ex-boyfriend knowing that how much I still love him.

Answer 11

Do everything you can do to switch schools. If it doesn't work this year, look for different friends in your current school. There has to be some new people. Find them in your classes or clubs. Be a friend to someone who has no one. Best of luck. C. :)!!