This was over a year back. I have got out of this relationship. Got back with my ex that I was with 5 years prior and got married. My Mother has every excuse why my daughter should not move home yet. I think she is scared to be without her. What she needs to understand I am her Mother and I am the one missing out on the Mother and daughter relationship that I will only get once. My Mother has gotten to the point that when someone asks a question about my daughter she will talk over me like I don't know anything about her. She is buying her everthing she has even went as far as to buy a house 1 block from my daughters best friend. She's buying her off. I still pay for what she needs and doctor bills ect. She has asked for $150.00 from me and my husband a month. Also, any child support I receive. She has also said that my husband should pay if he wants to be stepdad, he's been more of a father to her in over 5 years than he own dad. I don't want my daughter in the middle. Any ideas?
2007-09-04 12:28:10 · 6 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has the court given her legal custody? If not, take your daughter by the hand, help her pack her things, and tell her she's coming home. ANY daughter would rather live with her mom over her grandma. Come on, stop being so afraid of your mother. Take your daughter back. If your mom doesn't like being grandma after you've thanked her for all of her help, she doesn't have to be a part of your life anymore.
2007-09-04 12:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go thru the courts and get it written in law that you have custody of your daughter and if need be, get the police to help you enforce the custody order. Let your mother know that it is HER FAULT if she can't grow up and let go of your daughter, and it will be on her head if you are forced to go thru the courts and use the police. She's being childish.
2007-09-04 12:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you've lost custody of your daughter, you need to bring her home and become a family again and start setting guideline for grandma. You're the Mom, you make the rules.
2007-09-04 12:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by LAL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You seem to be focused on your relationships first and your daughter second, be grateful she has some stability with her grandmother instead of having to put up with your relationship antics. If you demonstrate some stability in your relationship now, you can slowly get some trust back.
2007-09-04 12:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by cimra 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You create this mess. Now clean it up. Just know and accept the fact that it is going to take a long time, and a lot of work to do just that. You cannot wave a magic wand at this one.
2007-09-04 12:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your mom needs to understand its your daughter and to share her with you, talk to her
2007-09-04 12:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋