I had a contract with the state of SC to watch my best friends son who has cerebral palsy and schitzophrenia. I have the necessary qualifications to take care of this 33 year old man. My best friends sister came down from GA. they had lost their home to due to foreclosure. The sister informed the state that she was down here. This inturn, made me lose my job. I went over there to give my final paperwork last wednesday. Since the state cuts the check on the first, I had giiven the paperwork to my friend to send it with her son to the Disability Board, since he goes there daily. Now, when I called the Disability Board, they said that they never received the paperwork. I called my friend and she said that "she forgot", now it is ANOTHER month before i can get paid. She did this LAST month and was upset that she had to pay me out of her pocket and wait to get reimbursed. Now she just bought another car, her job is on the line, she was put on probabtion, and I am out the money.
2007-09-04 11:01:23 · 8 answers · asked by slk29406 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I will add that this totally screws up my budget and puts me in a financial bind..
2007-09-04 11:03:52 · update #1
Su-Nami:
I actually feel the same way, done over with.
2007-09-04 11:19:39 · update #2
I would like to add that Brian, the young man that I took care of has epilepsy. As a nurse, I know what to do, the sister dows not. BTW, when Brian went to stay with the sister for a few months in GA, he lost 40 lbs, and looked terrible. I do care about Brian, my brother was mentally disabled too. Should I tell the Disabiltiy Board about this?
2007-09-04 11:36:25 · update #3
Brian does not like his aunt, I take Brain places and take him for lunch, ot dinner, to the sites in Charleston.
His mother had not taken him to a doctor in over 3 yeaers, I did, made the appointment, took him in the car. The only time he was seen was in an ER. He had a soke and the mother never followed up on it, not the lumps he had on his arm. Since he is on Medicaid he is allowed 4 medications for $3.00 each, when I took him to the doc, he prescribed 5, I paid for the other one.
2007-09-04 11:40:39 · update #4
it was a STROKE not soke, sorry everyone, I am really upset with her.
2007-09-04 11:42:01 · update #5
What a cow! After you bend over backwards,wear your humanity like an armband for all to see,this selfish,unthinking,grabbing parasite forgets for the second time about your needs! I feel for you and for your patient but baby we aren't rich enough to get by without being paid.Resolve this as best you can.Lesson learned,you have your own problems.
2007-09-04 19:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara D 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it was you who expected too much of this "friend". I remember Oprah saying that "You never "LOAN" money to family or friends. If you give it expect to never get it back, and if you do, consider it a surprising bonus."
Your doing "services" for her son can be considered along the same lines as "loaning" her money--she is using your services free of charge. She doesn't expect you to be reimbursed.
You are more of a dedicated friend to the son than you are to the mother--you look out for his welfare, and make sure he gets the care he needs. Maybe you SHOULD approach the Disability Board on his behalf. He would probably do much better in a group home than in his mother's. Of course, you would still be out of a job, but at least you would be looking out for HIS welfare!
2007-09-04 20:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This "friend" isn't much of a friend! Distance yourself from her. With your qualifications you can surely find another position in health care. Next time, make sure you protect your interests and have it in writing how/when/by whom/how much you will be paid. And if you see signs that this young man is not receiving quality care, go to Adult Protective Services with the information.
2007-09-04 19:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would mention to the board your concerns but I'm sure you've been in the business long enough to know that may not change his care. If at all possible petition for an advocate for him through either the cerebral palsy asso. or the epilepsy foundation.
2007-09-04 23:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by gldnsilnc 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Su-Nami, with "friends" like her, who needs enemies? Of course it's good to help friends when they need it, but she doesn't seem to take you and your feelings and situation into consideration at all. I would no longer consider her a friend. Put your time and friendship with people who value you, and who will also be a friend to YOU. It sounds like she's just using you.
2007-09-04 18:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Starscape 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would cancel this "friendship" with this woman. Sounds to me like she is a looser and is taking advantage of you!!!!! With friends like her you don't need any enemies!!!!!
Do the paperwork again and this time YOU TAKE IT INTO THE OFFICE THAT IT NEEDS TO GO TO!!!!!!!!!
If she asks you to do another "favor" for her; tell her that you are BUSY!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would make sure there was distance between you and this woman.
2007-09-04 18:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I always find if I want something done, its best to just do it myself.
2007-09-05 11:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i have important papers to send off i do it myself, i never reply on others to do that for me, then i know its done.
2007-09-05 00:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋