My boyfriend recently lost his mother. Since then he's been really worried about his dad. His dad isn't taking care of himself & is grieving really bad. My boyfriend doesn't talk to me as much. I understand what he's going thru & told him I'm there for him if he ever needs to talk. But now, he's avoiding me. I feel he's pushing/shutting me out of his life. He tells me he doesn't want to burden me with his problems, but he's not. What should I do, give him space or put the relationship on hold until he's ready? And if I give him his space, should I let him know first?
2007-09-04 10:32:15 · 7 answers · asked by ladydiana_a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would give him some space. Everyone grief different. He just lost his mother.It going to takes time. On the top of that his father not taking care of his health.It also stressful on his father as well. He has a reason to be worry. Yes you should you going to give him some space and you will be there for him if he needed. He need to heal.Why would you want to break up with him.Do you have a caring heart. What if he does this to you. Time will heal. Has you ever lost your parent(s) or someone you care about. Remember how you treat him. It will come back when you need someone in your corner. Depression is part of life. Read the Bible.Everyone going to have it including you. I don't know when he will move on. It going to take time. I mean time. If you have any concerns about his behaviors talk to someone. Eventually he would have to move. I would get info. & read about grief. You sound like you don't understand the process of grief. While you give him some space. Read up on it. It will help you deal with him and you wil get educated.
2007-09-04 11:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time your bf really needs you. Even though he acts as though he is pushing you away, he isn't. If you have been a great gf until the recent passing, be a better gf and be there for him as much as prossible. He is really hurting at this moment and he just needs you to be there for him. If you leave now, he will see that you dont really care for himas much as he thought you did.
If you do love and care for him a lot, stay with him at his grieving moment.
There is no such thing as putting the relationship on hold, its over. If you put it on hold, he may never want to be with you again because this is the time he needs someone the most.
Just continue to love him and be by his side, and continue to show your support.
2007-09-09 22:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by crazy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving comes in so many different ways when it is in the death of a love one. Go over from time to time to see how he is doing. Let him know if he needs or wants anything, you are there for him. I'm sure in time, he will appreciate you for being there when things were not so great.
2007-09-11 12:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a lady when my father passed away. The shallow part of that is, I used that as a escape route from her. I knew for sometime that I was not sincerely committed to the relationship. He may be a bit like me and not have the guts to just come out and tell you the truth. Kind of like dancing around the subject. The lady I was dating at the time was sweet, and good as gold. She just wasn't the one! I was to heartless to tell her. This may be something to ponder!
2007-09-12 17:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes space is good. if you force anything on him that he doesn't want it will just push him away farther. It is good to show him that you love him and are there for him. If he is pushing you away and you push back, then he will push even harder. Well not sure what else to say other than good luck and I hope it works out.
2007-09-12 14:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by viper1631 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll want i seriously think is that you should try to sit down and talk to him but if it doesn't really work give him a little space and let him look for you...... and when he does its probably would mean that he's ready but to give him way to much space for him to look for someone else, give it to himbut also be there you under stand me????? and when you do this i wish you the best of luck...... if he reallys loves you it will try to make this work
2007-09-12 13:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by jejibaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People deal with grief differently,so by letting him know that you are there for him will assure him of your support.Give him time, he will come around and yes you can let him know that you know he may need his space.
2007-09-12 16:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by fortybluesierra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋