okay so im a freshman and im almost fifteen. i have a cousin who is seventeen and now that im in highschool she asked me if i wanted to hang out with her and some of her friends this friday. she wants to introduce me to them so that when she goes off to college i will know some people to have my back.shes my cousin and i really love her and i think its soo sweet of her to offer me to hang out with them, becasue shes really popular.BUT... my dad picked up the phone and lisened to my phone conversation and said he doesnt want me to hang out with her because she made alot of mistakes when she was younger.i understand his concern but i think he should give me alittle more freedom in this situation!
what do you think ;; what would you do ?
2007-09-04 10:18:45 · 7 answers · asked by NONAME 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
thats really bad i would tell him that it hurt when he was listening and that he should give you a chance and you dissapoint him (dont!) you`ll never do it again.and i think he should give you more freedom its your life and your old enough to think for yourself!
2007-09-04 11:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the right time, like after dinner, privately ask him to join you for a talk.
Brethe deeply.
Offer him a glass of water and say you stuff.
"Dad, I made many mistakes when I was younger. I understand your concern but I feel held down. I'll bring a cell phone and call every 20 minutes and you can call me." Say, "It kind of bothered me that you picked up the phone" It will give him a chance to think and feel sorry for what you did and it will tend to make him give in. "I appretiate your time and I want you to think about it." DONT, DONT, DONT let him have the last word. Hurry out of the room, leaving him thinking.
2007-09-04 17:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father is the type you can do this with, sit down and have an un-emotional discussion with him about what his exact concerns are. Listen to what he is saying. If he has valid worries, listen to them. Things that are in the past and you KNOW she has completely changed, tell him - but be tactful and mature about it.
Let him know that you appreciate his worrying but you are confident that you will know the right thing to do in the off chance that something were to happen. Ask him if there are any circumstances in which it would make him more comfortable for you to hang out with them - ie, public places, only out until a certain time of night, etc.
Good luck and I think it's nice of her to look out for you, too.
2007-09-04 17:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by teel2624 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but i think you should listen to your parents on this one.
She's made some mistakes, do you want to go and accidentally make the same mistakes she did. No. So i suggest you get a cellphone (so your dad cant listen in) and don't go out with people who have been in trouble and that you do not know.
2007-09-04 17:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by meggie12345 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dad was there when your cousin went through her bad times. He probably knows it was because of her friends. If he hang out with them, you will do the same thing.
Be your own person, get your own friends. These cousins friends will try to control you and tell you what to do. Peer pressure is so easy to put on younger teens in high school. I know, I was one of those guys who did it. It worked, Underclassman did whatever I said because I was cool and they wanted to impress me. I didn't care one bit. It was jurts funny ot me they were stupid enough to listen.
2007-09-04 17:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! He is not over protective. These people are older than you and in to things that you should not be in to yet, and they are into older guys that want SEX TOYS, and you would be a prime target for them. Fine your own friends at your own age. I was once one of these boys, as was your farther. We know how they think! We have been there. Your cousin means well, but she is not using good judgment here, farther is.
2007-09-04 17:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by zipper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg he listens to ur phone convos evil
2007-09-04 17:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by ..... 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋