I stayed with my Ex and the kids this past weekend. I had been sleeping on the couch .. the first two nights she left to go visit friends while i stayed with the kids.. which was ok with me because she has her own life and needs some time away. Anyway. the last evening i stayed there.. she had went to bed and i had made my bed on the couch... about an hour had past and i heard her moving around back in her bedroom.. i went to the kitchen to get some water, and to kinda figure out what was going on back there.. she heard me, came to the door and whispered out ,,, hey,,, you wanna fool around,, ,so i did, of course. She's a beautiful woman hard to resist.
I guess my question is this.. we have been talking about working things out but until the other night she has acted as if she has no interest in me in this aread (sex). now she sleeps with me and the next morning cant give me a kiss on the lips. im wondering if she just used me since i was there or not? Any advice or suggestions?
2007-09-04 10:03:37 · 28 answers · asked by drew71670 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a very complicated situation. Even if you are separated or divorced, those feelings don't just go away. Often the physical attraction you once shared, doesn't just go away either. Sex, unfortunately, is allot easier to have than to figure out how you really feel and what is best for both of you and your children.
Is it possible she used you? Sure it is. She may wanted to see if she still "had it," and she did.
All I can say is be careful with your heart. Be careful what you do and think it through.
2007-09-04 10:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 11:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by cosner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you for sex--she probably gets some joy out of messing with the ex---maybe some vengence going on toward you. And it might stroke her ego, knowing she is attractive and can love them and leave them.
Stop staying at her home--even though you were once married and have children, this is not a good example for them. You can bet, you are not the only one in her life---you dont know how many she has now or where she has been---protect yourself...and the best protection is stay away from her.
2007-09-04 10:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she so used you cause you were there! I hate to say it, what really proved it was her not being able to kiss you on the lips the next morning. That proves it was not love making it was just sex and she's probably not into you anymore as harsh as the sounds. Don't do it again if you still have feelings for her because it will only hurt you more.
2007-09-04 10:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by justbeingme_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeppers she used you, she figured that since it was your last night there that she might as well get one last bump n grind, Sorry dude, but you should think of why you two broke up in the first place, and figure out if this is what you really want and what she really wants. Good Luck and have a great day!! : )
2007-09-04 10:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably got used. If she didn't kiss you in the morning the only reason is to not confuse the kids and make them think you were getting back together. Were you around the kids? If you were then that is probably it and there is hope, but if you weren't then you probably got used. Don't be too upset though because I am sure you enjoyed it.
2007-09-04 10:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she used you, but if you really want to work it out sit her down and talk. If she says she is still not interested in working it out don't stay over there all that will cause is confusion.
2007-09-04 10:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by maria28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she used you. Sorry that sucks you need to talk to her to see why she thought that was OK if she was going to be weird or not work it out after you guys fooled around talk to her ?? good luck and I wish you the best
2007-09-04 10:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???? A Woman using a man.... Yes! Wake up...She used you, just like a man would. If she was serious with you, she would of said so off the bat.
She got what she wanted and moved on.... You should too.
2007-09-04 10:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Petunia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be she was just using you, but it also could be that she's truly interested in reestablishing your relationship and becoming your "ex ex". If I were in your shoes, I'd definitely be interested, but I'd proceed cautiously - and if she didn't agree with the caution - well, thanks for the quickie, darlin' but we still have a ways to go before we re-tie that knot!
2007-09-04 10:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋