I have been married for 4 years in November. I take offense when my husband goes in the shower right after we make love. I do join him in the shower sometimes, but I'd rather cuddle for a few minutes. I mean I shower twice a day, so I know I don't stink. Whats up with that????
2007-09-04 10:01:49 · 15 answers · asked by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I remember doing it when I first became sexually active. But then as I got more and more comfortable in my relationships I stopped doing it. Its not a bad thing to clean up, a wet towel would do it. Love making is a beautiful thing and everything shared in between is beautiful. Your husband need to embrace it rather then watching it off himself.
2007-09-04 10:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm a woman and I can tell you right now I wouldn't want to cuddle. Do you guys use a condom or not? That makes a big difference. If there is no mess in the end then yes cuddling would be nice, but if he's all sticky and dripping with you know what then do you blame him?
Showering isn't only about funk it's about feeling fresh and getting rid of that sticky feeling.
Relax a little.
2007-09-04 12:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know when I first became sexually active I would jump right out of the bed to take a shower after we made love. It was because I was self conscious of the odor from the act. You have been married for several years, have you tried to talk to your husband about how it makes you feel? Maybe there is a simple reason for it all. Communication is always the best key in any situation-give it a try.
2007-09-04 10:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He and I probably share the same quirk: I hate feeling all sweaty and hot. Being all sweaty and damp feels like I've been dunked in a vat of lukewarm chicken grease. UGH!
It isn't that you smell bad, hon. Say, here's a thought: keep a nice big, fluffy bath towel next to the bed, and when he grunts and rolls off, grab it, wrap yourself in it and say "you can postpone that shower for a few minutes, buster!" Keep the towel between your skin and his and he just may be comfortable enough to give you that post-coital cuddle you and so many other women desire and are deprived of because of our rush to shower.
And fer pete's sake don't be reluctant to tell him how important that cuddle is to you! If he does not understand and does not make the effort, perhaps you need to look seriously at whether this marriage should continue. There are other nice guys out there who don't mind the mutual sweating at all!
2007-09-04 10:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on it's a comfort thing, hot and sweaty and then the irritant to your privates, sure I shower as soon as possible after and invite her in also but I always return to cuddle afterwards. Why be offended?
2007-09-04 10:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by aircraft mech 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouuu. I almost always shower after, and so does my hubby and we've been married 15 years. It's not how clean you were when you started, but how "clean" you are after.
The sweat and ... other stuff.
My room mate in college not only showered, but washed her sheets.
Relax...cuddle after washing off.
2007-09-04 10:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey! I wouldn't complain that he takes showers. There are plenty of women who wished their husbands took showers, period!!
2007-09-04 10:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We cuddle for awhile, but both always go and clean up after....but yeah, I'd feel bad if he didn't cuddle after wards.
2007-09-04 10:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - sometimes i take a shower. i could care less. don't read into it much. cuddle when he gets back into bed.
2007-09-04 10:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in islam u have to take a shower after intercourse, or ur known as dirty abd cant pray. i can understand why u feel offended. dont let it get to you.
2007-09-04 10:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by missclare69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋