I don't have many friends. I find it difficult to talk to people. Previously I used to stay at home in front of the TV / internet / drinking beer etc.. but lately I have started going to places by myself.. clubs, sporting activities, museums etc... I do what I like and no longer care what anyone thinks.. sometimes I spend the whole night in the club without talking to anyone.. sometimes I meet people but these aquaintances are only temporary... I stopped drinking alcohol.. now I only order juice.. red bull etc... when I am by myself I can observe other people much more and I have noticed that friends are usually just sheep copying each other...
I wrote my thoughts here... let me know what you think or share your experiences.. I would be interested to hear about it
2007-09-04 09:42:22 · 13 answers · asked by Beast from the East 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Very few people would go clubbing alone. What I find sad is that the women dance with each other in groups - and so do the men! Oh dear..
2007-09-04 09:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been on my own since my partner left me three years ago, and my best friends all live several hours away. I work 25 miles away from home, so while I have some good friends at work, it's a little difficult to socialise with them after work, as I have to leave early, or they do, because of children.
I haven't yet been to a nightclub by myself, but I have been to several concerts on my own, have joined an archery club, visited several NT properties, and am planning on visiting museums and lectures over the winter. I've got several more NT properties lined up to visit over the next few weeks, and have got another couple of concerts lined up in October and November.
I'm also planning on going on holiday to Venice for my 40th birthday - I'm prepared to go on my own, although a friend has said she'd like to come with me.
I've got to the point now that if I don't do something that I want to do, then I'll never do it in the first place.
2007-09-04 09:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by cranston 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I actually love going places - even bars and clubs - by myself because I just sort of like to do what I want to do when I want to do it. I don't have to listen to the whining or worry about what my friends are doing or what guys they're bringing home or feel bad about dancing with different guys because it makes my guy friends feel left out and then they get all moody on me. I can meet and chat with new people and leave when I want, and get food when I want and where I want.
I've been to dance clubs alone quite a lot because I have a strange problem: I love to go out and drink and dance. Mostly, I love to dance. I live by myself with two cats and love it, but it also means I don't have roommates to drag out with me. So on nights when none of my friends are in town or none of my friends want to dance or I can't find anyone to go out with and I desperately need to dance, I go alone. It's worked pretty well for me. I never get so drunk that I don't know what's going on, and I usually leave early so I'm not walking home at 3 a.m.
So don't feel too bad or weird about going out alone. Learn to muster up the confidence to say hello to a few people when you're out. No need to hermitize. You'll meet some interesting folks - probably even a few that you actually like - and hear and learn some interesting things.
2007-09-04 10:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never been to a night club on my own (reason being I do't like them) but I do sometimes go place by myself.
I've bee to see a couple of bands by myself and still had a really good time.
I, like yourself don't care what other people think, if I want to go somewhere and no-one else does, I don't let this stop me doing it :)
2007-09-04 11:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really brave. I'd never be able to go to a club by myself. I'm a social creature, my friend says it's because I'm a Leo, I say it's because one of my biggest fears is being on my own. You're obviously strong to be able to go to these places on your own, but it's not healthy to spend too much time by yourself. Humans are social creatures and need company, not all the time, but some of the time.
Either way, good luck.
2007-09-04 14:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I think that it's great you are making an effort to go out and talk to people, but the way you say you observe them and speak of them like you are not above them but hold them in contempt to a degree. I don't think is healthy dude, I think this is the kinda **** that people do and think before they go into a school with a shot gun. Wanna friend? I'll be your friend, as long as you promise not to be weird ok?
2007-09-04 09:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I do. If I want to go out and no one wants to come with me, I will go alone. I'm a big girl and I can take care of myself. I don't care what others' think about it either. Good luck. 2D
2007-09-04 10:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by 2D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 22:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you,most people are just copying each other,wearing the same thing ect
like clones.probably teenagers.
I suppose if you are comfortable going yourself,then Its fine,if you enjoy it then thats good.
to get to the stage where you dont care what people think must be nice?
2007-09-04 09:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by I dont know 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's cool that you're not afraid to go places by yourself but I have to say nightclubs on your own is a bad idea love...
I'm assuming you're a man but it's still not really safe to go on your own - be careful, people are mad (especially when they've had alcohol + drugs.)
2007-09-04 09:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by 地獄 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋