I guess my 14 year old daughter didnt show up for school today. Im just gonna wait to see if she comes home at the normal time today and acts like nothing happened. How should I go about dealing with this? Ive taken stuff away from her before and she doesnt care. I just dont know what else to do.
2007-09-04 09:41:30 · 19 answers · asked by heysanj75 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sucks not knowing where she actually IS going in the morning...but, I'd start with a made-up story...like, "Hey, what did I hear on the radio today about that teacher and student altercation?"
See how that pans out. Then tomorrow (admission in hand, or not), I'd walk her to her class and get a visitors pass and have the 1st period teacher announce to the class, "(your daughter's name)'s mom will be joining our class today. Let's give her a nice welcome." Don't say a word to her until after the first period class...then simply say, very calmly, "Ditch school again, and it'll get worse."
There are ways to monitor your child's attendance via the internet, through the school's website. All you need is their student number and a password....the principal or dean will be more than happy to assist a concerned parent.
2007-09-04 14:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by imrt70 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a good punishment to fit the crime. Take away something may not be enough for skipping school. Especially since she was probably doing other things during the day that you would not be too happy about.
Maybe she should sacrifice her weekends for a month volunteering to help the homeless or do community service for the town? She needs a consequence that will help her understand why going and staying in school is so important.
Also take a good look at who she's hanging out with. I'm certain she wasnt all by herself today.
Be prepared to be the enemy, but know that you are in the right! You are the parent.
Good luck!
2007-09-04 09:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by rebecca d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her and ask her why she did it and where did she go. Being a teenager once myself, I always skipped school. My parents would drive me and pick me up but there was just no way to keep me there. My point is that you can't keep her there if the school doesn't make sure there isn't a way for the kids to get out on their own. All you can do is talk to her. We've all been there and you kind of just have to deal with it however you see fit.
2007-09-04 09:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it a live person or a recording? Was the absence for one class or for more than one class? Does your daughter have a history of this?
First, make sure she really wasn't in class. I taught for 8 years, and sometimes we do make mistakes on attendance, especially if a student was tardy or was in the counseling office during class, for example.
Next, assuming she did cut school and this is a pattern: I'd tell her that obviously she needs help getting to school, so from now on you'll be escorting her to her first class. If necessary, go to school with her (talk to the school first to arrange this) and just sit in the back of the room. I guarantee you that your daughter does NOT want her Mother walking her to class and especially does NOT want you sitting in her classes with her, so she'll start going to school.
I realize you probably have a job and this might be tricky, but if it's at all possible for you to do this, it will work.
2007-09-04 09:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
ok here's what i would do
1)ask were she was during school
2)then tell her if she doesn't get her act together she is going under house arrest major gounding no friends,no t.v.,and that you are going to pile the chores.
two months thats how long she's gounded.as soon as she gets home for school of the next two months she goes straight to her room and does her home-work,then her chores eats dinner and then straight to bed.this is a very serious thing she did i no i may seem harsh but she should get in major trouble for this .let her know that your not messing around if she gets smart then add on to the grounding.
2007-09-04 09:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by bookwyrm64744 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would act like nothing happend and see what she says ask her about this class and try to sit down w/ her to do her home work and see what she has (and maybe make a joke like did you go to school today when she says she doesn't have anything) ...after that just keep it up like shes doin great make her feel bad then if she keeps doing it start taken her to school and walk her to the office if you have to and then pickin her up in the office every day...she needs to go to school
also iwould look in to see if someone is picking on her or if there is another reason why she isn't goin to school and what she is doing all day
2007-09-04 09:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fairly i might talk with the college and enable them to appreciate which you recommend organization and that those females can no longer proceed to bully your daughter and be getting away with basically a slap to the wrist. i might additionally usher in those superb little messages that they despatched your daughter online... fairly you are able to have banned your daughter from that distinctive face e book account and continued allowing them to write her so as that way you have had greater evidence on those 2. additionally tell the college in the experience that your daughter maintains being bullied and not something is finished to the bullies that they are going to be getting a decision out of your attorney as will the girls mom and dad... yet the two way i might nonetheless pass to the state board and report a grievance regardless in the event that they alter or no longer. If no longer something differences i might pass her or living house college her for some years and enable those bullies locate some one else.
2016-10-19 22:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about her day and just keep going at it until she gives up or finally just let her know you know. Every early in the year to be cutting classes. You can always drop her off and see if she gets there and I know she will hate it but if she wants to be treated with responsibility, she has to show that she is responsible
2007-09-04 09:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Done 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she's skipping school, just talk to her. Taking things away without finding out what the reason behind why she's playing hooky isnt going to solve the problem. If she wont talk just let her know she can talk to you and maybe you should have a friend take her to school and watch her go in so she cant leave if you cant take her yourself it would be embarassing to her but that be what it takes.
2007-09-04 09:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by ~Holls~ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ground her! Tell her to stay in the house for 2 month without going out! And call the school every week to see if she's done anything wrong....
2007-09-04 09:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋