No use crying over spilled milk. They turned out just fine in spite of having me for a mother.
2007-09-04 09:13:51 · 19 answers · asked by Southern Comfort 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Two sons now 30 and 27. I wish I had really listened to them alot more. Accepted them and encouraged them -not tried to change them...spent more family time having FUN. We lived in the country. Rural life was great and protected and many issues did not arise. Raising kids is the main purpose- the feature movie-not the trailer- not the bit you do before you get on with your own life! They are okay...one has two daughters of his own now. We get on well enough.
Daughter 15, son 12, daughter 11. Much harder ....trying to be firmer as town living has meant more parenting issues. Trying to balance keeping them safe with knowing when to allow some freedoms. Trying not to be so engrossed in my own pursuits and job to really get them through -healthy and happy. One day at a time but also remembering there are no perfect parents. Learning there must be consequences for every behaviour and not to protect them from finding that out. Also to be consistent and think before saying Yes or No. What i did right with older children I may stuff up with younger children and vice versa. I want to enjoy them more and keep affection between us...but life is so hectic. They are the most important task of my life.
Accepting all resources and support needed from friends, schools, family and Father in Heaven!
2007-09-04 10:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I would have been able to just be a stay at home Mom. But under the circumstances, I've had to work all of our married life. My daughter has turned out wonderful. She is such a loving, caring person and I'm so proud of her. The past 27 years went by too fast, I just wish I could have been home every single day just being a Mom. She's married now and has 3 step children. I see a lot of my "Mothering" traits in how she treats the 3 children, so I guess I left a positve impact on her in the time I did get to spend with her. She never fails to say I love you when ending a phone conversation and always gives me hugs and kisses and a lot of " I love you Mom" when I see her. Guess I must have done something right.
2007-09-04 22:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Darlene mouse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not that I can recall. I tried to keep his eyes open to the world around him. I didn't shelter him from the truth. We traveled a bit, but he came up on the beach, in the Florida Keys and South Padre Island, Texas. He has alot of lifetime friends and is with them now. He is having the time of his life:~)
I did the best I could and we remain very close
2007-09-04 16:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I would not have missed the instruction manuel that I am sure they must have handed out at the hospital. I wish I would have spent less time trying to work my way up the ladder and more time with them. We are making up for it now, and the grandchildren are an awesome gift!
2007-09-04 21:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could have stayed home to be a full time mom, but I had no choice, I had to work. I feel like I wasn't 'there' for her 100%. She did turn out to be a wonderful person, though.
2007-09-04 16:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Starscape 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I would have been more involved in a church. We went but it wasn't on a regular basis. I also would have divorced their father earlier. I stayed with him (after he cheated) because I thought it was in their best interest. After we divorced, they said they were happier because they knew we were both happier. I would have loved to have been able to show them what a loving, happy marriage is all about. I think children are a lot smarter than we give them credit for.
2007-09-04 17:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh gee...where do I begin? I think I would have focused more on family time and less on dance classes, music classes and so forth!
I am sure I could make a list here but, all I can say is that I did my best with what I had! I think that is all any of us can say or, do!
2007-09-04 20:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, when my husband wanted us to leave our beautiful home and community for a dead-end job he'd taken, I should have let him go and stayed behind with the children, kept my teaching position and realized he was preparing to ditch the marriage and making it harder for me to have a stable life. I've worked like a dog as a result of what he did and it's ruined my health.
2007-09-04 19:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who answers NO to this question is a lair, pure and simple...there is no one who has ever lived who has found that hind sight is far better than foresight! We do what we can with what we have...simple as that. Regrets? not much used, is there..they all grow up in spite of what we do, and they are all their own people, thankfully. good luck and peace..Goldwing
2007-09-04 17:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Yes, but they survived me being their mom and turned out well without arrests or substance abuse.
I do wish that their father and I would have remained married longer so that they had a 2 parent household, but they survived
despite me!
2007-09-04 16:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by slk29406 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋