I'm 20 yrs old and live with my parents me and my ex-boyfriend broke up 2 wks ago I found out this weekend that I'm pregnant. The thing is I had cancer cells when I was 18 and because of the surgery the doctor told me I was not going to have kids. I know the situation is bad but wat if this is a miracle child and I will never be able to have another one.... Should I keep it? Is it a miracle child?
2007-09-04 09:13:02 · 14 answers · asked by babyyaya86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you think I am being selfish and only thinking about my self or is he being selfish??? He states I am ruining his life is that true???
2007-09-04 09:15:39 · update #1
There are plenty of mothers raising their children without the support of the father. This is your decision and your decision alone. Follow your heart. Good luck
2007-09-04 09:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have options. If you feel now you want to keep the baby. And when you feel that it's too much for you and your only 20. Your right it might be a miracle baby. It happens. But you have a lot of options. even after you have the baby you can put it up for adoption. there are plenty of couples out there that can't have their own that would love to adopt one. Talk to your mom and dad. let them know how you feel and want I'm sure they will help you. The lord will show you the way but you have to talk it over with your doctor's and your parents. You will find the right answer for the baby and for your. God is with you always. Your right maybe he is telling you to take a chance. Good luch. Miracles do happen. I had a miracle baby she had heart surgery & could of died but had surgery on her heart when she was just 10 days old and survived. she is my miracle baby. Pray a lot and good luck to you what ever you do decide. oh tell the father what ever you do. and if you do keep it get child support from him!
2007-09-04 10:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by jennajade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if the child is not a miracle child it is still your child but the fact that you were told you can't have kids...then yes you should definitely take this as a blessing even if the road ahead will be rough. It is all up to you but think of what is the best interest for the child. If you think that you can take care of the child all on your own then I say that is very admirable and do it. **** the dead beat father...your child doesn't need anyone in his or her life that doesn't love him or her. You did not ruin his life. It takes two. If he doesn't want to own up to his responsibilities then take his sorry *** to court!
2007-09-04 09:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! This is a decision that only you can make, especially since your ex doesn't want to be involved. Do you have a strong family and friends unit? Raising a child is so rewarding, but also a full-time responsibility. It truly does help if you have support from family and friends. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-09-04 09:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is call your OBGYN and set up an appointment. If you are close with your mom you should tell her, too. This might be a high risk pregnancy and your doctor might tell you not to have it, or he/she could tell you it is a miracle baby and it is your only chance to have one. The one thing you need to consider is that you are only 18. The rest of your life will be hard, you will be giving up a big chunk of your life to raise a baby. It is your body and your decision. Just make a wise one. ;)
2007-09-04 09:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by princessannie122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have thought about it before having sex. If you want to keep it, that isn't selfish. You may have to get a lawyer to force him to pay child support when the baby is born. And if you don't think you can have anymore children, then no it isn't selfish to keep it. You should see your dr. and perhaps a therapist to decide what you want to do. And please trust me, if he isn't going to be a supportive daddy, you NEED to have people in your life who are going to help you. I couldn't have done it without my husband. We knew each other for about 1 month, dating for 2 weeks when I was pregnant. It worked out for us. But you will need help with the ups and downs.
2007-09-04 09:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your decision and if you feel in your heart that its your miracle child, then keep him or her! If he doesn't want anything to do with it, let him go! He could just pay child support. You're not being selfish, this is your child you're talking about.
2007-09-04 09:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of, you're able to save your toddler. He/She is a miracle toddler! You have been informed you probable does no longer be waiting to conceive yet right here you're pregnant. it is magnificent! i think of you're able to think of long and tense earlier identifying to get rid of your toddler because of the fact who's to assert you would be waiting to concieve returned? Screw the ex...he's an ex for a reason and honey...its the year 2007 and you do no longer decide for a guy to advance a toddler. It enables yet on no account is it manditory. Im 29 and my mom raised me on her very own and that i think of I became out quite stable :) My honest opinion, definite you're being egocentric yet no longer as much as he's considering you're truly leaning greater in direction of conserving your toddler. And as for you 'ruining' his existence, nicely he could of concept approximately that earlier having intercourse, regardless if it replaced into secure or no longer. He sounds like a actual character and you shouldnt pay attention to him, pay attention to your coronary heart. stable luck!
2016-10-09 22:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a WOMAN!!!
And what that means is you can do whatever, for yourself and by yourself, without the need of a man.
The only thing they are somewhat good for is a ****, but hell, dildos do better than that half the time.
I do not understand why guys think that because they say no, that is the end of it, Have your baby, if that 's how you feel.
No one can take this gift away from you but you, and if you listen to him and what he wants, you will be robbing yourself from a dream fulfilled.
Good Luck , and God Bless this Baby.
2007-09-04 09:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is going to be a human child, and that she/he will wish that she had her mom if you give her/him to an adoption center. Keep your baby, and I hope all goes well. Good luck with the baby! If you have anything to say about my answer, you can email me at brittanyzeisel@yahoo.com.
2007-09-04 09:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋