the reason for domestic abuse is almost always psychological or emotional dysfunction of some sort. it is impossible to say "he (or she) did it because............" it often stems from insecurity, and is also frequently a recurring pattern- kids who grow up in violent homes have a higher chance of finding themselves one part of a violent relationship either as abuser or abusee. it is not logical or explainable. stress and financial problems can be triggers or can exacerbate the problem. violence toward someone to get sex off them is rape and not all domestic violence is rape, but it can be. there are no hard and fast answers to your question, each person, and each situation, will have its own characteristics, their own reasons for their behaviour. most people who abuse their partners feel remorse but continue to abuse and become trapped in cycles of anger, violence, and then guilt, and it goes round and round. they will say its because their dad beat them, or their partner winds them up, there are a thousand excuses, but not one is a reason.
i have known more than one friend who have been in abusive relationships, both physical and emotional and one thing i can say is that in 99% of these cases(that is not an official statistic) these people do not change. they will continue to abuse as long as they are allowed, and tend to be able to spot a woman who will allow it, from 50 paces. conversely a lot of girls who have an abusive relationship go into another one(cos theyre spottable, see?) also if you want to help and youre pushy she will likely pick him over you-shes only in the relationship cos shes not seeing clearly. let her know you are there for her and that you care. shes allowing this because of her own insecurity and possibly cos she believes thats what shes worth. be her friend and support her.
2007-09-04 09:32:56
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answered by twinkly_toes 4
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Lots of people are physically abusive towards a partner at some time or another. Sometimes its a one-off and the result of extreme stress but serial abuse is a different matter and usually has more to do with the inability of the abuser to express themselves in any other way. All their frustrations, anger, shame, guilt etc come out in a punch. Its not an excuse for that behaviour as we can be better than that. I think the abused partner puts up with alot as they know their partner so well and often know why they are like that. Love can make people want to help - its a pity it doesn't work! You cannot judge from the outside though - its such a personal and strangely intimate thing - I suppose thats why is swept under the carpet so much!
2007-09-04 09:54:57
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answered by AUNTY EM 6
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there's a manner (a manner) that seems precise to humankind, in spite of the fact that that's no longer God's way. God hears and solutions all prayers yet maybe no longer in the way which you envision or pick him to. He could answer rapidly or possibly after a quantity of time or he could deny your request because you're inquiring for the incorrect motives. some don't understand why God facilitates evil to declare what maximum think of of as harmless toddlers or does not grant a prayer request to save a kinfolk existence. i do no longer declare to nicely known each and every of the solutions yet i think Gods answer is the main suitable a threat answer for any difficulty you are able to adventure. As a Christian i could somewhat have God's will for an consequence than my own any day. Humankind has an inclination to anticipate God to do their bidding in all complicated circumstances yet ask your self this question. the place have been you while God spoke you into creation and created all this is or ever would be? are you able to save your self or do you pick a savior? Gods will on your existence is far extra beneficial than what you have chosen or want for your self. you need to understand that the clarification specifically circumstances God does not pick to sidestep evil from entering ones existence is for a more desirable objective and as complicated because it may desire to be to understand the why's and wherefore's God's will for the end result's far extra beneficial than what you save in suggestions in spite of the circumstances.
2016-10-17 23:01:06
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answered by ? 4
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it is a scary thing being abused. people do it for different reasons, some people think its fun and do it for the pleasure of it and some people just do it so their partner will be too scared to leave him. some people also do when their jealous and also to show off for their friends.
2007-09-05 12:29:40
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answered by Anonymous
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Control. Manipulation. To bring down that partners self esteem. Stress and financial problems etc are not reasons, they're excuses.
2007-09-04 09:14:16
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answered by Anonymous
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The abuse you are talking about is only about CONTROL . It will not get better than it is right this minute and will probably get worse. Your friend needs to get out of this kind of relationship and she needs help, too, or she will continue to choose men like this man, over & over again. Mostly, it's a learned behavior.
2007-09-04 09:30:51
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answered by Anonymous
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The only way to have someone around you is to either make them love you and stay, or be too afraid to leave.
2007-09-04 09:12:59
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answered by Anonymous
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As far as I am concerned there are no reasons, it is simple, Physical abuse should not happen, no matter what is occuring in his/her life. It is selfish and only a coward can hit out!
2007-09-04 09:12:35
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answered by Anonymous
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There is no excuse for any kind of abuse. Mental or physical.
You need to walk away from a relationship of this kind. If it family talk to someone about it.
I hope you're okay.
2007-09-04 09:30:06
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answered by taduska 1
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They have seen this sort of behaviour growing up which leads to them feeling insecure and thinking bad things are going to happen, which of course is an excuse
2007-09-04 09:17:09
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answered by Anonymous
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