My 8 month old baby was taken 5 years ago. My abusive ex husband stole him out of my car. I am tormented every day. I am not allowed to see my baby boy. I don't know what to do anymore. I am tired of the pain, hurt, humiliation. Please help.
2007-09-04 09:04:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband was an abuser. He abused me and my older child. Then I had my second son, the one he took from me after I left him. I did call 911, been to court, and my husband fled the state in which he lived. So I don't need any smart remarks from ignorant people who don't have any idea what I am going through.
2007-09-04 09:17:33 · update #1
WHAT I NEED MOST HERE IS PRAYER AND SUPPORT.
2007-09-04 09:18:46 · update #2
Sounds like a police matter to me. You should have called 911 five years ago.
2007-09-04 09:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through and it's the worse pain anyone can feel. I've done a lot of research on this as well as written a non-fiction book on abusers and how they continue their abuse in court. Finding an attorney to go through a custody battle is costly and no attorney will take a case like this pro bono. What you need to do is "follow the rules" and play the game. Ask for supervised visits in a visitation center. I had to go through it and because I was a victim, they waived the fee. Ask for weekly visits. An abuser hates keeping a court ordered schedule. Play with your little boy during visits. Make lunches. Don't say anything negative about his father. I had to play this game for 2 years and my ex still didn't want me to see them alone. The judge saw my perfect, pristine records and put a stop to his nonsense. It's time these abusers are stopped. Good Luck!!!
2007-09-04 16:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going threw.When me and my first husband split up he took my son from me. We got into a big fight and I got put in jail, when I can home all my things had been packed and all of my sons things was gone.Every picture of him every toy it's like he didn't even exist.I called the police and they told me there is nothing that could be done because, it was just a father taking care of his son.I didn't eat, I couldn't sleep, All I did was cry. I found out I was pregnant and it was a whole year before I seen my son again.I know it is hard, especially for a mother.What can you do? You can try to prove he is a bad person, and the kid is better with you, if you know where they are at.(my son was in another state too)After five years I'm not sure if you can take him just like that and especially if he is in another state.
2007-09-04 16:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you because a child has been stolen from its mother and you were abruise by this man. He took your child to another state and you cant see your baby the memory of him is still with you. My god answers prayers and all you have to do is get down on your knees and ask him to heal your brokend heart. and also to for give this man for what he has done to you. Dont give up my prayers are with you always.
best of luck
2007-09-04 20:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this. You should check into some personal counseling. I don't think you'll ever 'get over it' but after 5 years it should not be tormenting you daily. You are not allowing your life to move on.
2007-09-04 16:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truely was stolen aka kidnapped, why have you allowed 5 years to go by without doing something? You said you are not allowed to see him. Is this because you don't know where he is, or because someone doesn't let you? If it's the ladder, is that "someone" the courts? What's really the story here?
2007-09-04 16:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be seeking the advice of an attorney instead of the advice of Yahoos. An attorney would be in the best position to honestly answer your questions and concerns.
2007-09-04 16:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up! Ask God to help alleviate your pain. Why can't you see your son? Do you know where he is? The authorities can't help you? You need to get a lawyer.
Stay encouraged. I pray that your situation will get better.
2007-09-04 16:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by lawstudntbynite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't!
you have to fight for your rights!!!!! call the police, get an attorney and fight for custody. if you already have custody of your child, then you need to get your husband arrested for kidnapping.
you are the child's mother and have a right to see him. don't loose your hope and keep trying.... remember that your son also has the right to know his mother and have a relationship with you.
my prayers are with you.
2007-09-04 16:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
5 years is long time your baby most likely calls someone else mommy u obviously didn't care 2 much u didn't do nothing 5 years ago
2007-09-04 16:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋