I am 62 and want to be very active sexually but my wife only will allow it one or two times a week.Can anyone offer me any help?
2007-09-04 08:31:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Were you sexually active more than that before you were married? It's my husband that doesn't want sex that often, it's a medical problem and he won't go to the doctor for help, it's really frustrating we've been together 30 yrs....Talk to her see what the problem is, your newlyweds......., I hope you can work it out, ......
2007-09-04 08:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Greeneyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman in her late 50's or early 60's isn't going to have the sex drive she used to.....it has been studied and restudied. Her drive is not going to be the same as yours. You can't exactly change someone's hormones and actually, a woman her age shouldn't be playing around with her body (taking hormone supplements) like that anyway. If she is just tolerating your sexual advances maybe, you can be up front and talk to her about your urges.....married couples with a lot of years invested can usually come up with an alternative. If not, I cannot believe a man with so many years invested in a relationship would want to break it off just for sex. It seems so incredibly awful. How would your kids feel, your grandkids and your friends and other family....breaking up over sex at your age????
2007-09-04 08:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
was she more active before the marriage? if not, then it is unrealistic and unfair to expect more from her now. if she was more active before the marriage, perhaps she is just adjusting to married life. also, consider whether she has started any new meds or discovered any new medical issues or menopause. all can effect libido.
if you want to try to get more lovin', don't focus on just sex. sometimes women feel like their husbands treat them like sex toys. hold her hand, be romantic, hug, kiss. these will often lead to sex, but are more emotional and fulfilling for some women.
also, objectively analyze whether your expectations & views on sex have changed now that you're married. do you expect it more now that you're married?
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2007-09-04 09:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use a little 5 finger magic on yourself the other days of the week. Do it in front of her. Not to make her feel ashamed of not fulfilling her duties, but to maybe excite her. If you do it to shame her, she will become resentful. Then you won't get any for a month or so.
2007-09-04 08:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by shellysd 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
lmao If you're gettin' it once a week at 62, you should count your blessings! Start counting, and don't stop.
2007-09-04 09:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude if ur 62 you should be lucky 2 get it once every eternity
2007-09-04 09:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by pennypoolblue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just leave her alone if she wants it then she will let you do more but until then give her time.
2007-09-04 08:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to sex counseling with her or seriously not being gross masturbate and release that way.
2007-09-04 08:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did you ever hear of a mistress.
Women should know that if they want fidelity in a relationship ,the man NEEDS his sex .
If he doesn`t get it home ,then a man will roam .
2007-09-04 08:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
pamper her and make it not feel like a TASK
2007-09-04 08:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋