I understand not texting when we are mad. Normally he texts me something about anything. Why is he someone else around them? Once his parents passed on, I'd had enough of his family, and put my foot down and wouldn't go to anymore functions/holidays etc. They would say things to me in front of him and he'd sit contently. Or I'd tell him things that had happen and he'd make excuses for how they were to me, and our daughter etc. I finally told him, it was as if I had no husband at all. Well Sat. I worked and got not text at all, not even a reply. I noticed it's happened before when he visited with them. Well he was with them. I got home early and killed some time at a movie, but felt uneasy. I felt sad, alone, distant. Sun. He got confrontational, and demanded to know why it bothered me. I pointed out the pattern I'd seen."You don't need me when you are with them." The he said, "I'm moving out." I asked if he had anything to negate what I had said. "No! I'm moving out."
2007-09-04 08:30:22 · 7 answers · asked by so tired 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He is the youngest in a large family. We've been married ten years. Would he rather reamain unmarried 40ish boy?
2007-09-04 08:46:53 · update #1
Says he'll move when the house sells. Now he is cleaning up the yard, and talking about how "we" can enjoy the yard together, and sleeping in the other room. I talked and said yeares ago, if he said his family didn't have any sway over him, we would be where we are. No reply.
2007-09-07 01:45:07 · update #2
Says he wants to move out because he'd tire of the drama.
2007-09-07 01:46:34 · update #3
Sorry, typos, said we wouldn't be wher we are right now. No reply,
2007-09-07 01:47:50 · update #4
You're really going to have to ask your husband why he does anything. Oh, he's moving out? Well, there's your answer. Your marriage is over, so prepare yourself for a divorce. You may get some answers in the court papers.
2007-09-11 13:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage, you are part of his family and he is part of yours. When you can't share family time with him, he becomes used to your absence. It is a separation or abandonment and pulls you away from each other. Sad fact is unless you engage in all things together, you will not grow together. Sorry for the pain you are going through. If you two don't try to find a solution, it will get worse. Try counseling. It might help. C. :)!!
2007-09-10 14:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I noticed is you trying to change him. I can't change anyone except myself, and how I react. If I push this on someone else, the natural reaction for them is to pull away. The more I push, the more they pull away. I must accept others as they are and appreciate what I can about them. Otherwise, I can push someone I love right out of my life. Would you rather be happy, or would you rather be right? It is all up to you.
may peace be with you
2007-09-09 10:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very stuborn. he;s your husband not your boyfriend.. he should be taking your relationship more seriously - instead of acting like a child. you need to talk to him and get everything thats bothering you both out in the open.. it seems like your both keeping your feelings to yourself. tell him everything your upset about and tell him that he needs to listen to you. you have to work at a relationship becuase there are always times when things get hard.. the main thing is that you get throught them together. why does he want to move out? it seems to me like he's running away and doesnt want to face the facts of the things that are bothering him. let him knw that your there for him and understand, also want to help. good luck!
2007-09-04 15:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have reached a point in your marriage where you both need to rethink your earlier decisions!
Maybe you can begin to develop a relationship with his family & he can try to respect your insecurities regarding his family!
**Good Luck To You**
2007-09-11 19:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he's just unhappy. He needs to realize that u n him are more important than his family making fun of u. it seems like he doesnt want to b bothered when hes around his family which he loves too its hard to play both sides of the field when it comes to ur family vs ur relationship
2007-09-04 15:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by sam_freudiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first years of marriage is heaven....... then the next years, everything slowly mellows down...and ten years...he would just be like a brother,,,....everything changes...nothing remains ideally perfect...he probably has reasons....reasons he cannot tell or is ashamed to tell to you...I'm sorry to hear you sad story...
2007-09-10 11:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by root chord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋