i found out 6 weeks ago that my x fiance was cheating on me. we havnt spoken in 2 weeks and i know i deserve better but i cry everyday still and am feeling depressed.i live alone so i feel lonely.i try to go out but i still feel crappy.anyone been though this before?any ideas on how i can feel better?thanks for your help!
2007-09-04 08:23:40 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time will heal all wounds! Arent you glad that you found out when you did before you jumped the broom! Just force yourself to go out and do some things that you'd enjoy doing by yourself. Trust me, the crappy feeling is quite normal and when its gone you will be looking back wondering how you ever felt so bad over such a lame! Karma is real, and he will get his payback! Cheer Up!!
2007-09-04 08:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by mrsclh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! That was close! Be thankful he's an Ex!
These feelings won't go away as fast as you want but focus on what you really want.
If you don't want to be alone, work on that. Plan (especially with friends), execute, re-work the plan and enjoy the game. Take your time to have fun in the game. The more involved you get, the less you'll think of what was. If you met a new hunk of a man today, how much time do you think you'll spend remorsing of what was.
Plus, think of things that you are thankful for. Start there. If you find yourself regressing to the "depressing" thoughts, find a way to break the thought pattern. Put on a good upbeat dancing song. That usually works for me.
2007-09-04 16:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer. My husband of 34+ years walked out on me over 2 years ago, I'm still trying to heal, It hurts a little less every day, but I sometimes wonder if I'll always love him. Dwell on the good memories, forget the bad memories, and believe that there is a reason for everything.
2007-09-04 15:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by survivorx3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, sorry you had to go through this. In your heart, know that you really don't want someone with you who would treat you this way and aren't you glad you found out before marrying him. It helped me to write my feelings down in a journal; kind of a therapy to get rid of those pent up emotions. You will feel this way for awhile; it is like a death; the death of what you had. Know also that you are capable of so much love and care for someone and have it to give to another who deserves it. The pain shows how deeply you can care and give to another. Try to do things that you enjoy; know it isn't easy - I can remember painting picutres with tears streaming down my face; enjoying the painting, but feeling the hurt at the same time. Keep busy and if it gets way too much - tell God or the universe - hey - this is way too much for me, I'm placing it in your hands to help me heal. Mingle with other people who have your same interests; it will help. One day, you'll wake up and won't feel that ache inside of you anymore.
2007-09-04 15:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...Why haven't you talked to him about this? There are two people in this relationship right? Give him the chance to explain himself. You can then decide if you want to believe him and make a decision about your relationship. Grown ups talk things over before they make a decision. Don't spend all your time just crying about this. Let him know where you stand and that you are a real person with feelings and would like to be treated with respect.
2007-09-04 15:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same now and its been a year and a half over my husband of 10 years so I now its hard better than anyone...You just have to pray, take classes, go out keep yourself busy. One day the pain will go away a little. The next day the pain will go away a little more. Everyday it will get a little easier the more busy you keep yourself.
2007-09-04 15:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while. Part of it will depend on how long you two were together. A few weeks is definatly not enough time. I went through a lot when my ex and I divorced. Email me through my profile if you want to chat. Good luck.
2007-09-04 15:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Jena, Sweety it is different for us all ! I am a man and sometimes I still cry for my lost love and that was 30 years ago ! Just being honest, sorry.
2007-09-04 15:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt and it will for a long time. You just to have to keep going. At first you make yourself get up and make yourself keep doing your everday stuff make yourself go out and have fun it will go away slowly
2007-09-04 15:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and get some of your new best friends ( ben and jerry godiva and hagendaz) these will help you get through the worst part then watch a man hatting movie to get over him.....
2007-09-04 15:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋