My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and my dad absolutely hates him, (of course I live with my dad, since my Mom died last year) my question is we want to be together so much that we are thinking about moving far away..is this wrong to do?
2007-09-04 08:11:55 · 43 answers · asked by Ge Ge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Age 34 is more than sufficient to run away. It's called "moving out and being a grownup."
2007-09-04 08:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living with your Dad? Is it because he needs your care and help? If so then I would think twice before I ran away with another man. Your father helped bring you into this world and probably helped raise you. If it were me I would set down with my dad and ask him why he did not like my love and see if there was a way you could work it out with him. Your dad probably will not be around many more years, so do you really want to break your ties with him. You may resent your decision the rest of your life and then end up resenting the man you ran away with. And then would you be left all alone???
2007-09-04 08:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by buddybrickmason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No why would you have to runaway with this man. you are a grown woman. You shouldn't have to run anywhere. Why does your dad hate him think about it. Sometimes parents have an insight to these things and maybe theres a good reason for the hate. Sometimes we become blind to the person we think we love. If your dad truly has no reason to hate him. Marry him anyway have a wedding and invite your father if he comes good if not then his lost but he is your father and he will get over being mad at his little girl.
2007-09-04 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on you're 34. You should have been out of the house a long time ago. If, however, you are there caring for your father, and he needs you, it would be wrong to haul off just because he doesn't like this guy. Is this guy going to marry you or just shack up until something better comes along? Can he support himself and you, too? It doesn't really sound like it. Think this one through.
2007-09-04 08:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by gailforce_wind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is only 9, and I already hate future boyfriends.
But lets review:
1, your father is your only surviving parent.
2, you are 34
3, you are still living at home
so here it is
His home, his rules
You didn't say anything about your boyfriend, or why your dad hates him. Just as women have "Gay-dar" Men have "Slime-dar" Sit down and ask your dad why. He might have a point.
OH, your 34, find your own place. but running away is never the answer.
2007-09-04 08:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining he situation to your father. Tell him your a grown woman and that it should be your decision. Maybe theres a reason your father doesn't like him. Don't move far away you;ll break his heart and since your mother passed away he'll be really lonely. He's the one that gave up so much to have you so think of both of you before you decide. I'd suggest you move in to a place maybe a few minutes away,
GOod Luck:)
2007-09-04 08:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out your father's side of the story. This boyfriend is already married, isn't he. And he has no job and drinks too much. He will be running out on his wife with a small child, won't he?
He has no car, and no money, and he wants to run away to Las Vegas where he can earn a lot as a poker player, huh?
And now you are pregnant?
Your question is too easy to answer, there must be more to it!!!
2007-09-04 08:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Blues Lovin' Daddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong. But be SURE thats what YOU want to do. I moved 1000 miles away to be with a man and it didn't work out. But I love where I live now and will never go back. Its a huge life change - be sure you're ready for it. And be totally sure you have anough money in the bank in case you need to bolt.
2007-09-04 08:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by Misery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of a loaded questions since at 34 you can't dictate "right and wrong" other by legal and personal moral standards. If you love him and you want to be together you can't call it wrong. Your dad loves you, and I bet he will come around after some time, and when he sees how happy you are.
2007-09-04 08:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself the question, are you willing to give up a happy relationship with your father in order to persue a relationship with this man? Is he worth possibly fracturing your fathers trust and love? You have been with this man for 2 years, but with your father since birth... so your father's opinion may be more accurate than you think. Try and think of the future before making a quick decision that could forever shake the relationship with your family.
2007-09-04 08:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋