He is in late 30's, divorced and apparently miserable...he invited me for tea...I rudely said NO...i dont even know the man..and now he's being implying im a racist P@K!...what the in the world? he asks me why we get arrange marriages, why we live here-i was born here-mind you, and why do i have a nose ring...annoying...i wanna kick his white albino rear end...im not moving, i like my place and the area..what do i do?
2007-09-04 07:59:51 · 46 answers · asked by Hypocrite 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
yes i am pakistani origin and muslim is that why...or is he just a typical white english male tw@t...albino and all
2007-09-04 08:00:50 · update #1
im not moving anywhere..i was born here...i think he should move...to america
2007-09-04 08:14:01 · update #2
i have no problem with christian, jews, hindus, sikh...most of my my friend british women, of all races and religion...this is an individual case
2007-09-04 08:22:37 · update #3
move.
2007-09-04 08:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by NY Lady 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
This man may have just being polite to ask you too tea,why would you answer him in a rude manner?
Perhaps he has genuine reason to think your the racist if you want to "kick his white albino ***"
I hope you don't move, but make an effort to get on with others regardless of colour or creed.
In other words GROW UP.
2007-09-04 08:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Geoff P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he invited you to tea, does not suggest that he is a white racist,it suggests that he was being friendly, and was offended that you rudely turned him down, maybe he thinks that you were being racist because he is white.
If he was asking you questions about your way of life, (i.e arranged marriages) maybe that's because he was actually interested in your view and the reasons behind this way of thinking? The fact that you were born in England should not be an issue here, it comes down to your attitude as well as his, the fact that you are a Muslim may not matter to him, but it matters to you.
As for the nose ring thing, maybe he just thinks it looks hideous, that's nothing to do with being a Muslim or a different race to him. Your quite right not to no want to move if your happy where you are, but has he actually asked you to move?
2007-09-04 08:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by OMG 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your neighbor invited you to tea, is he really all that much of a racist? Also, while his questions reveal a profound lack of tact, is it possible that he meant them sincerely and without any intent of offense? And, if it is true that you are not a racist, then why did you feel compelled to use a racially charged epithet such as "albino"?
You need not move. Like people who don't like their neighbors everywhere around the world, you simply ignore him as much as possible and encourage him to ignore you as much as possible. Besides "kicking his ***" will land you in jail.
The real question is what are you really angry about? This man is only a trigger that you respond to with a great deal more rage than he is really worth. Are you really that mad at him personally, or does he represent the largely racist society with which you must deal on a daily basis? Also, if that is at least part of the case, what is the role of class in your feelings?
Do you feel that people of your ethnicity have been largely relegated to lower classes and denied "points of entry" to better education, work, etc.? You may have legitimate grievances against your neighbor, but I suspect much of what you are feeling is the result of the larger community in which you survive.
2007-09-04 08:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is annoying you, but maybe you should turn this to your advantage?
Accept his offer of a cup of tea, why not? If you're afraid of him, ask if you can bring your girl friend along too.
Sit down over tea and stop yourself from seeing him the way you have seen him so far.
When he asks you a stupid question, take a deep breath and imagine it is a t.v. interview - answer honestly and calmly.
Slowly educate him. Let him see you are a person with black and white sides to your character.
Be diplomatic and patient.
If he has invited you in for tea, isn't he trying to just be friendly? Trying to understand your culture too?
Maybe his questions are crude and rub you up the wrong way, but what if he has no other way to express himself?
There is no reason to be rude to him. If he is asking you things you think are silly or rude, then you are being arrogant for not answering. If you can tell a neighbour why you make choices he doesn't understand, you will be promoting cultural understanding and friendship.
Sounds to me that you are the narrow-minded rascist here because you have already judged this guy without having a civilised conversation with him.
2007-09-04 08:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by kiteeze 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I could have written your question. It isnt only White English men who do this. I have a neighbor here in California that could easily belong to a white supremicist group. He doesnt live in my building but because he claims the title of handyman, he feels he has the right to sit on our patio and yell at people passing by. Think of every racist comment you can and he's yelled it. He hates everybody. You cant be subtle with that kind of person. They dont understand subtlety.
Tell him face to face that you deserve to be treated in a civil manner and that he is violating your rights. If he persists on his little diatribes, call the local police and find out what your options are. In the meantme, dont give him the opportunity to talk to you.
2007-09-04 08:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by phlada64 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he was just trying to be friendly, you could of just declined his invitation without being rude.
It sounds to me like you are the racist he probably was asking about arranged marriages as a lot of Muslim do have them.
Take a rain check and ask yourself how you feel about White, Black, Christians, Jews, Hindu, and maybe kick your own rear end......
2007-09-04 08:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny Day 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
perhaps you shouldnt have been rude...? but your best bet is to ignore him - you've offended him and now he's trying to do the same to you. its an ego thing. if you weren't Asian, he'd pick on something else, like the clothes you wear, your hairstyle etc. dont take it personally unless he becomes really offensive.
BTW... calling a white person an albino can be construed as racist. you have said you're pakistani, but you would not like to be called a pa ki bcos of the connotations of the word. he is white and clearly not an albino (unless he is and you left out that info); whilst it may not be a common term of abuse, your tone suggests you are using it that way.
sorry for sermonising!
x
2007-09-04 08:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by third space 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i waz born and razed in south korea 4 9 years. some times korean people can be very selfish. n i do not think that people r racist that much, they do look n stare at americans alot because of there looks. i have never seen a black person in south korea, however lots of people r comming to south korea to live or to visit. so i guess u don't have to worry about racitism in south korea. but that doesn't mean that it's 100% racist proof.
2016-05-21 02:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's offended that you turned down his advances, He probably thought that you would accept because he's white. He has no right to call you a racist just because you are not interested in him. Tell him you are offended by his assumptions and ignore him. He will eventually get the hint and find something better to do with his time.
2007-09-04 08:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An offer for tea sure isn't rude, asking about traditions
is usually an icebreaker to getting to know some one.
Why don't you tell him "I'd like to kick your albino fanny" ?
That way you'll be satisfied, and he won't have to waste
his time with a rude, racist woman.
2007-09-04 08:16:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋