I let my now 15 year old in the delivery room when her brother was born (8 years now). My 11 year old daughter will be there this time. What I need opinons on is wether or not I should let my son be there. He and his sister got into an argument because he thought it was going to be his turn to be there for the birth. Up til that point I didn't realize he had such an interest. I have found this to be a wonderful form of psychological birth control and that is why I want my daughter there. What do you think? Would it be weird to let my son be there, or do you think it might give him a respect and appreciation for women down the road. Similar to the psychological bc for my girls.
2007-09-04 07:51:12 · 23 answers · asked by queenb629 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think it would be good for all of the kids to be there, if you're comfortable with that. Even though the 15 year old was there with your other child, she should attend again this time (as you say, for psychological birth control given her age). I think it could be a terrific learning experience for all of them. But only you know your kids well enough. Is your son able to handle such sights? I know some MEN who get queasy when in the delivery room with their wives! Are your daughters able? If so on all counts, and again, if you're comfortable, I say let them all share in the experience.
Congrats on the new baby!
2007-09-04 07:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would check with the hospital where you will be delivering to see if they have any restrictions on how many people can be in the delivery room or if they have an age restriction. If they don't have any age restrictions and you can have how ever many people you want in the delivery room, I think you should let any of your children in the delivery room who want to be there for the birth. I think it would be a wonderful experience for them to witness the birth of their sibling (not necessarily for the reason that it would be a form of psychological birth control!).
Some hospitals have restrictions on how many people can be in the delivery room (when my sister gave birth she could only have 2 people). If that is the case with your hospital, since you've already told your 11 year old she can be there (I assume along with the father), it wouldn't be right to go back on your word to her to allow your son to be in the delivery room.
2007-09-04 08:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by junebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really difficult question! Boy are YOU a trooper though holding out to 41 weeks!!!
At any rate - maybe little Johnny should have a sit down talk with Daddy? Thinking about man to man kind of things....
I think it's a great idea as well as maybe a slightly traumatic idea.
Does your son really know what he is in for in the delivery room?
2007-09-04 10:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by GinGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the most wonderful thing that can happen to you and your family.....I would let both in. Believe me there isn't anything there he hasn't seen before...If you exclude him and only him, you may end up having issues with him in the near future. My mother had my younger bro when I was nine. Best thing that has ever happened in my life excluding my children.
Then you weren't allowed to be in the delivery unless you were the Father........I got to see him for the first time through the window.
There is going to be some resentment towards the new baby from your children anyway. they will not be getting the attention they have grown accustom to. Don't make it any worse by excluding anyone !
2007-09-04 07:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by idez9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I disagree with your doing it solely for reasons of birth control. I'm for letting kids be there, though. It gives them better perspective on how prescious life is. After all, it really is a miracle that babies can live through so much trauma, and come out kicking (pun not intended). Birth is a beautiful thing (when you get past all the fluids, etc) and had my wife not given birth to our youngest daughter at 1am, my older daughter would have been there.
2007-09-04 07:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Joshua B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder "where is your husband" or at least the child's father. That is the person who should be there. Your children do not have a reason for being there. It is a sterile environment and the less the better. What if something happens to you? Now your children just witnessed your death! Not a great idea at all. If you want to show you daughter search you tube I'm sure there is on on there!
2007-09-04 08:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jonny B Bad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? As long as he requests to be there why not? Birth is a family thing anyhow! I think It is reality and he will know exactly what happens.....He will be apart of the birth and the siblings will talk about it for years to come, about how he was there when baby was born and probably one of the first people to hold the new baby. I think it is a great thing!
2007-09-04 07:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a great idea to have him in the delivery room...birth is very special and is also a VERY good source of "birth control" if you wanna call it that... although this is my answer only you(and your husband) can parent your kids, so it is your decision and your decision is probably best for him...if you think it would be good for him...go for it! maybe you should try talking to his dad and ask him what he thinks about it...I mean if you other kids got to see a birth I think that he should get to be able to see one too...but that is just my opinion...you kids...your choice...good luck on birthing!
P.S. That is a great life experience!
2007-09-04 08:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by livin' my life. (: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems sort of harsh to leave him out. You know kids talk smack, and it's only a matter of time before your daughter says "Mom didn't even let you be in the room."
I think it would be educational if you have a chat with them afterward: "Did you see how hard that was? That was the easy part of parenting. Think about that when you consider whether you're ready to have sex."
2007-09-04 07:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so take it your son is 8? i would wait on him an 8 yr old seems to young take that "stuff" to serious.. the decision is up to you as long as your comfortable with him in the room. yeah it may teach to teach the kid how to respect a women now but will it help in the future(respect for a women may posssibly get in the way of hormones in the future)
2007-09-04 07:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by nela jane and husband 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋