Many people are repulsed at the thought of the act but have no compunction in having a gay friend......
Is that tolerance or hypocrisy?
2007-09-04 07:50:54 · 22 answers · asked by Dream Realized 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
I don't consider that hypocrisy. I am also repulsed at the actual act (I don't want to see it), but am all for gay rights. What happens in the bedroom between two (or more for some people) consenting adults is no business of mine, even if I don't like it.
2007-09-04 07:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mutt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Though the term anti gay isn't really the best choice of words (might wanna rephrase that)I'd say tolerance.Human sexuality is very diverse and it's normal that you are repulsed by certain aspects that aren't your preference if you imagine doing them yourself.
I believe people are individuals and I'm quite certain things that certain straight people do to have a good time cause other straight people to feel grossed out when they think they'd have to do them themselves.A 100 percent straight guy can't ever understand how anyone could sleep with a guy yet his girlfriend or wife does.That's why what you personally find appealing or not repulsive for you is no basis for sexual tolerance.
I'm a huge supporter of sane,safe and consensual.Consenting adults should be the only norm the law judges sexual activity.
Limiting your tolerance to what you think is not repulsive would be having a very high opinion about yourself.What if we did that with food?
I can't stand certain vegetables,they gross me out.That's not an attack on the people who like them but it would be if I called people who enjoy that vegetable degenerates or worse just cos I get sick even thinking about eating them
2007-09-04 08:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by justgoodfolk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think it is tolerance or hypocrisy it’s more, and it would depend on the “ACT“.
In politics; I won’t care if a politician was homosexual but unfortunatly doing it secretively (being in the closet) opens that politician up for bribes and blackmail.
Personally I don’t want anyone’s sexuality in my face, gay or straight. So I think it also depends on the situation. I have gay friends and don’t care what they do in private but other then hand holding or maybe a kiss I don’t want their sexuality in my face. I ALSO feel the same way about my hetero friends.
Sex should just be more personal not public information like it has become. (if that makes sense)
2007-09-04 08:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by froghugger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't see it as either really. Hypocrisy? No, I don't need to 'change' my sexuality to relate to someone who has a different sexuality. Tolerance? No, I'm not a patient person, using the word 'tolerance' to describe how I relate to friends and people overall is condescending. I make my life choices for myself, based on my principles and I expect others to do the same. I see lifestyle as a matter that cannot be judged as 'right' or 'wrong' beyond whether or not it works for me, to do otherwise would be rude. What works for me does not work for everyone else, and vice-versa. Now if I'm hungry for a certain type of food, I'll do my damnedest to sway the group to my restaurant choice! :-)
2007-09-04 12:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by sagacious_ness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People focus too much on the 'gay act' of sex that's why they are repulsed. Most people who are anti gay rights focus way too much on the sex act. Even though I'm 100% heterosexual, I can honestly tell you that when I imagine some heterosexuals having sex I'm very repulsed as well. Yet, I tolerate them. LOL, If we're going to dwell on the sex act, perhaps the entire issue of sex between certain people should be questioned whether they are hetero or homo.
2007-09-04 07:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone does something I don't like or wouldn't do, but it doesn't affect me in any way, I would not consider that as a reason to not associate with that person. Heck, I even have friends who are Yankees fans. So is it tolerance? Probably not, since I'm not even caring about their sexual orientation. Is it hypocrisy? Once again, no, same reason.
2007-09-04 07:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Indoctrination. In my cult days, I believed the act was wrong because that's was I was told. But we were supposed to accept the "sinful" person and hate the act. (But to join the cult, one must not carry out the "sinful" act.)
Meanwhile, professionally I had friends who were gay... some of whom I didn't initially know were gay -- and why should I or anyone know or care about someone else's sexuality? And I was very "innocent" too. I was oblivious to things that might have seemed blatant to someone who was more sophisticated.
Now that I'm free of the cult and more "aware" of the choices of others, I still don't think it's my job to care about anyone's sexuality but my own.
But I recognize the indoctrination in others. My friends are my friends because of what goes on above the waist.
2007-09-04 08:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you believe the gay lifestyle is a choice or an innate characteristic. it also depends on if you feel you have the right to decide personal choices for other human beings. I suppose some people are able to separate behavior from the person. for me it depends on the behavior and whether or not it is hurting someone else. so I have no feelings really about the gay issue other than I don't see why it's such an issue.
2007-09-04 07:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its tolerance. I dont really like gay stuff but my step sister is a lesbian. I feel that as long as I dont know the details I can deal with it.
2007-09-04 07:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with having a gay friend, I just don't need to know he or she is gay. Why does someone feel compelled to tell me, I never ask. If they don't mention it, then it would never be a factor. I think they tell US because they want special privileges, otherwise, why do it. That is my problem with their choice, that they want something of which I feel compelled to give them nothing but contempt.
2007-09-04 07:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by libsticker 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋